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Why Self-Help Might Actually Be Making You Less Happy

Too self-focused

In the self-help world, it is very common to say that you need to work on yourself before you can work on the world. It's not a stupid thing to say.

But, people are becoming too self-absorbed, looking only on themselves and forgetting to take an interest in the people around them. We actually need people who are brave enough also to take an interest in the broader structure.

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