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5 Self-Destructive Habits of Chronically Unhappy People
Not knowing how to forgive
Forgiveness is essential for your emotional growth. Forgiveness does not mean putting yourself in a position to be hurt by the same person over and over. It means acknowledging that you were wronged, then putting it behind you and moving on with your life.
How to forgive:
- Forgiveness means letting go of the anger and pain and moving on to a better place mentally.
- Commit to stop focusing on past experience.
- Resentments can break a relationship. Choose to focus on your positive experiences instead.
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"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity. An optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty. ..."
Winston Churchill
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"I am a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it."
If you are unhappy
... you have 2 options:
- You can complain about it and hope it magically changes.
- You can set out to make a change.
If you are unhappy you owe it to yourself to make a change -- life is too short to delay any longer.
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Happy people are responsible
- They don't hold on to grudges. Forgiving and forgetting is absolutely necessary.
- They don't make excuses. They use failure as an opportunity to change for the better.
Happy people are well rounded people
- They savor the moment. They "stop to smell the roses".
- They're busy, but not rushed. A healthy work-life balance is key.
- They don't sweat the small stuff. They focus only of what is important and within their control.
Happy people invest in their relationships
- They spend money on others. One reason is that it creates social connections.
- They celebrate other people's success through "active and constructive" responding.
- They treat everyone with respect and kindness. Kindness, like happiness, is contagious.
- They're proactive about relationships. They work on maintaining their relationships.
- They express gratitude. It improves mood and energy and decreases anxiety.
- They engage in deep, meaningful conversations.
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Diffuse the fear of being rejected
... by acknowledging and expecting it can and will hurt.
To overcome the sting of rejection, stop trying to avoid feeling that stings. Stop pretending your unaffect...
Interrupting rumination
Make a contract with your partner, family, and friends allowing them to catch you in the throes of verbal diarrhea when you were unfairly treated.
Work out three or four different activities that will distract you and turn your attention to something productive.
Regulate the number of rejection opportunities
... you expose yourself to.
We all have a different threshold of the amount of rejection we can handle. Wisely considering how much more you can handle is essential.
Before you take another step forward, ask yourself if you have the right resources and support in place to catch you.