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You end up disobeying yourself
It is not beneficial when, at times, it could prevent us from doing things that we should do — like be helpful to others.
This affects you deeply when you are trying to make, commitments and set goals dor yourself. Example, that impulse of “don’t tell me what to do!” can kick in even when it’s you telling yourself what to do.
This is because, it doesn’t feel like you telling yourself what to do. Rather it’s you from the past, when you made your schedule, telling yourself what to do right now.
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Key life examples
Psychological reactance is why you hate it when your manager asks you to do a task and you feel you are being micromanaged. However, realtization dawns on you that the task was critical to your work and professional growth.
We often do things against our best interests bec...
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Not something bad, but...
Psychological reactance isn’t really bad.
If you comply everytime with rules and instructions, you tend to be more vulnerable to manipulation.
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Change begins with your view
With an awareness about psychological reactance, you have the power to recognize and disarm it.
Instead of flaking on commitments because of a knee-jerk feeling, you can change your perspective on the situation.
By changing the dialogue, you empower yourself. Now you’re in charge. Yo...
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Why we do the opposite of what we are supposed to do
We hate the feeling of being bossed around, even when doing as we’re told is good for us.
Psychological reactance is our knee-jerk negative reaction to being told what to do.
Based on research, almost everyone has this mental reflex against being told what to do, esp...
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Allow yourself to be unhappy
Wanting to get away from the unhappiness doesn’t make it better. It usually just prolongs the pain.
Instead, tell yourself that it’s OK to feel unhappy. Pause and allow yourself to feel it, to fully immerse in that unhappiness. Be curious about it, explore it, become intimate with it...
Some more questions to ask yourself
You can also ask yourself these questions:
When did I first want this?
Was I influenced by somebody else telling me this was a good thing?
What do I think this thing will really bring me?
Do I think it will ...
Speak up for yourself
Some people with narcissistic personalities enjoy making others squirm. Try not to get visibly flustered or show annoyance, as that will only urge them to continue.
If it’s someone you’d like to keep close in your life, then you owe it to yourself to speak up. Try to do this in a calm, g...
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