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Saying Stuff We Regret

Saying Stuff We Regret
  • We are all social creatures, susceptible to say something that may offend others.
  • We blurt out stuff, and it is at most a harmless mistake to us, but words hurt others more than anything.
  • The wound our words make is an internal one and as needs a ‘repair’ process that is not like simply apologizing when we accidently bump into someone on the elevator.

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