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How to Fight off Your Inner Critic

The fear of being alone

Concentrate on the people with very big hearts. Be honest with them about your pain - they'll find their way to you.

Thinking no one could ever love you sounds very tempting, but that can't be the truth. You've suffered, and you're honest and can be kind. That's enough for someone to stick with you.

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