Reflection on Treachery

Your inner critic may say, "It's your fault" for not meeting expectations. You blame yourself even if it's not your fault. For example, not earning a promotion, but then you fail to consider that many highly qualified candidates applied. The decision to promote a different applicant may have ...

The tendency to underestimate how long tasks will take to complete. 

On top of it, instead of accepting your own fault, you place the blame on outside factors such as delayed start dates or sick days.

• Blame is a good defense mechanism and protects your self-esteem by avoiding awareness of your own failings.
• Blame is a tool of attack that can hurt others and a destructive conflict resolution method.
• We’re bad at analyzing people's behavior, or even our own. The attributions...