It's Not On Them, It's On You - Day 114 - Deepstash

It's Not On Them, It's On You - Day 114

"If someone is slipping up, kindly correct them and point out what they missed. But if you can't, blame yourself-or no one." - Marcus

  • To be able to see that if a friend is unreliable, maybe it's because they don't know what's wrong or because we haven't tried to help them fix their flaw. If an employee is underperforming, just talk to them to figure out if they lack any support. If someone is being annoying, try talking to them about the problem with their behavior, or ask yourself: Why am I being so sensitive?
  • And if this doesn't work, try letting it go. It might be an isolated incident anyway.

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