If you tune a guitar properly, the sound becomes sweet. If you tune it too tightly, the pitch gets higher and higher. On the other hand, if you tune it too loosely the pitch gets lower and lower.

Our Emotions Are Like The Sound  Of A Guitar String.

Similarly, if you’re facing challenges without pushing yourself too hard and also without being too soft on yourself, you’ll feel positive, interested, and engaged. You can feel that your actions matter.

But if you’re pushing too hard, you’ll feel nervous, overwhelmed, and overstretched. And if you’re being too soft, you’ll feel bored at first and probably,you will not want to complete that challenge.

There are too many definitions and explanations of "What Emotions is?".. I just try to make it easier for you...

What is 'Emotions'? 

There are 6 types of "Negative self-talk".... Such as. <ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Catastrophizing</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Personalisation</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Blaming</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Filtering</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Over analysing</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Black-and-White thinking. </li></ul>

Types Of Negative Self-talk

It means to making bad situations seem much worse than they are. Suppose, You do something wrong with your best friend, and now you start thinking that, "what if, he/she doesn't talk to me?, What if, he/she doesn't forgive me? Will he/she pay attention to me later?" And so on....

Catastropisin

It means automatically referring everything to yourself, imagining it has something to do with you.Suppose,your girlfriend/boyfriend is angry. Now you start thinking, "He/she is angry with me. I did something wrong. I may not have done him/her that day, so he/she is angry with me." It is not always right to blame yourself. Besides, he/she is angry for another reason. I know,the example is ridiculous but it's relatable. Do you get the point?

Personalisation

Blame yourself and anyone else for any problem. For example, "today this work was not completed for him. How can I handle so much work alone? " Etc...

Blaming

This means only considering the negative aspects of something, not the positive ones.

Filtering

You fail at something one time, and from that conclude that you are a failure who can’t get anything right.Suppose you fail the math test once and you think that you will never get good marks in math. But it's not true, that you're a loser. Prepare yourself, give yourself some time and do it again.

Over analysing

Things are either awesome or they suck. If I get that job, then I am successful. Otherwise I am a looser. That's not right. The colour of our life are gray ,not black-and-white. Our life combine good and bad.

Black-and-White thinking. 

There are so many negative thoughts in our head. Take a notebook and catagorise these,to get a clear vision of your negative self-talk.

Talking to ourselves - and learning to listen We all speak to ourselves on a daily basis. Whether it's out loud or an internal (or infernal) commentary, we all practice self-talk and, how we speak to ourselves can have a significant effect on our emotions and subsequent actions. Some people's self-talk is mostly about the future while, for others, it's an internal dialogue about the past. Some self-talk is positive and upbeat, while other self-talk is harsh, critical or defeatist. Self-talk can focus on other people but, more often than not, it is about ourselves - and is often negative. If you listen carefully, you'll notice that your inner conversation reflects thoughts and emotions. Self-talk isn't random. It exhibits patterns that repeat themselves. And everyone has their own characteristic self-talk that is uniquely theirs. In The Science Of Self-Talk mindfulness expert, Ian Tuhovsky, explains how we can re-write the script when it comes to our internal communication. Through a series of simple exercises for use in daily life, you can understand your own self-talk in order to change the conversation. Learn how you can listen to and understand your internal dialogue in order to change it. Many of us practice negative self-talk by default - how many times have you called yourself an idiot or chastised yourself for not being good enough? Negative self-talk is a harmful habit which can lead to anxiety, depression and helplessness and, yet, this is something that most of us do on a regular basis. For many people, this is learned behaviour whereby caution against boasting leads to self-criticism or self deprecation. For others, this is a natural reflection of the self and one that can slowly corrode self esteem. This unique book covers: ●Constructive self-talk and dysfunctional self-talk - and knowing the difference.●The impact of negative self-talk●Learned helplessness●Positive self-talk - challenge or threat?●The Pareto Principle which says that, for many events, roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes.●Creating the right circumstances for motivation●Getting to know yourself●Loving yourself - emotional intelligence●Turning down the volume on your self-talkIn the past, people who engaged in negative self-talk or self-criticism were often labelled 'perfectionists', insinuating that it's actually a positive thing but it's so much more damaging than that. Learning to identify our negative self-talk behaviour is the first step toward freeing us from its grip. With the right tools, we can change our internal dialogue, opening ourselves up to new opportunities, increased self-esteem and confidence. More than just a self-help manual, The Science of Self-Talk is a Positive Psychology Coaching Series which explains the roots of self-talk, or, intrapersonal communication. The book explains that these are the thoughts that we 'hear' with the auditory part of our brain and which add a kind of commentary to our daily life. Self talk is a little like turning on the director's commentary on a movie. You can simply watch the movie or you can add in commentary about what's happening in it - this is, in a nutshell, what most of us do in our daily lives. The Science Of Self Talk can help you to re-write the script of your movie and improve the way that you - and others - see yourself.

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Talking to ourselves - and learning to listen We all speak to ourselves on a daily basis. Whether it's out loud or an internal (or infernal) commentary, we all practice self-talk and, how we speak to ourselves can have a significant effect on our emotions and subsequent actions. Some people's self-talk is mostly about the future while, for others, it's an internal dialogue about the past. Some self-talk is positive and upbeat, while other self-talk is harsh, critical or defeatist. Self-talk can focus on other people but, more often than not, it is about ourselves - and is often negative. If you listen carefully, you'll notice that your inner conversation reflects thoughts and emotions. Self-talk isn't random. It exhibits patterns that repeat themselves. And everyone has their own characteristic self-talk that is uniquely theirs. In The Science Of Self-Talk mindfulness expert, Ian Tuhovsky, explains how we can re-write the script when it comes to our internal communication. Through a series of simple exercises for use in daily life, you can understand your own self-talk in order to change the conversation. Learn how you can listen to and understand your internal dialogue in order to change it. Many of us practice negative self-talk by default - how many times have you called yourself an idiot or chastised yourself for not being good enough? Negative self-talk is a harmful habit which can lead to anxiety, depression and helplessness and, yet, this is something that most of us do on a regular basis. For many people, this is learned behaviour whereby caution against boasting leads to self-criticism or self deprecation. For others, this is a natural reflection of the self and one that can slowly corrode self esteem. This unique book covers: ●Constructive self-talk and dysfunctional self-talk - and knowing the difference.●The impact of negative self-talk●Learned helplessness●Positive self-talk - challenge or threat?●The Pareto Principle which says that, for many events, roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes.●Creating the right circumstances for motivation●Getting to know yourself●Loving yourself - emotional intelligence●Turning down the volume on your self-talkIn the past, people who engaged in negative self-talk or self-criticism were often labelled 'perfectionists', insinuating that it's actually a positive thing but it's so much more damaging than that. Learning to identify our negative self-talk behaviour is the first step toward freeing us from its grip. With the right tools, we can change our internal dialogue, opening ourselves up to new opportunities, increased self-esteem and confidence. More than just a self-help manual, The Science of Self-Talk is a Positive Psychology Coaching Series which explains the roots of self-talk, or, intrapersonal communication. The book explains that these are the thoughts that we 'hear' with the auditory part of our brain and which add a kind of commentary to our daily life. Self talk is a little like turning on the director's commentary on a movie. You can simply watch the movie or you can add in commentary about what's happening in it - this is, in a nutshell, what most of us do in our daily lives. The Science Of Self Talk can help you to re-write the script of your movie and improve the way that you - and others - see yourself.

Ian Tuhovsky is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Ian Tuhovsky has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Ian Tuhovsky's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

What is 'Emotions'?

The Science of Self Talk

Abir Ghosh