DR. JULIE SMITH

Validate, acknowledge, and reassure yourself.

If you wouldn't say it to a friend, don't say it to yourself. We would seldom tell a friend 'it's not that bad', or 'look on the bright side.' We need to recognise within ourselves when we're hurting.

Decrease it’s negativity by imagining you are saying your self-talk to a friend. If you know you wouldn't say it in a certain way, think of how you'd share it instead or what you'd like a good friend to say to you. 

The key take away from this episode is: talk to yourself lile a friend. If I am going to ask you, if you're friend fails in something, do you say bad things to them? No. The speaker suggests that when we experience bad times, we should talk to ourselves like a friend because we will never talk ba...