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What Love Really Is – and Why It Matters

The spirit of love

Nothing is more important than the love that rescues nations from intolerance, which slows wars, calms furies, and allows civilisation to continue. True love is not giving someone what their due is, but what they need in order to survive.

True love acknowledges how much we may one day stand in need of this form of love. Perhaps we may become people who know how to love properly. We may make an effort to extend love to others who have themselves failed so that society can become a less frightening place for all.

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