- We risk missing out on happiness if we focus too much on pursuing it. 💔 Instead, we should focus on finding meaning and purpose in our lives. 🌟Potential reasons for this include:<ol><li>Being too busy evaluating our happiness instead of experiencing it 🤔</li><li>Spend too much time striving for peak happiness while overlooking the fact that happiness depends more on the frequency of positive emotions 😊</li><li>Overemphasizing pleasure at the expense of purpose 🚫</li><li>Western individualistic views leaving us lonely 😞</li></ol>🔑 The key to happiness is finding meaning and purpose, rather than solely chasing pleasure.

Finding Meaning and Purpose for Happiness

A plan for your life "is like driving at night in the fog. You can only see as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.

Focusing on results might be good for short-term performance, but it can be an obstacle to long-term learning.

A good process is grounded in deep thinking and rethinking, enabling people to form and express independent opinions.

“You can't get away from yourself by moving from one place to another."Our happiness often depends more on what we do than where we are. It's our actions-not our surroundings-that bring us meaning and belonging.

When we pursue happiness, we often start by changing our sur- roundings. We expect to find bliss in a warmer climate or a friendlier dorm, but any joy that those choices bring about is typically temporary.

In learning cultures, the norm is for people to know what they don't know, doubt their existing practices, and stay curious about new routines to try out.In learning cultures, people don't stop keeping score. They expand the scorecard to consider processes as well as outcomes.

The process of motivational interviewing involves three key techniques:<ul><li>﻿Asking open-ended questions</li><li>Engaging in reflective listening</li><li>Affirming the person's desire and ability to change</li></ul>

We don’t have to convince them we’re right- we open their minds to the possibility that they might be wrong.

1. Point out that there are areas where we agree and acknowledge (encourage them to follow).2. Support our argument with a small number of reasons (encourage them to start doubting their own opinions).3. Ask genuine questions (leave them intrigued and wanting to learn more).

Techniques During a Disagreement

﻿As stereotypes stick and prejudice deepens, we don't just identify with our own group; we disidentify with our adversaries, coming to define who we are by what we're not. We don't just preach the virtues of our side; we find self-worth in prosecuting the vices of our rivals

#1 New York Times Bestseller “THIS. This is the right book for right now. Yes, learning requires focus. But, unlearning and relearning requires much more—it requires choosing courage over comfort. In Think Again, Adam Grant weaves together research and storytelling to help us build the intellectual and emotional muscle we need to stay curious enough about the world to actually change it. I’ve never felt so hopeful about what I don’t know.” —Brené Brown, Ph.D., #1 New York Times bestselling author of Dare to Lead The bestselling author of Give and Take and Originals examines the critical art of rethinking: learning to question your opinions and open other people's minds, which can position you for excellence at work and wisdom in life Intelligence is usually seen as the ability to think and learn, but in a rapidly changing world, there's another set of cognitive skills that might matter more: the ability to rethink and unlearn. In our daily lives, too many of us favor the comfort of conviction over the discomfort of doubt. We listen to opinions that make us feel good, instead of ideas that make us think hard. We see disagreement as a threat to our egos, rather than an opportunity to learn. We surround ourselves with people who agree with our conclusions, when we should be gravitating toward those who challenge our thought process. The result is that our beliefs get brittle long before our bones. We think too much like preachers defending our sacred beliefs, prosecutors proving the other side wrong, and politicians campaigning for approval--and too little like scientists searching for truth. Intelligence is no cure, and it can even be a curse: being good at thinking can make us worse at rethinking. The brighter we are, the blinder to our own limitations we can become. Organizational psychologist Adam Grant is an expert on opening other people's minds--and our own. As Wharton's top-rated professor and the bestselling author of Originals and Give and Take, he makes it one of his guiding principles to argue like he's right but listen like he's wrong. With bold ideas and rigorous evidence, he investigates how we can embrace the joy of being wrong, bring nuance to charged conversations, and build schools, workplaces, and communities of lifelong learners. You'll learn how an international debate champion wins arguments, a Black musician persuades white supremacists to abandon hate, a vaccine whisperer convinces concerned parents to immunize their children, and Adam has coaxed Yankees fans to root for the Red Sox. Think Again reveals that we don't have to believe everything we think or internalize everything we feel. It's an invitation to let go of views that are no longer serving us well and prize mental flexibility over foolish consistency. If knowledge is power, knowing what we don't know is wisdom.

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Adam Grant is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Adam Grant has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Adam Grant's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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