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Mistake #1 Not defining what “success” means to you

How will you notice you’ve reached your goal of being successful if you don’t realize what that entails? If you don’t take the time to define what success means for you, then you won’t know what you need to work on every day.

How do you define success? Describe, in detail, your own definition of success, not your friend’s or your parent’s versions.

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Mistake # 4 Not taking responsibility for your life

Sure, it’s easier to just sit back and let life fly by, but it’s a sure-fire way to never fulfill your dreams.

Mistake # 5 Settling for a mediocre life

Settling dooms you to an uneventful and unfulfilled life. People pretend to be happy with their stagnant lives, but inside they’re filled with misery. If you want more out of your life, then you have to go get it.

Mistake # 3 Not looking for your passion

If you don’t give your life a purpose, someone else will, and it won’t be to your benefit. So, think about the hobbies you enjoy (or enjoyed as a child) and spend time doing them. Try different activities so you can discover new passions.

11. Regretting the past

Don’t dwell on what could have been. Any thought that starts with “I should of” is going to tear down your happiness.

These thoughts are harmful to your mental health, and they accomplish nothing. The only thing you have control over is what you do from now on. So, when a regretful thought comes up, shut it down immediately.

6. Submitting to Fear

Fear will bring your progress to a screeching halt. It will trap you in your comfort zone for a lifetime. But, it doesn’t have to because you have the power to triumph over it!

Unless what you fear can hurt you physically or make you sick, then it’s best to do what scares you. Every day, push yourself a little bit towards doing what you fear.

― Wayne Dyer

“You leave old habits behind by starting out with the thought, ‘I release the need for this in my life.’” 

10. Staying in an unhealthy relationship

Staying in an unhealthy relationship can wreak havoc on your mental health. 

If your partner is verbally (or even physically) abusive and they refuse to change, it’s time to make a plan of escape. Otherwise, it’ll destroy your mind or even kill you. No one is worth that!

1. Denying your habits

Denying your problems in hopes that they’ll disappear over time is a terrible habit. While time does help to ease the pain, deep down, it still hurts because it’s not solved.

2. Rumination habits

Dwelling on negative thoughts is dangerous to your well-being and confidence. Moreover, it can trap you in a depressive cycle. Every time you think these thoughts, the more ingrained they become. You don’t want that.

8. Refusing to let go

Don’t hold on to things that you should release. Gripping onto the past, unused items, and negative people keeps you trapped. Unable to move on and live in joy.

We often don’t want to let go. Realize that it’s the best thing you can do for yourself.

5. Not managing your time

Watching too much TV or wasting time on social media will steal away your potential. It’s okay to relax and watch a show now and then, but when it consumes all your time, it’s a dream killer. 

You’re procrastinating on the goals that you know would improve your life. Later, you’ll feel horrible about not doing what you needed to do—further adding unnecessary stress to your life.

3. Disapproving of yourself

If you have a habit of talking down to yourself, you’re wrecking your confidence. We tend to believe our thoughts, but this is a mistake. Not all thoughts are beneficial or accurate. So, it’s wise to question them for their validity.

7. Holding on to shame

Shame is one of the most detrimental habits. These embarrassing or shameful memories will pop up when you least expect them. They can trigger you to sabotage your goals.

9. Refusing to forgive

To varying degrees, we’ve all felt betrayed by someone we trusted. I know it’s painful to the core. If it was horrible enough, you might never talk to them again, although you’re not saving yourself from further pain if you refuse to forgive them.

4. Comparing yourself to others

A lot of people look to others to determine how well they’re doing in life.

If some guy has an Audi and you have an old jalopy, you might feel like a failure even though that’s not true. Furthermore, they’ve probably been working for over a decade to get where they are. But you just started a few months ago.

As you can see, it doesn’t make sense to do this to yourself.

Don't sleep too late in the day

Improperly timed naps can interfere with your nighttime sleep, experts say. Don’t sleep too long or too late in the day, especially if you have trouble falling asleep at night.

Perfect Nap = 20 minutes

The National Sleep Foundation recommends a snooze lasting 20 to 30 minutes. That’s long enough to grab a dose of that energizing Stage 2 sleep, without the risk of being plunged into the slow-wave sleep that can make you groggy.

A famous 1994 NASA study found that long-haul pilots who napped for 25.8 minutes were 50% more alert than their non napping counterparts and performed 34% better on certain tasks.

Clear your mind

The main barrier to falling asleep at nap time is an overactive mind

“Nap Bishop” Tricia Hersey recommends journaling before you lie down, to process whatever is nagging you. Or try a guided meditation like Yoga Nidra, also known as yogic sleep, to relieve stress and give your brain a break.

Practice makes perfect

You can train yourself to become better at napping

it gets easier and more fun the more you do it, like riding a bike, but horizontal.

Once your brain and body get in the habit, you’ll learn to drift off quickly and even wake up at the perfect time without an alarm.

Carry a nap kit

An airplane nap kit, complete with sleep mask, neck pillow, and earplugs, can enable you to create the right conditions for sleep almost anywhere.

Try a caffeine nap

Since caffeine takes about 20 minutes to kick in, almost exactly the recommended nap length, down your latte just before lying down. 

The caffeine will act as a natural alarm, waking you up refreshed and ready to focus on the next activity. A 2003 Japanese study found that caffeine naps were more effective at combating daytime sleepiness than non-caffeine naps.

Timing is key

Plan your nap for the time when your body is naturally sleepier and you’re more likely to fall asleep.

Everybody, no matter if they live in a warm or cold climate or if they’ve eaten a big meal, experiences these subtle changes at bedtime and, to a lesser extent, in the afternoon — usually around six to eight hours after waking. For most people, “prime napping time falls between 1 and 3 p.m.,”

Know your sleep stages

Different phases of sleep confer different benefits on the brain and body, so you can actually hack your nap by adjusting when you nap and for how long.

The first 20 minutes of your nap are spent in Stage 2 sleep, which provides energy and alertness. Stay asleep longer and you’ll enter slow-wave sleep (SWS), which is when the brain begins to process memories and information, and then rapid eye movement (REM), the creativity-boosting dream phase.

8. Find your purpose

To become self-actualized, you must take responsibility for your life and happiness. But you’ll never reach fulfillment if you deprive yourself of a passion or a goal.

Are you ready to get self-actualized?

Self-actualizing can be a challenge if you’re already going through a demanding time. But luckily, it’s still possible!

6. Self-actualized people never stop learning

When you’re self-actualized, you’ll crave knowledge. As a result of opening your mind to new subjects, you broaden your perspective of the world.

Read about philosophy, psychology, or anything that sparks your curiosity. Self-education helps you to be a more well-rounded individual.

3. Try new things

To become as extraordinary as you can, you must gain more life experiences.

5. Experience the present

Self-actualized people realize how precious life is, and they live accordingly. It’s important to understand that one of these days, you won’t be here anymore.

2. Become self-actualized by being more independent

Self-actualized people have solid relationships with others. While this may be true, they also cherish the time they spend alone. They understand how vital it is to have an unbreakable connection with themselves.

They trust their opinions. As a result, they won’t need to check with their friends to find out what they think before deciding.

If all your friends believe some deranged story, the self-actualized people are brave enough to disagree. Besides, they’ve already accepted themselves, so they aren’t desperate for anyone else’s approval.

9. Have peak experiences

Self-actualized people have peak experiences often. A peak experience is a moment of complete bliss and euphoria.

These magical moments happen when you’re doing something you love with exceptional skill. Such as when you’re playing a sport so well that it’s as if you’re a superhuman. Or when you’ve lost yourself in a painting or while playing an instrument.

7. Dig deep

Addressing our psychopathologies (mental issues) is essential to finding one’s self. Not to mention, they’re one of the major focuses here at Motivated Progress. 

While it’s not pleasant to think about your issues, it’s necessary for you to triumph over them. These toxic mental habits are damaging to your life, and many people have them.

Self-actualized people

Self-actualized people are extraordinary and different from the rest of society. They’re confident, joyful, creative, independent, and free. These people flow with life instead of resisting or fighting against it. Above all, they bask in the phenomenal feeling of reaching their highest potential.

4. Embrace honesty

It’s necessary, to be honest with others and yourself if you want to be self-actualized. I’m an INFJ, so honesty has always been important to me.

Everything you say or do needs to be authentic and real. Besides, every time you lie, you downgrade yourself to a lower level.

Instead, tell people what you think, regardless of whether they agree. Be bold enough to speak out for what you feel is right. Dare to be a nonconformist!

Self-actualizing transforms you

Self-actualizing will transform you into the most exceptional person you could ever be. It’s possible for you. In fact, it’s everyone’s responsibility to become the best person they can be.

Therefore, don’t try to be like everyone else and decide today to be yourself! Avoid buying the same clothes or the same cell phone as everyone else. Don’t mindlessly agree with what other people think. Relish in being unique!

1.    If you want to be self-actualized, you must accept yourself (flaws and all)

First, you need to accept who you are, including your flaws. Some imperfections you can fix, but others you’ll have for life. Decide to approve of these unchangeable traits.

3. Learn from failure

Every time you make a mistake, there’s a lesson to learn. It doesn’t mean you suck at life!

7. Have patience on your journey to excellence

You can’t expect to try something and instantly be amazing at it. Those you admire weren’t awesome when they started either. Mastery takes time! It also takes a ton of mistakes to reach the top.

6. Change your story

At the core of your fear are long-held, negative belief patterns. These thoughts keep you from changing your life. You’ve thought this way for so long that it’s become entrenched in your subconscious, and now you believe them. But, you can retrain your brain to think optimistic thoughts.

Tell yourself an encouraging story often enough, and soon you’ll believe it. That’s how you trained your mind to think negatively in the first place, so you know it works!

1. Get to the root of the fear of failure

Write down what in the past caused you to be afraid to fail. Now, look back at this situation and realize that failing is okay.

4. Redefine failure

What do you think of when you imagine failing? Not achieving a certain result or outcome?

We are taught that failure is horrible, and you should avoid it at all costs. But this is wrong! It’s not bad at all; it’s one of the ingredients to success. Redefine failure to mean giving up on your dream and quitting.

5. Focus on what you can control

You can’t control the outcome of everything you do. But, there are skills and things you can learn to prepare yourself beforehand. So, do whatever you can to give yourself the best chance possible.

2. Fail your way to success

Failure isn’t as horrible as you might think. It’s actually a step towards success.

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