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Thinking “If I can just have X, then I’ll be happy”

Goals are great to have. You will be aimless without them. But goals do have some dangers. At times we become so obsessed with our goals that we sacrifice other parts of our life. And when we achieve our goals, if we're too invested in them, we feel empty afterwards.

Goals cannot make you happy. Goals are a means to an end, not an end in themselves. They are only supposed to give some direction.

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The reasoning behind this belief is that if you believe you know what you're doing, you'll have more confidence, and you'll do it better.

This may sound nice at first glance, but confidence can also make us justify our own position. We'll be less open to constructive feedba...

We can never be 100% right about anything. There is always room for improvement. If your dating life is a continuous disaster, consider your beliefs about relationships, for example, believing that people are only interested in relationships for what they can get out of it. Or, i...

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