You have to take responsibility for your emotions. Other people don’t make you feel anything – you control your reaction and outcome. You are in control of everything.

Never give up. You might feel like you’re stuck now, but things will get better. Your life is worth living.

You can’t always rely on the truth of what you’re immediately presented with.

Confidence isn't the 'they will like me', confidence is 'i'll be fine if they don't.'

It’s important to understand that emotionally abusive language doesn’t always sound abusive.

It can sometimes feel impossible to get out of a toxic relationship, especially if you love that person (and even if you don’t).

Everything can change and YOU can change it. It’s totally possible that if you work on yourself and you make the decision to change, one day you will feel completely different to the way you do right now.

You don’t need to have another half. You are a whole person all by yourself. A good partner will just add on to that.

But it’s all about shifting your perception of what success is and not measuring it by others’ achievements. There are loads of different ways to mark success.So whatever you want to do with your life, do it because YOU want to do it. Don’t get caught up in living someone else’s dream, or competing against someone else’s achievements.

When you understand yourself better, you can communicate better with the people you love, too, strengthening those foundations.

One friend can't give you everything you need.

<ol><li>Find something that excites you, something that you are genuinely interested in doing.</li><li>Say yes to the random things that might come, take a chance on something new. You never know where things might lead.</li><li>If you really want something, you’ve got to put in the hours and the effort. Don’t be scared to fail, you’ll be proud you tried.</li><li>It’s your own unique personality that is your biggest asset. Being your authentic self is the best thing you can be.</li><li>Career success means nothing unless you’re happy with yourself, too. Other people’s successes are not your failures – we are all on our own path. </li></ol>

WorkLife Lessons

Life is messy. Every part of our life is a little piece of a jigsaw puzzle, and we only work well when the puzzle fits together.

Life really is too short to live through other people’s optics. It’s all in your own imagination, anyway. So what’s the point in worrying? And WHO CARES? Your life is yours.

<ul><li>There is NO SUCH THING as a one 'perfect' body shape.</li><li>Don't base your self-esteem on clothing sizes-they differ and it's meaningless.</li><li>Don't surround yourself with people that judge others for their size or looks - and don't be that person, either.</li><li>Embrace your natural body size. Love it.</li><li>All shapes and sizes are beautiful.</li><li>Appreciate your body for what it does for you. It looks after you, so look after it.</li></ul>

BUSTING BODY MYTHS

The one question to ask yourself about any relationship:What would you say to a friend if they were going through the same thing? Sometimes you don’t realise how f**ked up someone is treating you until you’re explaining it to someone else. So, talk to each other. Don’t judge too much. Listen. Be open.

<ol><li>Don’t let others’ opinions of you be your opinion of yourself.</li><li>A real friend just wants the best for you.</li><li>You don't know what other people are going through, so don't judge so quickly.</li><li>You'll lose friends, you'll fall out with people and that's ok.</li><li>The greatest gift you can give somebody is your attention.</li><li>To be inherently kind is to be a good friend.</li></ol>

FRIENDSHIP TRUTHS

<ul><li>Dismissive towards your feelings</li><li>Lie to you</li><li>Take the piss out of you in front of others to get attention</li><li>Change their personality around different people</li><li>Oblivious to how they make you feel</li><li>Always on their phone when they're with you.</li><li>Never ask how you're doing.</li></ul>

TOXIC FRIENDS

THE SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER Sometimes it feels so hard to love yourself. We worry that we're not good enough or we're being selfish if we take time to prioritise what we need. But self-love is so important and even if we're our own biggest critic, it can be done! You deserve better xxx Hands up if you're fed up with being told you need to go on this diet, you need to behave this way, or you probably shouldn't wear this outfit...the list goes ooooon. Anne-Marie's been told these things her whole life too and they didn't make her feel any better. But now, she's discovered the simple tools that mean she treats herself with the love and respect she needs and this, in turn, means she's able to go out into the world and be as strong, confident and true to herself as she can be. And she wants YOU to be able to do the same. You Deserve Better is the must-read book from singer-songwriter Anne-Marie that doesn't give you fluffy promises about self-care but speaks honestly about body image, mental health, being successful at work and more. It's the real advice that every person needs to hear to be happier in themselves and in the world. Cause you know what? YOU DESERVE BETTER.

ANNE-MARIE

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