They are never easy go spot. In public, or at work, or even the person who introduced the two of you they can seem smart, trustworthy, and charming. They have a personality that draws people in. But as mentioned before in private a walking nightmare. Many abusers learn violence from their family and repeat the toxic patterns with their partner or children. They also are more likely to have legal it substance abuse problems.

Identifying an abusive Partner 

Every relationship is different. Every person experience a different abuse. But nobe of it is right. Some perpetrators use children, pets, or other family members as an emotional leverage to get their victim to do what they want.These victims take on so much.That over a period of time it is their reality because their trying to survive and doing as their told by their abuser is the only way to survive.So many victims suffer long term from year's and years of living like this.

Undergoing Abuse

Each abuser is different that's what makes each case of domestic violence different.Some abusers isolate their victims from family and friends, work, any other outside functions. An then you have some who are the complete opposite.You have some who don't even care who knows that abuse theirr partner. Or speaks to them like their scum or like their daddy.Some abusers have explosive tempers and become violent during an abusive episode; afterwards they become remorseful and try to woo their affection and promises to change, but the abusive behavior rarely stops.

How they Act

There is over 64 signs of mental abuse. It can be easy to miss the persistent undercurrent if abuse. Emotional abuser involves z person acting in a way to control, isolate, or scare you to death. These forms of abuse can be:<ul><li>Statements</li><li>Threats</li><li>Actions </li></ul>There also may be a pattern or regularity to the behavior. Learning more about the signs and situations in which emotional abuse may occur can help more people identify their situation and to seek help if they need too.

Emotional Abuse 

It is the most common cause of of injury for women, leading to even more injuries than car accidents.People don't realize how serious this matter is. But it's bigger than you can even imagine.It's not just the abuse to the victim, but for those who have children. Imagine the pain, the fear that they endure everyday and every night. Probably dreading to go home to watch their father/boyfriend beat on their mother.

Domestic Violence 

"Sometimes the shsm is not the bestings, not the rape. The shaming is in being asked to stand judgement."

﻿"The more we cchoose not to talk about domestic violence, the more we shy away from the issue, the more we lose."

Men ofte do not report domestic violence due to: <ul><li>Fear </li><li>Shame </li><li>Denial</li><li>Stigma</li><li>Lack of equal treatment </li></ul>Men normally minimize the abuse to protect themselves. They fear that they might be laughed at, humiliated, or reversely accused of being the abuser since men are capable if fighting back.

Challenges Men Face 

It's not just woman who can be victims of domestic violence. Men may experience domestic violence as well. Which can include:<ul><li>Stalking </li><li>Sexual assault </li><li>Physical violence </li></ul>There has been cases where men experience the physical abuse that we see a lot in victims of woman. 28% of men experience intimate partner violence in the U.S. Men face distinct hurdles getting help because they can be pathologized, not believed, or denied assistance from shelters created for women.

Men are victims too

"Never let someone who contributes so little to a relationship control so much."

This is the only book on the market today that focuses on the entire spectrum of emotional, verbal, sexual, and physical abuse. Written by University of Utah Clinical Associate Professor Elaine Weiss, a survivor, the book goes right to the heart of the reader and changes their perspective on this topic. She paints a clear picture of women who stay in a marriage because of their fierce loyalty and commitment to the sanctity of marriage. Elaine emphasizes the period of time after women leave their abuser and describes in detail what they go on to do with their lives. These are stories of twelve women from various walks of life, including professionals. Each a victim of domestic violence. Each escaped from her abuser. Each reclaimed her dignity, reconstructed her life, rediscovered peace. Every woman who has left an abuserevery woman who has yet to leavewill find encouragement and support in the voices of these women who broke free.

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This book tells the stories of 12 women who were victims of domestic violence and who escaped from their abusers to reclaim their dignity and reconstruct their life. The author traveled throughout the United States to interview women who were once in abusive relationships, who left their abusers, and who went on to reconstruct their lives. At first glance, the women who shared their stories with the author appeared to have little in common. They came from all walks of life; some women were well-educated while others barely finished high school and some came from wealthy families while others came from poor families. Some women witnessed terrifying family violence as children while others never heard an angry word, some women were raised by supportive families while others were raised by distant families, and the women came from many different community settings. The abuse inflicted on the women took different forms--physical, sexual, and/or psychological. The stories of the 12 women focus on the corrosive aspects of abuse that represented a daily threat to the women involved, the humiliation and fear caused by the abuse, and the resources and strength of the women who managed to escape from their abusive situations. The stories indicate the women had much in common; they were all in abusive relationships with men and they were determined to reconstruct their lives.

MEENA KANDASAMY

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