Getting angry is about facing some form of perceived threat. It also involves a knee-jerk reaction to negative feelings such as shame, guilt, anxiety, powerlessness, rejection, or feelings of inadequacy.
Anger is often caused by impulsive judgment about an event or behaviors.
Thinking, "I'm getting angry again" is a strong trigger for overly intense anger.
When this happens, the negative feelings that we associate with this thought make our emotional reactions worse. Common feelings include shame, guilt, feelings of inadequacy. If we know we have not made peace with our past hurts, we are more likely to experience this emotional reaction.
This process requires us to pause and reflect on our internal experiences.