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When Do We Have Enough?
A sense of 'enough'
Enough is defined as 'as much as is necessary or to the degree needed.' But what's necessary or needed is often exchanged for what will bring us short-lived satisfaction: we focus on how we'll achieve our next milestone or seek bigger living spaces.
As we continually extend the bounds of enough, we might lose sight of what really matters: the roof over our head, the clothes on our body, a reliable means for transportation, a clean bill of health, the food on our table.
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