Confidence is important in a relationship because it helps us talk to the person we like without seeking their approval or hinging our self-esteem on their reaction. When we aren't looking for them to validate our tastes and choices, we can appreciate their kind words without being misled or distracted by them.

Confidence In Relationships

You'll want a partner who respects not only your goals, but why they are your goals.In a relationship, remember that until you act on your goals, your partner won't know that they are truly important to you. Sometimes you have to start executing to have full buy-in. But in either case, if we don't know what our own goals are, we have no way of knowing how well they intersect with another person's.

Setting Goals 

If we are constantly looking for love or constantly focused on our partner, we'll be distracted from the vital work of understanding our-selves. If we don't understand ourselves, we risk taking on the tastes and values of our partner. Their vision becomes our vision. We don't want to mold ourselves to someone else simply because we don't know ourselves. We can integrate our partner's tastes with confidence and autonomy if we bring our own to the table.Through choices we make in solitude, we set our own standard for how we want to live and love and be loved.

Know Yourself 

With the space to write our narrative from our own point of view, we gradually overcome the influence of movies, books, our parents' or caregiver's model, or a partners wishes. We clarify our vision of love. Solitude helps you recognize that there is a you before, a you during, and a you after every relationship, forging your own way even when you have company and love We don’t make choices based on infatuation or follow someone else's vision of love or passively let things play out without knowing what we want Instead we gradually express the standard we’ve developed to check if it matches.

Solitude 

The author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Think Like a Monk offers a revelatory guide to every stage of romance, drawing on ancient wisdom and new science. Nobody sits us down and teaches us how to love. So we’re often thrown into relationships with nothing but romance movies and pop culture to help us muddle through. Until now. Instead of presenting love as an ethereal concept or a collection of cliches, Jay Shetty lays out specific, actionable steps to help you develop the skills to practice and nurture love better than ever before. He shares insights on how to win or lose together, how to define love, and why you don’t break in a break-up. Inspired by Vedic wisdom and modern science, he tackles the entire relationship cycle, from first dates to moving in together to breaking up and starting over. And he shows us how to avoid falling for false promises and unfulfilling partners. By living Jay Shetty’s eight rules, we can all love ourselves, our partner, and the world better than we ever thought possible.

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Jay Shetty is a storyteller, podcaster, and former monk. Shetty’s vision is to Make Wisdom Go Viral. He is on a mission to share the timeless wisdom of the world in an accessible, relevant, and practical way. Shetty has created over 400 viral videos with over 5 billion views, and hosts the #1 Health and Wellness podcast in the world, On Purpose. Learn more at JayShetty.me.

8 Rules of Love

Ananya Dobhal