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Talking or listening?

When we try to convince people to start to think again, our first instinct is to usually to start talking.

Yet the most effective way to help others open their minds is often to listen.

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Convincing others to rethink

When were trying to persuade people, we frequently take an adversarial approach. Instead of opening their minds, we effectively shut them down or rile them up.

They play a defense by putting up a shield, play offense by preaching their perspectives and prosecuting ours, or play politics by ...

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Ask questions

When we ask our debate partners genuine questions, we leave them intrigued to learn more.

We just need to open their minds to the possibility that they might be wrong.

Their natural curiosity will do the rest.

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Too many arguments

If you have too many arguments, you'll dilute the power of each and every one.

They are going to be less explained and i don't know if any of them will land enough.

The audience will not believe them important enough.

Most top debaters aren't citing information.

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A good debate is not a war

It's more like a dance that hasn't been choreographed, negotiated with a partner who has a different set of steps in mind.

I'd you try too hard to lead, your partner will resist. If your adapt your moves to hers, and get her to do the same, you're more likely to end up in rythm.

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Motivating through interviewing

Motivational interviewing starts with an attitude of humility and curiosity.

We don't know what mint motivate someone else to change, but we're eager to find out.

The goal isn't to tell people what to do; it's to help them break out of overconfidence cycles and see new possibilities.

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How listening works

Listening is more than a matter of talking less. It's a set of skills in asking and responding.

It starts with showing more interest in other people's interests rather than trying to judge their status or prove our own...

We can all get better at asking truly curious questions that do...

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