Making big life decisions with no regrets

  1. Make sure to spend time thinking about your decisions twice or thrice, but don't let it eat you up.
  2. Stop undermining your relationships, both romantic and platonic.
  3. Learn how to seize opportunities. You can't go back in time. Whatever you choose to do, whether study or travel or both, your experiences are your own.
  4. Lay down your personal values and make decisions based on them. As long as you have a good justification for a decision to be made now, at least you won't regret it later.
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Regret is a feeling everyone experiences at one point in their life or several. It's a negative emotion that comes from the time we reflect on past decisions and wish we did something different.

Studies show that the most commonly reported regrets involved romance, family, education, career, finance, and parenting. Those in palliative care often wished they lived a life true to themselves, wished they didn't overwork themselves, or wish they stayed in touch with their friends.

Causes of regret

Studies show that there are these are the three causes of regret:

  • Inaction
  • Lost opportunities
  • Poor judgment

When we decide to not actively pursue the things that we want to, in retrospect, it will bring enduring regrets of what could have been. There are some things that we could have done at that time and some we could have prevented had we not done it.

We make many decisions in life, often small, but big decisions come up from time to time where their ramifications may linger for years. It's often scary to make a big decision because of what might happen, but it's inevitable.

Certain studies showed the most common life decisions involved getting married, having children, their careers, and pursuing a degree. The less common ones involved ending a life and engaging in self-harm.

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Big decisions are significant because they are rare

We make decisions throughout life. Some decisions are big and affect our lives for years or even decades.

A big decision is so significant because it is rare. You don't get an opportunity to learn from your mistakes. This makes it important to learn from others who have been there before.

Our emotions are obsessed with the present moment because it’s difficult to look past our immediate fears and anxieties. And this prevents good decision-making.

The sweet spot in decision-making is to find the short-term failures that enable huge long-term successes to happen in the first place.

3 decision-making mistakes that you must avoid
  1. Impulsivity. Thorough decisions combine all three senses – seeing, hearing and feeling. Impulsive decisions always lack one of these elements.
  2. Allowing yourself to be persuaded against your better judgment.  The selfish judgment of others should not interfere with your decisions. 
  3. Analysis paralysis. Inner conflict usually means a 'no'. Put off your decision for a while. Make an assessment of the risks involved and decide what size of risk you are willing to take.

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