The Healthy Self

Anxiety can be good because it protects us. However, too much anxiety without a specific reason is bad and it takes away from agency and gratitude. We have to understand the anxiety in order to deal with it.

Anxiety can be caused by our genes

• Humor: Cynicism and sarcasm can often be defense mechanisms. Humor can be used to feel better but as soon as it goes against another person, it is bad.
• Repetition compulsion: We often do things we know we shouldn't be doing. We repeat our toxic behav...

This is our actual engagement and our defense mechanisms in action. Our defense mechanisms can also work for us, for instance when using humor or when talking to people. However, most of the time they don't. Here are three common defense mechanisms.

• Projection

Our character structure includes for instance whether we prefer to socialise or isolate or what we use humor for.

Our character structure is mostly determined by action states, how we interact with the world and what actions we take.

By understanding the self we can u...

Our beliefs and internal narratives are extremely important to our mental health and people normally are aware of them but they are often not very healthy. It is hard to change our beliefs but through enough practice they can go away. Because we crave instant gra...

Confidence is the ability to handle situations. It can also be dependent on states: Are you confident in a specific area or in general?

You can ask yourself the same questions from above: What is your experience of being confident?

Too much confidence...