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Max Johnston
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The “It’s happening again!” trigger for anger
Thinking, "I'm getting angry again" is a strong trigger for overly intense anger.
When this happens, the negative feelings that we associate with this thought make our emotional reactions worse. Common feelings include shame, guilt, feelings of inadequacy. If we know we have not made peace with our past hurts, we are more likely to experience this emotional reaction.
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