Too often, people think it’s as easy as moving on, but this is one of the many myths about grief. Rather than move on from our grief, we must instead find ways to move forward with it."Grief is this multitasking emotion... you can and will be sad, and happy; you'll be grieving, and able to love in the same year or week... . We need to remember that a grieving person is going to laugh again and smile again… they're going to move forward. But that doesn't mean that they've moved on" said Nora McInerny in her candid <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=khkJkR-ipfw&ab_channel=TED">TED Talk about life and death.</a>

Move forward with your grief

Following the loss of a loved one, it’s important to remember the grieving process has no set timeline. We don’t just grieve the moment they pass and move on. Instead, we grieve the past and present. We grieve what could have been the future. This is because our loved one is more than just one moment in time.While there’s no right or wrong way to grieve your loss, there are healthy ways to cope, including:<ul><li>Accept that grief can trigger unexpected feelings, including anger and denial.</li><li>Understand that the grieving process will be unique to you<warningtag> and your situation.</warningtag></li><li><warningtag>Seek out support from trusted family members, friends, and professional support groups.</warningtag></li><li><warningtag>Support yourself emotionally by taking care of yourself physically.</warningtag></li><li><warningtag>You can’t rush your grief, so allow yourself as much time as you need to process your feelings surrounding the loss.</warningtag></li></ul>

Grief is not a moment in time

Have you heard the phrase, “Time heals all wounds?” Some people believe this phrase is a catchall for grief—that in time, the anger, depression, guilt or regret will just go away. This is simply not true. The point here is that not all wounds are meant to heal with time.It hurts to lose someone we love. That loss shapes and defines who we are, and it never really goes away. Instead, we carry it with us as we move forward into the next chapter of our lives, and what helps us heal is what we do with our time after they’ve passed.Whether it’s finishing a project your loved one was working on or v<warningtag>olunteering at their favorite charity, there are ways to fill up your time that can help you cope.</warningtag>

Not all wounds are meant to heal

<ul><li>Attempting to face joy after the loss of a loved one is complicated. Whether the loss comes expectedly or unexpectedly, it has the power to disrupt our lives, leaving us numb.</li><li>While one day you feel happy, other days you may feel sad. With each new day, allow yourself to embrace the stages of grief as they come, rather than avoiding them altogether.</li><li>In doing so, we gradually learn how to live with loss in our hearts. That doesn’t mean we forget about our loved ones, we just learn how to go on living without their physical presence.</li><li>And while you can never replace the absence left by someone you l<warningtag>oved and cared for, </warningtag><warningtag>you can fill your life with purpose in his or her honor to help you feel happy again.</warningtag></li></ul>

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Ways to Move Forward When You're Feeling Stuck

Rather than moving on from our grief, we must instead find ways to move forward with it.

In her talk, Nora McInerny encourages us to shift our approach to grief. Instead of moving on, she explains how to move forward with life after a loss.

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In a talk that's by turns heartbreaking and hilarious, writer and podcaster Nora McInerny shares her hard-earned wisdom about life and death. Her candid approach to something that will, let's face it, affect us all, is as liberating as it is gut-wrenching. Most powerfully, she encourages us to shift how we approach grief. "A grieving person is going to laugh again and smile again," she says. "They're going to move forward. But that doesn't mean that they've moved on."

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We don't "move on" from grief. We move forward with it | Nora McInerny

Do We Move On or Move Forward From Grief?

How we see God is a direct reflection of how we see ourselves. If God brings to mind mostly fear and blame, it means there is too much fear and blame welled inside us. If we see God as full of love and compassion, so are we.

Rule 1

The path to the Truth is a labour of the heart, not of the head. Make your heart your primary guide! Not your mind. Meet, challenge and ultimately prevail over your nafs with your heart. Knowing your ego will lead you to the knowledge of God.

You can study God through everything and everyone in the universe, because God is not confined in a mosque, synagogue or church. But if you are still in need of knowing where exactly His abode is, there is only one place to look for him: in the heart of a true lover.

Intellect and love are made of different materials. Intellect ties people in knots and risks nothing, but love dissolves all tangles and risks everything. Intellect is always cautious and advices, ‘Beware too much ecstasy’, whereas love says, ‘Oh, never mind! Take the plunge!’ Intellect does not easily break down, whereas love can effortlessly reduce itself to rubble. But treasures are hidden among ruins. A broken heart hides treasures.

Most of the problems of the world stem from linguistic mistakes and simple misunderstanding. Don’t ever take words at face value. When you step into the zone of love, language, as we know it becomes obsolete. That which cannot be put into words can only be grasped through silence.

Loneliness and solitude are two different things. When you are lonely, it is easy to delude yourself into believing that you are on the right path. Solitude is better for us, as it means being alone without feeling lonely. But eventually it is the best to find a person who will be your mirror. Remember only in another person’s heart can you truly see yourself and the presence of God within you.

Whatever happens in your life, no matter how troubling things might seem, do not enter the neighbourhood of despair. Even when all doors remain closed, God will open up a new path only for you. Be thankful! It is easy to be thankful when all is well. A Sufi is thankful not only for what he has been given but also for all that he has been denied.

Patience does not mean to passively endure. It means to look at the end of a process. What does patience mean? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night and see the dawn. Impatience means to be shortsighted as to not be able to see the outcome. The lovers of God never run out of patience, for they know that time is needed for the crescent moon to become full.

East, west, south, or north makes little difference. No matter what your destination, just be sure to make every journey a journey within. If you travel within, you’ll travel the whole wide world and beyond.

The midwife knows that when there is no pain, the way for the baby cannot be opened and the mother cannot give birth. Likewise, for a new self to be born, hardship is necessary. Just as clay needs to go through intense heat to become strong, Love can only be perfected in pain.

The quest for love changes a person. There is no seeker among those who search for love who has not matured on the way. The moment you start looking for love, you start to change within.

There are more fake gurus and false teachers in this world than the number of stars in the visible universe. Don’t confuse power-driven, self-centered people with true mentors. A genuine spiritual master will not direct your attention to himself or herself and will not expect absolute obedience or utter admiration from you, but instead will help you to appreciate and admire your inner self. True mentors are as transparent as glass. They let the light of God pass through them.

Try not to resist the changes, which come your way. Instead let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come?

God is busy with the completion of your work, both outwardly and inwardly. He is fully occupied with you. Every human being is a work in progress that is slowly but inexorably moving toward perfection. We are each an unfinished work of art both waiting and striving to be completed. God deals with each of us separately because humanity is fine art of skilled penmanship where every single dot is equally important for the entire picture.

It’s easy to love a perfect God, unblemished and infallible that He is. What is far more difficult is to love fellow human being with all their imperfections and defects. Remember, one can only know what one is capable of loving. There is no wisdom without love. Unless we learn to love God’s creation, we can neither truly love nor truly know God.

Real faith is the one inside. The rest simply washes off. There is only one type of dirt that cannot be cleansed with pure water, and that is the stain of hatred and bigotry contaminating the soul. You can purify your body through abstinence and fasting, but only love will purify your heart.

The whole universe is contained within a single human being-you. Everything that you see around, including the things that you might not be fond of and even the people you despise or abhor, is present within you in varying degrees. Therefore, do not look for Sheitan outside yourself either. The devil is not an extraordinary force that attacks from without. It is an ordinary voice within. If you set to know yourself fully, facing with honesty and hardness.

If you want to change the ways others treat you, you should first change the way you treat yourself, fully and sincerely, there is no way you can be loved. Once you achieve that stage, however, be thankful for every thorn that others might throw at you. It is a sign that you will soon be showered in roses.

Fret not where the road will take you. Instead concentrate on the first step. That is the hardest part and that is what you are responsible for. Once you take that step let everything do what it naturally does and the rest will follow. Don’t go with the flow. Be the flow.

We were all created in His image, and yet we were each created different and unique. No two people are alike. No hearts beat to the same rhythm. If God had wanted everyone to be the same, He would have made it so. Therefore, disrespecting differences and imposing your thoughts on others is an amount to disrespecting God’s holy scheme.

When a true lover of God goes into a tavern, the tavern becomes his chamber of prayer, but when a wine bibber goes into the same chamber, it becomes his tavern. In everything we do, it is our hearts that make the difference, not our outer appearance. Sufis do not judge other people on how they look or who they are. When a Sufi stares at someone, he keeps both eyes closed instead opens a third eye – the eye that sees the inner realm.

Life is a temporary loan and this world is nothing but a sketchy imitation of Reality. Only children would mistake a toy for the real thing. And yet human beings either become infatuated with the toy or disrespectfully break it and throw it aside. In this life stay away from all kinds of extremities, for they will destroy your inner balance. Sufis do not go to extremes. A Sufi always remains mild and moderate.

The human being has a unique place among God’s creation. “I breathed into him of My Spirit,” God says. Each and every one of us without exception is designed to be God’s delegate on earth. Ask yourself, just how often do you behave like a delegate, if you ever do so? Remember, it fells upon each of us to discover the divine spirit inside and live by it.

Hell is in the here and now. So is heaven. Quit worrying about hell or dreaming about heaven, as they are both present inside this very moment. Every time we fall in love, we ascend to heaven. Every time we hate, envy or fight someone we tumble straight into the fires of hell.

Each and every reader comprehends the Holy Qur’an on a different level of tandem with the depth of his understanding. There are four levels of insight. The first level is the outer meaning and it is the one that the majority of the people are content with. Next is the Batin – the inner level. Third, there is the inner of the inner. And the fourth level is so deep it cannot be put into words and is therefore bound to remain indescribable.

The universe is one being. Everything and everyone is interconnected through an invisible web of stories. Whether we are aware of it or not, we are all in a silent conversation. Do no harm. Practice compassion. And do not gossip behind anyone’s back – not even a seemingly innocent remark! The words that come out of our mouths do not vanish but are perpetually stored in infinite space and they will come back to us in due time. One man’s pain will hurt us all. One man’s joy will make everyone smile.

Whatever you speak, good or evil, will somehow come back to you. Therefore, if there is someone who harbours ill thoughts about you, saying similarly bad things about him will only make matters worse. You will be locked in a vicious circle of malevolent energy. Instead for forty days and nights say and think nice things about that person. Everything will be different at the end of 40 days, because you will be different inside.

The past is an interpretation. The future is on illusion. The world does not move through time as if it were a straight line, proceeding from the past to the future. Instead time moves through and within us, in endless spirals. Eternity does not mean infinite time, but simply timelessness. If you want to experience eternal illumination, put the past and the future out of your mind and remain within the present moment.

Destiny doesn’t mean that your life has been strictly predetermined. Therefore, to live everything to the fate and to not actively contribute to the music of the universe is a sign of sheer ignorance. The music of the universe is all pervading and it is composed on 40 different levels. Your destiny is the level where you play your tune. You might not change your instrument but how well to play is entirely in your hands.

The true Sufi is such that even when he is unjustly accused, attacked and condemned from all sides, he patiently endures, uttering not a single bad word about any of his critics. A Sufi never apportions blame. How can there be opponents or rivals or even “others” when there is no “self” in the first place? How can there be anyone to blame when there is only One?

If you want to strengthen your faith, you will need to soften inside. For your faith to be rock solid, your heart needs to be as soft as a feather. Through an illness, accident, loss or fright, one way or another, we are all faced with incidents that teach us how to become less selfish and judgmental and more compassionate and generous. Yet some of us learn the lesson and manage to become milder, while some others end up becoming even harsher than before…

Nothing should stand between you and God. No imams, priests, rabbis or any other custodians of moral or religious leadership. Not spiritual masters and not even your faith. Believe in your values and your rules, but never lord them over others. If you keep breaking other people’s hearts, whatever religious duty you perform is no good. Stay away from all sorts of idolatry, for they will blur your vision. Let God and only God be your guide. Learn the Truth, my friend, but be careful not to make a fetish out of your truths.

While everyone in this world strives to get somewhere and become someone, only to leave it all behind after death, you aim for the supreme stage of nothingness. Live this life as light and empty as the number zero. We are no different from a pot. It is not the decorations outside but the emptiness inside that holds us straight. Just like that, it is not what we aspire to achieve but the consciousness of nothingness that keeps us going.

Submission does not mean being weak or passive. It leads to neither fatalism nor capitulation. Just the opposite. ﻿True power resides in submission a power that comes within. Those who submit to the divine essence of life will live in unperturbed tranquillity and peace even the whole wide world goes through turbulence after turbulence.

In this world, it is not similarities or regularities that take us a step forward, but blunt opposites. And all the opposites in the universe are present within each and every one of us. Therefore the believer needs to meet the unbeliever residing within. And the nonbeliever should get to know the silent faithful in him. Until the day one reaches the stage of Insane-I Kamil, the perfect human being, faith is a gradual process and one that necessitates its seeming opposite: disbelief.

This world is erected upon the principle of reciprocity. Neither a drop of kindness nor a speck of evil will remain unreciprocated. For not the plots, deceptions, or tricks of other people.If somebody is setting a trap, remember, so is God. He is the biggest plotter. Not even a leaf stirs outside God’s knowledge. Simply and fully believe in that. Whatever God does, He does it beautifully.

God is a meticulous maker. So precise is His order that everything on earth happens in its own time. Neither a minute late nor a minute early. And for everyone without exception, the clock works accurately. For each there is a time to love and a time to die.

It is never too late to ask yourself, “Am I ready to change the life I am living? Am I ready to change within?” Even if a single day in your life is the same as the day before, it surely is a pity. At every moment and with each new breath, one should be renewed and renewed again. There is only one-way to be born into a new life: to die before death.

While the part change, the whole always remains the same. For every thief who departs this world, a new one is born. And every descent person who passes away is replaced by a new one. In this way not only does nothing remain the same but also nothing ever really changes. For every Sufi who dies, another is born somewhere.

A life without love is of no account. Don’t ask yourself what kind of love you should seek, spiritual or material, divine or mundane, Eastern or Western. Divisions only lead to more divisions. Love has no labels, no definitions. It is what it is, pure and simple. Love is the water of life. And a lover is a soul of fire! The universe turns differently when fire loves water.

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Shams of Tabriz’s 40 Rules of Love

She never confronted the death of anything, be it a habit, a phase, or a marriage, even when the end stood right in front of her, plain and inevitable.

After a few drinks, I hear the same stories from them all.Men are the same everywhere. Same food, same water, same old crap.

It was always like this.When you spoke the truth, they hated you.The more you talked about love, the more they hated you.

Real filth is on the inside.The rest simply washes off. There is only one type of dirt that cannot be cleansed with pure waters, and that is the stain of hatred and bigotry contaminating the soul. You can purify your body through abstinence and fasting, but only love will purify your heart.

In general one shouldn't be too rigid about anything because to live means to constantly shift colours.

Most of the problems of the world stem from linguistic mistakes and simple misunderstandings.Don't ever take words at face value. When you step into the zone of love, language as we know it becomes obselete.That which cannot be put into words can only be grasped through silence.

What matters is to find the soul that will complete yours. All the Prophets have given the same advice: Find the one who will be your mirror!

How can love be worthy of its name if one selects solely the pretty things and leaves out the hardships?It is easy to enjoy the good and dislike the bad.Anybody can do that.The real challenge is to love the good and the bad together, not because you need to take the rough with the smooth but because you need to go beyond such descriptions and accept love in its entirety.

You can study God through everything and everyone in the universe, because God is not confined in a mosque, synagogue, or church. But if you are still in need of knowing where exactly His abode is, there is only one place to look for Him: in the heart of a true lover.

Each reader comprehends the Holy Quran on a different level in tandem with the depth of his understanding.The 4 levels of insight.<ol><li>The 1st level is the outer meaning and it is the one that the majority of the people are content with. (Scholars who focus on the sharia know the outer meaning)</li><li>The 2nd level is Batini - the inner level. (Sufis know the inner meaning)</li><li>The 3rd level is the inner of the inner. (Saints know the inner of the inner)</li><li>The 4th level is so deep it cannot be put into words and is therefore bound to remain indescribable. (This is known by prophets and those closest to God)</li></ol>

He had a remarkable curiosity about everything new and unusual and was a great observer of nature.Some days I found him in the garden admiring the symmetry of a spiderweb or the dewdrop glistening on a night blooming flower.Insects, plants, and animals seemed more interesting and inspiring to him than books and manuscripts.But just when I would start thinking he had no interest in reading, I would find him immersed in an age old book.Then, once again he would go for weeks on end without reading and studying anything.

About Shams

Did you know that Shams says the world is a huge cauldron and something big is cooking in it?We don't know what yet. Everything we do, feel, or think is an ingredient in that mixture.Weneed to ask ourselves what are we adding to the cauldron. Are we adding resentments, animosities, anger, and violence?Or are we adding love and harmony?

How we see God is a direct reflection of how we see ourselves.If God brings to mind mostly fear and blame, it means there is too much fear and blame welled inside us. If we see God as full of love and compassion, so are we.

It is easy to love God, But difficult to love fellow human beings with all their imperfections and defects. There is no wisdom without love. Unless we learn to love God's creation, we can neither truly love nor truly know God.

Fret not where the road will take you. Instead concentrate on the first step. Thats the hardest part and thats what you are responsible for. Once you take that step, let everything do what it naturally does and the rest will follow. Do not go with the flow. Be the flow.

What good could come out of a man who cannot settle down?If a man has no sense of belonging, he can drift in every direction, like a dry leaf in the wind. The perfect victim for sheitan.

Why worry about the aftermath, an imaginary future, when this very moment is the only time we can truly and fully experience both the presence and the absence of God in our lives?Motivated by neither the fear of punishment in hell nor the desire to be rewarded in heaven, Sufis love God simply because they love Him, pure and easy, untainted and unnegotiable.Love is the reason. Love is the goal.

In this world take pity on three kinds of people.The rich man who has lost his fortune,The well-respected man who lost his respectability,And the wise man who is surrounded by ignorants.

*The international bestseller* "Every true love and friendship is a story of unexpected transformation. If we are the same person before and after we loved, that means we haven't loved enough..." Ella Rubinstein has a husband, three teenage children, and a pleasant home. Everything that should make her confident and fulfilled. Yet there is an emptiness at the heart of Ella's life - an emptiness once filled by love. So when Ella reads a manuscript about the thirteenth-century Sufi poet Rumi and Shams of Tabriz, and his forty rules of life and love, her world is turned upside down. She embarks on a journey to meet the mysterious author of this work. It is a quest infused with Sufi mysticism and verse, taking Ella and us into an exotic world where faith and love are heartbreakingly explored. . . 'Enlightening, enthralling. An affecting paean to faith and love' Metro 'Colourfully woven and beguilingly intelligent' Daily Telegraph 'The past and present fit together beautifully in a passionate defence of passion itself' The Times

THE INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER *One of the BBC's '100 Novels that Shaped the World'* "Every true love and friendship is a story of unexpected transformation. If we are the same person before and after we loved, that means we haven't loved enough . . ." Ella Rubinstein has a husband, three teenage children, and a pleasant home. Everything that should make her confident and fulfilled. Yet there is an emptiness at the heart of Ella's life - an emptiness once filled by love. So when Ella reads a manuscript about the thirteenth-century Sufi poet Rumi and Shams of Tabriz, and his forty rules of life and love, her world is turned upside down. She embarks on a journey to meet the mysterious author of this work. It is a quest infused with Sufi mysticism and verse, taking Ella and us into an exotic world where faith and love are heartbreakingly explored. . . 'Enlightening, enthralling. An affecting paean to faith and love' Metro 'Colourfully woven and beguilingly intelligent' Daily Telegraph 'The past and present fit together beautifully in a passionate defence of passion itself' The Times

Elif Shafak is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Elif Shafak has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Elif Shafak's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Elif Shafak

The Forty Rules of Love

“Faith must be based upon certainty. There must be definite knowledge of God’s purpose and will. Without that there can be no true faith.” - Alexander R. Hay (pg. 4) “Every Christian has been positioned forever in the risen Lord by spiritual birth. But only the believer who knows, grows. It is faith in the facts of our position that gives us the daily benefits of growth in our condition.” (pg. 78)

Faith

“Our hope for victory over sin is not, ‘Christ plus my efforts,’ but, ‘Christ plus my receiving.’ To receive victory from Him is to believe His Word that solely by His grace He is, this moment, freeing us from the dominion of sin. And to believe on Him in this way is to recognize that He is doing for us what we cannot do for ourselves.” - Charles Trumbullpg. 21

Preparation 

Our reckoning on the finished work of our death to sin, in Christ at Calvary, Is God's one way of deliverance - there is no other way because that is the way He did it. We learned not to add a finished work in the matter of Justification, and now we must learn not to add to the finished work of emancipation. We will be freed when we enter His prepared freedom - there is no other.

For most of us, It is time to stop asking God for help. He didn't help us to be saved, and He doesn't intend to help us live the Christian life.Immaturity considers the Lord Jesus a Helper.Maturity knows Him to be Life itself.God is not trusted, not honored, in our continually asking Him for help. In the face of "my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus" (Phil. 4:19), how can we beg for help? Our responsibility is to see in the Word all that is ours in Christ, and then thank and trust Him for that which we need.pg. 65

Help

It is true that the downward path (the negative side) has been the consequence both of the workings of self and the tactics of the enemy. Nevertheless, it is also true that the Father has seen to it that it happened, in order that the hunger caused through failure might be satisfied in the Lord Jesus Christ. He knows what needs we need to keep us needy! pg. 251

Failure Recognized

Our Father takes us down until the self-life is uncovered and then up as the truth of the Christ-life discovered. This spiritual principle cannot be circumvented. "Beloved, do not be surprised at the firery ordeal among you, which comes upon you for your testing, as though some strange thing were happening to you." - 1 Peter 4:12pg. 255

All through the years of defeat, we have been slowly learning that the harder we tried to live the Christian life the deeper we came under the dominion of the law of sin. We tried to "be” we tried to "do,” and there was nothing but failure year in and year out.As long as we depended on our own resources, all we produced was sin. But in the midst of our wretched attempts to be delivered from the "body of this death” (Romans 7:24), our faithful Father was teaching us what we had to know for our freedom in Christ: self is our greatest enemy, Christ is our only hope (Philippians 1:21).(pg. 208)

Defeat And Victory! 

When we reckon ourselves alive to God in our risen Lord, we are thereby taking our position as seated with Him in the heavenlies. We know that the anchor and source of our life is safely and eternally hid with Christ in God. We are assured that nothing, and no one, can touch us apart from His blessed will. Our attitude is that of looking down on all that He takes us through-we are not under His circumstances, but above them all in our victorious Lord. Standing in our position, we learn in whatever state we are in,"to be content"; we learn how to be abased, and we learn how to abound.

LIVE POSITIONALLY"CRUCIFIED, RISEN, SEATED"(Galatians 2:20; Ephesians 2:6)LIVE POSITIVELY"FULLY PERSUADED"(Romans 14:5)LIVE POSSESSIVELY"ALL THINGS ARE YOURS"(1 Corinthians 3:21)LIVE TRIUMPHANTLY"MORE THAN CONQUERORS"(Romans 8:37)

Five volumes on sanctification published under one cover, presenting biblical foundations and keys to spiritual growth in Christ. It includes "Abide Above", "The Green Letters", "The Ground of Growth", "The Principle of Position", and "The Reckoning That Counts".

"Not I, but Christ." That brief phrase reflects our complete dependency on Jesus for everything that the Christian life is about, from right standing with God, to spiritual growth, to personal well being, to practical service. In four words, it captures the essence and sweep of The Complete Green Letters.The language of The Complete Green Letters may have a classic flavor, but the remarkable insight and spiritual penetration are thoroughly and refreshingly contemporary. Drawing from the spiritual heritage of the Keswick Convention, these beloved writings by Miles J. Stanford comment powerfully on the true nature of spirituality. Here in one volume, in logical order, are: <ul><li>The Green Letters: Principles of Spiritual Growth</li><li>The Principle of Position: Foundations of Spiritual Growth</li><li>The Ground of Growth: The Christian's Relationship to the Cross and the Risen Christ</li><li>The Reckoning That Counts: The Realization of Spiritual Growth</li><li>Abide Above: A Guide to Spiritual Growth</li></ul>A sound apprehension of the deeper life can make the difference between progress or frustration, peace or turmoil. If you desire a better understanding of what it means to serve Christ, his church, and the world around you, The Complete Green Letters shines light on the path of spiritual growth.

Miles J. Stanford

The Complete Green Letters

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Knowledge is understood as a proposition which is a justified true belief.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">A proposition is simply a statement whose truth value is unknown. It may be true, false or both.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Justified refers to your rationale behind a proposition, true Implies its truth value as observed from your point of reference & belief implies your conviction of the proposition in question. So knowledge implies a justified belief which is true universally else it’s not absolute knowledge . So all new knowledge or knowledge of unfamiliar stems from a reference to familiar/old. Referencing is your justification.</li></ul>

Knowledge & Meaning ~ 1

<ul><li>So all what is considered today as knowledge has its basis in some justified true belief. That’s to say earlier knowledge gives way to new knowledge. But in this tautology what’s to be considered first as knowledge and its basis ? </li><li>To know something, possess the knowledge is strengthened & signalled by your justification & degree of belief about the same. E.g: the world bows to Jesus’ teaching and considers it sacred for he gave his life smilingly without any malice towards his enemies. Remember his last words while being crucified!</li><li>So degree of belief is the strongest signal to knowledge.</li></ul>

Knowledge & Meaning ~ 2

<ol><li>The last two notes are telling of something unusual. They signal that if something is true in its nature, the first time it became knowledge was the time when someone had a belief in them taken to its logical end. So question of how your beliefs are made is very important.</li><li>A belief will have its source in your Conditioning. Conditioning is an envelope that includes a) trusting your intuition as a valid form of reliance, b) your approval/disapproval of visible ideas to think anew. This process is at work everyday whereby your conditioning guides you to form/accept/extend/refute a proposition. </li></ol>

Knowledge & Meaning ~3

<ol><li> So it’s your Intuition or Conditioning that makes you belief in ideas unknown and known respectively. </li><li>So to discover the unknown or to come across something unfamiliar, intuition has to be present. Maybe it builds logically on your known propositions but the decision to pick one direction of enquiry wud be based on intuition.</li><li>The development of your intuition and intellect is both necessary. Former to pick on a direction and the latter to logically take it to its conclusion. </li></ol>

Knowledge & Meaning ~4

<ol><li>Absolute Truth which is fundamental and thus contained in every proposition, giving the proposition its meaning or direction would become known only with developed intuition & finesse of intellect.</li><li> The development of intuition is the rise of the tide of Consciousness. Consciousness as a category is your awareness of the surroundings. An awareness of the surrounding in plain terms would mean extending your care and concern for others since you understand them. At an elevated level of consciousness you realise there are no others.</li></ol>

Knowledge & Meaning ~5

<ol><li>Like for example a standing electric pole, you can be kind to it for its also standing since so long. It need not be at the receiving end of your punch, anger or kick. So when this realisation dawns on you, I’d say your consciousness is peaking.</li><li>This peak of consciousness presents all that’s transpiring around you. Intuition is nothing but an occasional dip into that perennial flow, guiding you where to look.</li><li>To maintain that intuition guides you correctly, your consciousness must be at its peak I.e you must always remember the principle of connectedness & there are no others. </li></ol>

Knowledge & Meaning ~6

<ol><li>Once you start to constantly dwell in that idea of “there are no others”, your intuition will be real. It’s be from a place of actual dip into the reality of working than a figment of imagination.</li><li>So how to develop that Consciousness? In the east, meditation and meditative practices are long argued as channels to elevate your consciousness. Maintaining a gratitude journal, practising kindness, are a way to thank the consciousness inherent in the universe and be part of it. When you meditate you get the glimpse of it, kindness and gratitude is your way to salute it.</li></ol>

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Knowledge & Meaning ~10

<ol><li>Once you start to constantly dwell in that idea of “there are no others”, your intuition will be real. It’s be from a place of actual dip into the reality of working than a figment of imagination.</li><li>So how to develop that Consciousness? In the east, meditation and meditative practices are long argued as channels to elevate your consciousness. Maintaining a gratitude journal, practising kindness, are a way to thank the consciousness inherent in the universe and be part of it. When you meditate you get the glimpse of it, kindness and gratitude is your way to acknowledge it.</li></ol>

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✔️ Neo-Confucianism gained popularity in China during the Song Dynasty in the 11th century. ✔️The roots of Neo-Confucianism date back to the Tang Dynasty when the spread of Buddhism necessitated a reaction from Confucian thinkers.✔️As Buddhism and the reemergence of Taoism began to take hold within China, scholars reevaluated and reinterpreted Confucian philosophy into a new system of belief that addressed not only social and intellectual concerns but also spiritual ones. Neo-Confucian teachings took hold in China and soon spread to Korea and Japan.

Neo-Confucianism - History

✔️ The central belief of Neo-Confucianism like classic Confucianism is the idea of teaching oneself to become a better person. Neo-Confucians believe that the correct way of living is expressed in two forms: principle (li) and matter (qi). ✔️ Another important addition to Neo-Confucianism introduced the idea that the principle of all things exists within every individual. Because of this, individuals can understand the external world through introspection an meditation.

Neo-Confucianism - Beliefs

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Neo-Confucianism Beliefs - Synonym

Everyone is kind to someone they meet for the first time,The question is how long their kindness lasts.Don't be fooled just because someone is nice to you at first.

Passion

Knowledge wants to talk.Wisdom wants to listen.

Life

Many conflicts in our lives can be resolved if we put ourselves in the other person's shoes.Try to look at things from her point of view. If you consider only your side, you are no different from a child.

If you think you are either superior or inferior to someone,An invisible wall goes up between you.Treat him like an old friend you havnt seen in a while. When you let your guard down, so will he.

Do you know why that conversation is so boring?Because we are trapped in politeness, unable to speak from the heart. Any conversation can become interesting and lively as soon as we start speaking with real honesty.

Relationships 

Do memories cause you pain?Practice being in the present moment.Turn your attention to the here and now.Notice that your thoughts subside when you focus on the present.As your thoughts quiet so, too, the memories.Because memories are, in essence, thoughts.

Rest

People who easily ignore others do so because they are afraid of being ignored.

Do not try to control those around you.When you cannot control even your own mind, What makes you think you can control others?

Mindfullness

If you keep hoping to be comforted by others,You can feel weighed down by that need. If You have a constant need to be heard,Nobody can meet that need to your complete satisfaction. Rather than always seeking comfort from others,Offer your comfort and listen to others.In the process of helping, You will be healed.

What is the use of someone carrying a designer handbag when her behaviour lacks the same refinement?

Without love,Our lives would pass us by in the blink of an eye. Love has the power to stop the world for a moment.

Love

We do things for the one we love,But sometimes just being there expresses even deeper love.Give the gift of your full presence.

Are you a controlling parent?Are you devoting too much attention to your child? If the answer is yes,Then turn some of that attention toward your parents. If you are good to your own parents,Then your child will learn how to treat you in the future.

The Future 

The purpose of religion is to control yourself,Not to criticise others.How much am I doing about my anger, attachment, hatred, pride, and jealousy? These are the things we must check in our daily lives.

If we know how to be content,We can relax our endless striving and welcome serenity. If we know how to be content,We can enjoy the time we have with the person next to us. If we know how to be content,We can make peace with our past and let go of our baggage.

Love yourself despite your imperfections.Do you not feel compassion for yourself as you struggle through life? You are so eager to help your friends, but you treat yourself so poorly.Stroke your heart once in a while and tell yourself,'I love you'

Spirituality must be practiced not just in solitude but also among people.Open up to people around you and feel connected. This is the true challenge of spiritual practice.

Some people are generous and kind to those outside their circle while neglecting the needs of those within it.It is a mistake to take family and close colleagues for granted. When those closest to you feel ignored and betrayed, everything you have built can collapse in an instant.

Does the person you hate deserve to be carried around in your heart?Keep in your heart only those who love you. If you carry around with you people you hate, it causes only angst and depression.

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The multimillion-copy bestselling book of spiritual wisdom about the importance of slowing down in our fast-paced world, by the Buddhist author of Love for Imperfect Things “Wise advice on how to reflect and slow down.” —Elle Is it the world that’s busy, or is it my mind? The world moves fast, but that doesn’t mean we have to. This bestselling mindfulness guide by Haemin Sunim (which means “spontaneous wisdom”), a renowned Buddhist meditation teacher born in Korea and educated in the United States, illuminates a path to inner peace and balance amid the overwhelming demands of everyday life. By offering guideposts to well-being and happiness in eight areas—including relationships, love, and spirituality—Haemin Sunim emphasizes the importance of forging a deeper connection with others and being compassionate and forgiving toward ourselves. The more than twenty full-color illustrations that accompany his teachings serve as calming visual interludes, encouraging us to notice that when you slow down, the world slows down with you.

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The multimillion-copy bestselling book of spiritual wisdom about the importance of slowing down in our fast-paced world, by the Buddhist author of Love for Imperfect Things “Wise advice on how to reflect and slow down.” —Elle Is it the world that’s busy, or is it my mind? The world moves fast, but that doesn’t mean we have to. This bestselling mindfulness guide by Haemin Sunim (which means “spontaneous wisdom”), a renowned Buddhist meditation teacher born in Korea and educated in the United States, illuminates a path to inner peace and balance amid the overwhelming demands of everyday life. By offering guideposts to well-being and happiness in eight areas—including relationships, love, and spirituality—Haemin Sunim emphasizes the importance of forging a deeper connection with others and being compassionate and forgiving toward ourselves. The more than twenty full-color illustrations that accompany his teachings serve as calming visual interludes, encouraging us to notice that when you slow down, the world slows down with you.

Zen Buddhist teacher, bestselling author & founder of the School for Broken Hearts in Seoul.Born in South Korea and educated at Berkeley, Harvard, and Princeton, he received formal monastic training from Haein monastery, South Korea and taught Asian religions at Hampshire College in Massachusetts for seven years.He is one of the most influential Zen monks in the world, with over 1.5 million followers on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. His first book, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down has been translated into more than 35 different languages and sold over four million copies.His second book, Love for Imperfect Things was the number one bestseller of the year 2016 in South Korea and became available in multiple languages in 2019.

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What is it? Prayer is talking to God, having a conversation with him just the way we have with people.

Prayer - What Is It? 

Why should we pray? Because it is an important thing to do in a believer's day-to-day life. We live in a world, which is full of troubles, hurdles, confusion, and disturbance. And all we expect is peace, calmness, and comfort. And to submit all those things we have a savior with whom we need to talk every day.

Why Should We Pray?

Prayer sets you free from everything:When you pray to God, faith is the most important thing you need to haveMark 11:24 says, Whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you'll get it.So you might be wondering, even though I believe what's the exact day or time I will be receiving it? My dear, God will never forget his promises. He will give you it at the right time and in the right place. All you need to do is believe that you will receive it no matter how long it takes. The reason why he doesn't mention the exact time is that he keeps a test of our faith!

Prayer Sets You Free From Everything.

Importance of Prayer in a believer's life: I believe that no matter how many scriptures we see and read, a real-life example is what people get more connected to. So in my life, sometimes I feel so sick, physically and also mentally. It's because I think about my future and get anxious about it. I know that prayer is something that sets me free from these thoughts, giving all my thoughts will set me free but I never used to pray because of the thought that no matter how many times I pray I will be thinking the same things and get anxious again. This thought is from satan.

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But when I push myself and just close my eyes for a second and feel his presence, then pray to him, I feel so peaceful and light.And that is exactly why we need to pray. Instead of thinking about everything and giving satan our minds to control, we just need to pray to God. I know some days it feels so hard with all our worldly works and that's ok. That's completely fine. Getting back on track, reading and meditating on scripture, talking to God, and just surrounding ourselves in his presence are the only things in this world that give our minds the needed peace.

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Visualization is important because it helps to prepare and to teach you how to respond to a situation before it happens. It also helps you achieve your goals by conditioning your brain to see, hear, and feel the success in your mind.

Visualization

Visualization is effective because it harnesses the power of our subconscious mind. When we visualize goals as complete, it creates a conflict in our subconscious mind between what we are visualizing and what we currently have.

Why is visualization so powerful?

Visualization is a useful technique that helps you reach your goals and live your dreams. It works by getting your mind and body ready for what you want to happen – and, just like exercise, the more you do it, the stronger it becomes.

Does visualization actually work?

1.Answers a questionVisualisation can provide a quick, high level summary of the main information contained in the data.2.Poses new questionsQuite often the initial data investigations can lead to more questions and further exploration.3.Explore and discover4.Communicate information5.Support decisions6.Increase efficiency7.Inspire

The benefits of visualisation

The power of visualization can be used for anyone in a competitive setting. In fact, the most successful athletes in the world visualize their success before a competition.

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