Abir Ghosh's Key Ideas from The Science of Self Talk
by Ian Tuhovsky

It means automatically referring everything to yourself, imagining it has something to do with you.

Suppose,your girlfriend/boyfriend is angry. Now you start thinking, "He/she is angry with me. I did something wrong. I may not have done him/her that day, so he/she is angry with me." It is not always right to blame yourself. Besides, he/she is angry for another reason. I know,the example is ridiculous but it's relatable. Do you get the point?

Blame yourself and anyone else for any problem.

For example, "today this work was not completed for him. How can I handle so much work alone? " Etc...

This means only considering the negative aspects of something, not the positive ones.

You fail at something one time, and from that conclude that you are a failure who can’t get anything right.

Suppose you fail the math test once and you think that you will never get good marks in math. But it's not true, that you're a loser. Prepare yourself, give yourself some time and do it again.

Things are either awesome or they suck.

If I get that job, then I am successful. Otherwise I am a looser. That's not right. The colour of our life are gray ,not black-and-white. Our life combine good and bad.