Good values are reasonable, helpful, and under your control. Your life will be full and meaningful if you focus on these ideals.

Prioritise Values

Mark Manson's book teaches that the key to happiness in life is not to care more, but to carefully pick out what really needs your attention.

Simplify Your Focus

“The key to a good life is not giving a fck about more; it’s giving a fck about less.”

“We are responsible for experiences that aren’t our fault all the time. This is life.”

Manson stresses that the hard things in life are important and can't be avoided. When you enjoy dealing with these problems, you find real happiness and growth.

Embrace Challenges

Manson says that failure is the way to success and that you grow when you accept mistakes and doubt instead of avoiding them.

Growth Through Mistakes

“Who you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for.”

“Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience.”

“Values you must accept to lead a good life: reality-based, constructive, socially supportive, immediate and controllable.”

“Don’t hope for a life without problems. There’s no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.”

The book highlights accepting responsibility for everything that happens in life, whether it's your fault or not, to empower yourself and solve problems.

Take Responsibility

Forget about always being positive; Manson wants people to accept things as they are and make changes. He says that accepting bad things that happen in life makes life more positive.

Realistic Positivity

Mark Manson's book teaches us to focus on what truly matters and embrace life's struggles to find real happiness.

#1 New York Times BestsellerOver 10 million copies soldIn this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

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Mark Manson (born 1984) is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries. He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net

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