4. Focus on Identity - Deepstash

4. Focus on Identity

Think about the kind of person you want to become.

Instead of saying, "I want to run," say, "I am a runner." This shift in mindset helps you embody the habit.

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Think about your daily routine. Maybe you want to be better at studying, get fitter, or spend more time on hobbies. Sometimes, making these changes can feel overwhelming, like you need to overhaul your entire life. But what if you only needed to make tiny changes to see big results over time? That’s the idea behind "Atomic Habits." Small habits, repeated consistently, can lead to significant transformations.

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Focus on behavior, not character

For example, in saying "You were lazy in preparing this report" you may think you are helping the other person to improve a skills; instead, it addresses your assumption about the person's attitude toward their work.

Ask identity questions

Identity questions help your friend get in touch with the values that make them the person they are. 

“What is really important to you?"; “What kind of life do you want to lead?”; and, "What kind of person do you want to become?"

7. Listen Closely To Words

7. Listen Closely To Words

  • By listening closely to what people have to say, you shift your attention from your thoughts to the person speaking.
  • This practice works for social anxiety as well and you can use it to overcome the fear of talking to people. Instead of being entangled in thoughts like "what do I hav...

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