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How to Deal With Someone Who Keeps Undermining You at Work

Difficult Work Relationships: Acknowledge, Smile, and Move On

If your fight mode has been activated when dealing with someone that is undermining your work, don't let it eat you up entirely, instead, try to ask what they meant by their backhanded compliment.

Keep focused on staying calm so that you can address the root of the problem and not add gasoline to the fire. If they still do not want to change their mind about you, smile, move on, and be the bigger person.

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