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Dealing With Shame

Dealing With Shame

  • Don’t make it part of your identity. You are not a bad person just because you did something wrong. State the specific  behaviour instead of making global attributions about who you are as a person.
  • It is normal to experience failure. You are not the only person in the world feeling like that.
  • Treat yourself with self-compassion. What would you say to a loved one in your situation?
  • Talk to someone you trust about the thing you are ashamed of. They will probably show kindness and compassion.
  • How would the person you want to be deal with this? What could you do that would make you feel proud?


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Psychology student with a passion for learning and developing as a person.

Dr. Julie Smith offers tools and knowledge from therapy to deal with emotions and life circumstances effectively, covering a huge variety of topics such as stress, confidence, low mood, anxiety, motivation, relationships etc.

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