Like Talking to a friend

Decrease it’s negativity by imagining you are saying your self-talk to a friend. If you know you wouldn't say it in a certain way, think of how you'd share it instead or what you'd like a good friend to say to you. 

Validate, acknowledge, and reassure yourself.

If you wouldn't say it to a friend, don't say it to yourself. We would seldom tell a friend 'it's not that bad', or 'look on the bright side.' We need to recognise within ourselves when we're hurting.

No matter what's going on in your life, good or bad, this type of friend will never ask you anything about it. 

He is either: extremely self-absorbed and only wants to talk about himself, he usually avoids getting to close to people or he really thinks you're self-absorbed and doesn'...