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9 Subtle Lies We All Tell Ourselves

Common lies we tell ourselves

  • If I had more time, I would do X.
  • If I say or do X, people will think I’m stupid.
  • If I just say or do X, then that person will finally change.
  • Everything is great/Everything sucks.
  • There’s something inherently wrong or different about me.
  • I would change, but I can’t because of X.
  • I can’t live without X.
  • I know what I’m doing.

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By lying to ourselves we mortgage our long-term needs in order to fulfill our short-term desires. Therefore, one could say personal growth is merely the process of learning to lie to oneself les...

By lying to ourselves we mortgage our long-term needs in order to fulfill our short-term desires. Therefore, one could say personal growth is merely the process of learning to lie to oneself less.  - Mark Manson

Common lies we tell ourselves

  • If I had more time, I would do X.
  • If I say or do X, people will think I’m stupid.
  • If I just say or do X, then that person will finally change.
  • Everything is great/Everything sucks.
  • There’s something inherently wrong or different about me.
  • I would change, but I can’t because of X.
  • I can’t live without X.
  • I know what I’m doing.

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