Friendships are more fragile than family and need more care. While nobody likes to lose friends, you can expect to lose a good friend about every two years.
You have to be deliberate with your friendships. Friendships need regular face-to-face contact if you want to keep them.
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A study on longevity found that it was not weight, eating habits, exercise, air pollution, etc. that affected how long someone lives.
Only two things made a huge difference:
The depth of friendships is more important than frequency. Sharing emotional experiences and events with one another is a critical element.
When people share intense ups and downs, it creates a bond that cannot be easily broken. So, be vulnerable. Open up. Ask for advice. Share what you're going through emotionally.
Studies show that people said thanks 5.5% of the time to friends and family. We simply expect family and friends to accept our request as a matter of course. We show more gratitude to strangers.
A little gratitude can go a long way in maintaining relationships. If you messed up, apologize.
We have something like a fixed "friendship budget." Extroverts may have more friends, but their friendships are not as close as those of introverts. We spend about 3,5 hours a day on social interaction. Your closest 5 friends get 40%, the other 10 in the group of 15 get the next 20%. And the last 135 friends get about 37 seconds a day.
The lesson is that you can't add time; you can only distribute it differently. Know who is important to you and prioritise them.
Research indicates the common factors that predict how satisfied people are with the gathering:
The biggest point to note is to limit the small talk and open up and communicate meaningful stuff.
Most studies show that natural human communities and personal social networks have a typical size of about 150.
Friendships are fragile. If you don't take care of those relationships, they will disappear.
A study showed that our behaviour is most influenced by those we are close to.
If you improve, it is likely that you both will improve. So help them become a better person by working on yourself.
Solution? Spend less time trying to amass all the information and more time better defining the problem so you can find the right information.
Much like our gut microbiome - the diverse ecosystem of bacteria and other microbes in our gastrointestinal system that keeps us healthy when balance - so our social biome is the unique ecosystem of relationships and interactions that keep us emotionally, psychologically and physically healthy.
The term contains the pattern of social interactions throughout your life, the who, what you talk about, and how you communicate.
Having a weak circle of friends carries the same risk as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
Researchers suggest that the core factors in a happy life are the number of friends, the closeness of friends, the closeness of family, and relationships with neighbors and co-workers.