Many people are so stressed out because they give f*cks about too many thingsMany of which are irrelevant. This books tells us to choose what to give a f*ck about and commit to it. This means rejecting anything that opposes itE.g if you decide that settling down is something to give a f*ck about, then you should reject things like partying and one night stands or flings

Why Life Is Hard

Good values shapes us and our behaviour.They are also the metrics by which we define concepts such as success. Having good values and metrics is important in living a good lifeE.g A person whose metric of success is being better at something than someone else wont find happiness or peace because they are constantly looking for the next thing to conquer while consistently comparing themselves to others

Importance Of Good Values

Narrowing choices, specialising and committing to a single thing is more fulfilling than having a bit of several thingsHowever, one should still venture and explore other options or ideas or places so as to have a broad perspective. After which one can then choose to settle on sometjing

Less Is More

Subtlety #1: Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.

The sooner one realises that the world doesn't owe one anything neither does one owe the world anything, the better one's life would be.You are not special and shouldn't be treated any different

Self Entit

Taking responsibility for your life is choosing how to react and deal with situations that you find yourself inIt also means owning up to faults when one is in the wrongResponsibility And Fault are not the same thingFor example, sometimes in life, we are dealt a bad hand, that isnt our fault but we still have to find ways to deal with it and taresponsibility

Responsibility And Fault

Ernst Becker in his famous book, the denial of death says there is our physical self and our conceptual selfThe physical self is the body, who eats, sleeps, drinks etcThe conceptual self is the idea of ourselvesWe know we are going to die and are terrified of it and in an attempt to not truly die, we embark on projects and try to imprint on the world, building hospitals, making discoveries, spending time with family and loved ones and stuff so even long after we're dead, we havent been forgotten and dont really die.And that's truly worth giving a fck about

Death Terror

We should think about death more often. Accepting the fragility of your life and that you would die someday not only liberates you but also helps you in living a more guided and mindful lifeStop being afraid and start living a

What Legacy Are You Leaving Behind?

The book talks about the importance of giving a f*ck to only important matters and also having good values

#1 New York Times BestsellerOver 10 million copies soldIn this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

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Mark Manson (born 1984) is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries. He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net

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