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How to Cope With Intrusive Thoughts

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Think Like a Friend

Think Like a Friend

Decrease it’s negativity by imagining you are saying your self-talk to a friend. If you know you wouldn't say it in a certain way, think of how you'd share it instead or what you'd like a good friend to say to you. 

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Change Negativity To Neutrality

Change Negativity To Neutrality

It can be hard to force yourself to stop a train of thought. An easier alternative is to change the intensity of your language, thus muting its power.

"I can't stand this" becomes, "This is challenging. " "I hate... " becomes, "I don't like... " and even, "I don't prefer... "

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Notice And Stop That Thought

Notice And Stop That Thought

Simply stopping negative thoughts in their tracks can be helpful. This is known as "thought-stopping" and can take the form of snapping a rubber band on your wrist, visualizing a stop sign, or simply changing to another thought when a negative train of thought enters your mind.

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Shift Your Perspective

Shift Your Perspective

Sometimes looking at things in the long term can help you to realize that you may be placing too great an emphasis on something. Shift your perspective by imagining that you are panning out and looking at your problems from a great distance.

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Cross-Examine Your Inner Critic

Cross-Examine Your Inner Critic

Catch your negative self-talk and ask yourself how true it is. The vast majority of negative self-talk is an exaggeration, and calling yourself on this can help to decrease its damaging influence.

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Contain Your Negativity

Contain Your Negativity

You can limit the negativity by setting up a maximum time for self-criticism or only allowing self-criticism to certain things in your life.

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Give Your Inner Critic a Nickname

Give Your Inner Critic a Nickname

When you think of your inner critic as a force outside of yourself and even give it a goofy nickname, it's easier to realize that you don't have to agree, and it becomes less threatening and more easy to see how ridiculous some of your critical thoughts can be.

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Replace The Bad With Some Good

Replace The Bad With Some Good

Take a negative thought and change it to something encouraging that's also accurate. Repeat until you find yourself needing to do it less and less often. 

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Thoughts And Feelings Aren't Reality

Thoughts And Feelings Aren't Reality

Your thoughts and feelings about yourself can't be considered accurate information. Your thoughts can be skewed like everyone else's, subject to biases and the influence of your moods.

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Say It Out Loud

Say It Out Loud

Telling a trusted friend what you're thinking about can often lead to support or a good laugh when the negative self-talk is ridiculous. Even saying some negative self-talk phrases under your breath can remind you how unreasonable and unrealistic they sound, and remind you to give y...

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"What Would My Best Friend Say?"

Decrease self-talk by imagining what someone you trust would say to you about it. Or if you use the same wording you use to self-criticize to criticize a friend in the same situation.

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The key take away from this episode is: talk to yourself lile a friend. If I am going to ask you, if you're friend fails in something, do you say bad things to them? No. The speaker suggests that when we experience bad times, we should talk to ourselves like a friend because we will never talk ba...

Treat Yourself Like A Friend

Treat Yourself Like A Friend

If you catch yourself on a self-deprecating rant, check in with yourself and ask, “Would I say this to _____? ” If the answer is “no, ” then you don’t deserve to be spoken to in that way either. Don’t let these insults pass without defending yourself against your own negative self-talk.

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