deepstash
Beta
Many of us have a little bit of hoarder inside us - here’s what to do |
Hoarding: A Short-Term Buzz
We like to accumulate stuff as we believe it makes us (or others) happier, though it is just a short-term feeling. Most of us do not realize the fickleness and subjectivity of the value of the hoarded object. The flipside to this is that hoarders collect a lot of ‘junk’ and live with a lot of stuff they don’t really need.
Real contentment and satisfaction don't come from collecting things, but from the time we spend with our loved ones, the great relationships we have, or even a new place that we visit.
88 SAVES
SIMILAR ARTICLES & IDEAS:
The Desire to Look Good
The basic human desire to look good gets in the way of active listening and speaking towards your audience.
It can be deflating to be with people who act like they know everything and are ...
The Need to Be Right
Compelling the other person to be wrong is a terrible trait to have and can be extremely destructive in relationships. This need usually stems from the fear of being disrespected or from the fear of being seen for who you are, a flawed person that makes mistakes and is imperfect just like everyone else.
This behavior brings forth behavior that may cause anger and resentment to arise, interruption. The interrupter doesn't listen and exerts dominance while the interrupted feels belittled.
People Pleasing
People who are driven by pleasing people are neither honest or authentic because they may say yes to things they don't really want to do just because they do not want to disagree because of the fear of being disliked.
If you find yourself to be a people-pleaser, rethink your values and ask yourself these:
- What do I stand for?
- What is most important to me in life?
- What is not negotiable?
When you have your core values clear, you won't be easily shaken by other's opinions or needs.
We All Are Time Poor
Most of us are ‘time poor’ and have deep-rooted habits, priorities and belief patterns that are no longer relevant. We always feel rushed and are in misery as we become less productive, less happy ...
Time Traps: Wasting Precious Time
Time traps happen when we don’t value the hours that are available to us, and waste the free time that we have earned using technology and lifestyle conveniences.
We value our comfort but have no idea on how to value the limited number of days we have in our lives. The result is that we feel time poor, even with more time in our hands than the previous generations.
The Autonomy Paradox: Technology Interruptions
Technology has made many changes in our lives that save us a huge amount of time, yet the same technology takes away the extra time, something known as the autonomy paradox.
Our devices, with their constant notifications, are taxing our cognitive abilities, making our attention and focus divided and distracted, while making us waste our precious time. Add to this the opportunity cost we pay, as we could have easily benefited by doing something healthy or productive in that time.
Time is irrelevant to grief
Mourning the loss of a loved one isn't efficient or logical. It is different for each person. Grief can feel better and worse as time goes by.
We can not relegate all our heaviest grie...
The adage "time heals all wounds"
Time heals physical wounds, but not mental or emotional wounds. Time reminds us of the past.
If you're still sad, that's because it's still real. They are still real. Time can change you, but it can't change them.
Advice for the grief adjacent
You may be tempted to tell the grieving to "move on."
But we do not move on from the dead people we love or the difficult situations we've lived through. We move forward, but we carry it all with us. Some of it gets easier, and some of it not. We are shaped by the people we love, and we are shaped by their loss.