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Circle of Control vs. Circle of Concern

Circle of Control vs. Circle of Concern

You should search only for helpful information that you can and will apply to your life far more often than you let random information interrupt you.

The Circle of Control is anything that relates directly to you, information that improves how you spend your time.

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Are You Cultivating Knowledge or Consuming Information?

Are You Cultivating Knowledge or Consuming Information?

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Quality output demands quality input

Among the catastrophic debates over how TV and the Internet are making us mindless robots, the real problem to keep in mind: we need to cultivate more than we consume.

Double sword technology

The idea of evaluating how we spend our time is a healthy one, but the discussion usually looks more like an apocalyptic prediction than actual useful advice.

What we tend to leave out is the fact that emerging technologies are a double-edged sword: the internet can both be a mindless distraction and the greatest educational tool of all times. It all revolves around the way you use it.

Excessive passivity

This is the habit of only consuming the information that is brought in front of you, rather than actively cultivating knowledge in areas that are valuable to you.

Addressing this problem can be done in a pragmatic way: consider it a habit audit, or an honest look at how you are spending your time.

Circle of Control vs. Circle of Concern

You should search only for helpful information that you can and will apply to your life far more often than you let random information interrupt you.

The Circle of Control is anything that relates directly to you, information that improves how you spend your time.

Evaluate how you spend your time

99% of the information you see won’t matter to you.

Understanding where your time is going is far more important and useful than demonizing TV, the Internet, or mainstream news.

Expanding your Circle of Control

Reduce irrelevant information and spend more time exploring the topics relevant to you, by:

  • Improving job skills.
  • Experimenting with new interests.
  • Creating more work/art.
  • Getting intentional with your learning.

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