We Do Not Cut the Branch, We Remove the Roots
When we try to change a behavior, we only focus on the behavior by committing to start or stop doing something.
- I am going to eat healthy and exercise every day starting tomorrow.
- I am going to quit smoking.
- I am not going to let others' opinions upset me.
We either never start or we fall back soon. This is because we are trying to cut the branch.
💡We have to figure out the root of our behavior.
❓What is the trigger?
❓What emotions do I feel in response to the trigger?
❓Is there a different way in which I can perceive the triggering events?
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Inspired by the book "Winning the War In Your Mind" by Craig Groeschel
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