Learning to speak up: taking an outsider's perspective

Speaking up can be far easier when you see the world from someone else's perspective.

For example, understanding what someone else goes through who is being bullied or assaulted will give you the courage to stand up for wrong behavior.

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What Do We Learn from Our Networks?

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In his lab at Yale, Nicholas A. Christakis investigates the biological origins of our social networks, the web of relationships that we form with family, friends, co-workers, and others. He talked to Yale Insights about how ideas and behaviors spread through networks, and how leaders can shape networks to make their organizations happier and more effective.

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Social networks have a strong effect on our ideas

You may think it was your idea to keep your desk neat or speak up in a meeting, but your behavior was likely influenced by those in your network.

Once we understand social network...

A network is more than just a group of individuals

In addition, a network has ties between people.

The connections between individuals are what changes a group to a network.

We naturally copy others

Your experiences in the world is not only a product of your own desires, actions, and thoughts, but also a product of the desires, actions, and thoughts of people around you.

The things that are seemingly personal to you are actually very strongly influenced by similar traits in other people. You do have agency. You can choose what to do. But you're also affected by what others are doing. Both are true.

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How to Be Assertive and Stand up for Yourself the Smart Way

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We've all experienced those situations where something is said that feels out of turn and borders on being offensive. The derogatory comments, aggressive taunts, hurtful judgments and criticisms can stun us like a deer in the headlights.

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Learning to be assertive

Being assertive means learning to manage your energy, plan your approach and craft your message in a way that maximizes potential for the other person, to be open to receiving and accepting it.
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Acknowledge and don't react

Make it known you noticed that underhanded insinuation by pausing and directing your attention to it.
Calmly state you will revisit what they said, the action they took or the decision they made at another point. And you don’t ask it as a question; you make a statement.

Pause and reflect to gain clarity

Give yourself space to come to terms with what you experienced before being able to consider what action to take next.

Get clear on your values. It’s important that you understand within yourself first, the nature and reason behind the battle you choose to fight.

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Public Speaking Tips: The Ultimate Guide From Brian Tracy

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I've had a wonderful motivational speaking career that has spanned for over 30 years. There are hundreds of public speaking tips I've learned along the way. I'm going to share as many of them with you as I can.

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Voice as an important tool

Your voice influences the impact of your speech and can make or break its success.
With some guidance, you can learn to use your voice to increase your power and persuasiveness in a...

Improve Your Public Speaking Voice

Slow Down when you speak. Your listeners have an opportunity to absorb and reflect on what you’re saying.
Use Voice Exercises to strengthen your voice.
Record And Listen To Your Voice. Look for ways to improve your pronunciation, your delivery, and your pacing.
Record Phone Conversations. Replay to hear different ways that you could improve your delivery and articulation next time.
Focus On Pauses. The drama and power of a speech are contained in the silences that you create as you move from point to point.
Eat And Drink Well. Energy is essential for good speaking and voice projection. Cold water can chill your vocal chords and decrease the amount of warmth in your voice.