“Change” means changing your identity

“Change” means changing your identity

It’s one thing to say, “I want to start going to the gym weekly.” It’s another to say, “It’s time to change and become the type of person who goes to the gym weekly.”

The second implies that to go to the gym, you must completely reinvent yourself. And that raises the emotional stakes massively.

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Stop Trying to Change Yourself

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There are just people who go to the gym.

Similarly, there’s no such thing as a “productive person.” There are just people who do productive things fairly often.

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Stop Trying to Change Yourself

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The beliefs you have about yourself can drive your long-term behavior.

You could trick yourself into going to the gym or eating healthy once or twice, but if you don't shift your underlying identity, then it's hard to stick with long-term changes.

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How to Change Your Beliefs and Stick to Your Goals for Good

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Motivated By Positive Emotions

Negative emotions may trigger us to think about everything we’re not doing, or feel like we’re doing wrong, but they're ineffective for making changes that stick. Real change needs a positive platform to launch from; we need positive, self-edifying reasons for taking on the challenge.

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Eight Reasons Why It's So Hard To Really Change Your Behavior

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