When we pursue a new passion, our journey takes a different route compared to our friends.Everyone experiences a turning point when they set out on a new endeavour that they have always wanted to do.Describing our thoughts grows increasingly difficult, as only a select few comprehend our vision.This marks a significant transition point in our lives, often unnoticed.

The Lonely Chapter In Your Life

“bro you’ve become boring.”“Get a life!”“Are you too good for us now?”I received these comments and worse. Little do they know how exhilarating my life has become.Discovering insights that spark those “aha” moments and making connections with exceptionally talented individuals from all corners of the world are just a couple of the many aspects I enjoy in this new chapter of my life. The journey towards self-awareness and fulfillment can often feel like the uphill struggle of pushing a boulder, and those who find the courage of attempting it frequently discover that they are travelling alone.

Caught Between Worlds

This phase of your life doesn’t mean you’re completely different or that you’re on this journey alone, detached from the rest of your life.It signifies that you’re in the middle of something significant and haven’t yet attracted the new support system or friends who share your perspective and support your ambitions.Embracing this period can be challenging but even in solitude, there’s a unique beauty.Make the most of this time to develop a closer relationship with yourself, learn to enjoy spending time alone, and build confidence that will inevitably attract like-minded people.

Embrace Solitude

What matters most is the awareness that this stage of transition is temporary and, more significantly, that it is a turning point where your commitment to your goal will carry you through the challenging journey.

This Is Important

Gain an understanding of this life phase to become more aware and fully embrace it

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

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Career

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Personal Development

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Learning & Education

I once had a conversation with a wise military general who gave me valuable insight. He referred to it as the “equation of love”:1 + 1 = 1The essence of this equation is compromise. You and your partner become one by compromising.The exact balance may vary — it could be 50–50 or 60–40, depending on what works best for you both.Recognize the need for compromise in your love life, just as you compromise in various aspects of your everyday l﻿ife.

Togetherness Through Compromise

A simple analogy to signify the importance of compromise in love

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Philosophy

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Love & Relationships

Equation of Love

Love is not just a feeling or instinct, it’s a skill we need to learn.It might sound strange, but it’s the reality.Love isn’t something that magically develops on its own and lasts a lifetime.In my own quest for answers during a challenging time, I stumbled upon a piece of wisdom from Alain de Botton that has deeply impacted me.He explains an important aspect, the idea of marrying the wrong person.

The Surprising Truth About Marrying The Wrong Person

The truth is, most of us will never manage to find the right person, and that’s perfectly fine.what we can manage is, finding a good enough partner. You might have already found one.You may even occasionally wonder if you married the wrong person or if you’re compatible with your partner.Here’s the key: it’s the journey of love that allows you and your partner to grow and develop the capacity to tolerate your incompatibilities, ultimately achieving compatibility.

Here’s The Truth 

Now, let’s talk about compatibility in love. We often misunderstand it.Compatibility isn’t the starting point in finding love; it’s the outcome of love that sustains a relationship.When we search for love, we’re often seeking familiarity. Our early experiences with love, shaped by parents, movies, and books, influence our adult expectations.This means that we might unintentionally choose familiar-feeling partners over truly compatible ones.But what exactly is compatibility? It’s closely related to tolerance.

Compatibility

In Alain de Botton’s words, “love is not just admiration for strength; it is also tolerance for weakness and recognition for ambivalence.”In simpler terms, loving your partner isn’t just about adoring their strengths.It’s also about accepting their flaws and their unpredictability, understanding that it’s okay not to like everything about them.This love-hate dynamic is entirely normal because the person you love is a mixture of good and bad traits.None of us are easy to live with. Since we are all unique individuals with our own peculiarities, tolerance is a vital component of love.

Tolerance In Love

The secret for a happy and fulfilling marriage or relationship is a mix of the love-hate relationship, where admiration and tolerance coexist, with a healthy dose of compromise.In the end, love is a journey that involves learning, adapting, and growing alongside your partner rather than having a predetermined end point.If you embrace the skills of love, choose your familiarity carefully, exercise tolerance, and don’t be reluctant to compromise, you’ll be well on your way to finding a healthy and lasting relationship.

Here’s The Secret Sauce

Recently, I've been facing a challenging period, and this article significantly shifted my perspective. I hope it can bring value to you as well :)

Embrace a philosophy of pessimism. Every human will disappoint you, and you’ll do the same to them.

Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

Firstly, what is bipolar disorder?Bipolar refers to having two extreme moods, Extreme happy moments with great levels of dopamine outbursts which is known as mania followed by moments of depression.Bipolar disorder doesn’t manifest as all or nothing in a single moment; instead, it behaves more like a spectrum with oscillations.Around 2.4% of the global population suffers from bipolar disorder.

The Startling Connection Between Immigration and Bipolar Tendencies

I learned very quickly that when you emigrate, you lose the crutches that have been your support; you must begin from zero, because the past is erased with a single stroke and no one cares where you’re from or what you did before.

Generally people who choose to emigrate are very high risk takers as they are willing to give up essentially everything, family, friends, career, and community.The dopamine levels in immigrants are generally higher compared to nonimmigrants, as they experience stress, their brains release dopamine in the striatum (region in the brain associated with various functions, including reward processing).This high risk taking behavior increases the likelihood of developing bipolar disorder in the entire population.

The connection

Take a guess as to what is the final outcome when you put so many high risk takers in one economy…yep, the answer is technological advancements.These collective high risk takers in a nation are one of the reasons for exponential growth in technology in most developed countries, driving the economy to be richer and wealthier and this in economics is known as “migration lead growth”.

The Economic Impact

With such high risk taking and novelty seeking behavior, it almost makes them non committal.As they are so risk loving, they are always looking for change, they can’t commit to one single thing for a long time, this further extends into their relationships and career.A classic example of United States vs Japan in the book, “The Molecule of More”, which states the bipolar disorder percentage in the population.United States with a significant immigrant population has an approximate 4.4% of bipolar disorder in its population, whereas Japan with minimal immigration has bipolar disorder under 1%

This gets even crazier

If your answer to this question is yes, just like me, then remember these statistics and data should be used to give you a good perspective of the world and not an indication into your own life.You’ve no idea how overwhelming it was for me while researching this data.I spent hours looking up for prevention of bipolar disorder and was mainly unsuccessful. There is no absolute prevention of bipolar disorder or certain risk taking behavior.Genetics are a predominant reason for bipolar disorder and certain risk taking behaviors in individuals.

Are you an Immigrant or from an immigrant family?

While there is no absolute prevention, there are some precautions.Exercising, eating a balanced diet, getting a good night’s sleep, and keeping a consistent schedule may seem like common sense, but they are backed up by a wealth of research and evidence. It’s important to note that not all risk-takers develop bipolar disorder, and not all immigrants fit this mould. Risk-taking is not a trait exclusive to immigrants, nor is it a guarantee for success.

Any precautions?

These ideas give you a very good perspective into the world.

Why are we obsessed with the things we want only to be bored when we get them?  Why is addiction perfectly logical to an addict?  Why does love change so quickly from passion to indifference?  Why are some people die-hard liberals and others hardcore conservatives?  Why are we always hopeful for solutions even in the darkest times—and so good at figuring them out?  The answer is found in a single chemical in your brain: dopamine. Dopamine ensured the survival of early man. Thousands of years later, it is the source of our most basic behaviors and cultural ideas—and progress itself.  Dopamine is the chemical of desire that always asks for more—more stuff, more stimulation, and more surprises. In pursuit of these things, it is undeterred by emotion, fear, or morality. Dopamine is the source of our every urge, that little bit of biology that makes an ambitious business professional sacrifice everything in pursuit of success, or that drives a satisfied spouse to risk it all for the thrill of someone new. Simply put, it is why we seek and succeed; it is why we discover and prosper. Yet, at the same time, it's why we gamble and squander.  From dopamine's point of view, it's not the having that matters. It's getting something—anything—that's new. From this understanding—the difference between possessing something versus anticipating it—we can understand in a revolutionary new way why we behave as we do in love, business, addiction, politics, religion—and we can even predict those behaviors in ourselves and others.  In The Molecule of More: How a Single Chemical in Your Brain Drives Love, Sex, and Creativity—and will Determine the Fate of the Human Race, George Washington University professor and psychiatrist Daniel Z. Lieberman, MD, and Georgetown University lecturer Michael E. Long present a potentially life-changing proposal: Much of human life has an unconsidered component that explains an array of behaviors previously thought to be unrelated, including why winners cheat, why geniuses often suffer with mental illness, why nearly all diets fail, and why the brains of liberals and conservatives really are different.

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Mental Health

Daniel Z. Lieberman

Michael E. Long

The Molecule of More

You don’t have to chase millions of views, land brand deals, or set up countless marketing affiliates to make a six-figure income.All it takes is cultivating a dedicated fanbase of 1000 true supporters.

A Qualitative Path to Earning $100,000 as a Content Creator

You don’t need a huge audience in order to thrive. You only need 1,000 people that LOVE what you do and are willing to pay for it

Your true fans are those who are genuinely devoted to what you create. They’re willing to pay most of what you produce if not all.They’ll go the extra mile to connect with you.Let’s break down the math. The core concept here is to aim for an average profit of $100 from each true fan per year. The income you receive should be direct, without any platform commissions eating into it.So, $100 multiplied by 1000 true fans equals $100,000.However, keep in mind that the number 1000 isn’t set in stone. You have flexibility. You could charge less, say $20, and still thrive with 5000 true fans.

The 1000 true fans Idea 

Nowadays, it’s not about quantity; it’s about quality.What does “value” mean in this context?Well, it’s about creating content that genuinely helps, informs, entertains, or inspires your audience. It’s content that makes them say, “Wow, this is worth my time!” Building trust and credibility with your audience takes time. It’s like nurturing a plant. If you provide value consistently, people will come to see you as a trusted source in your niche. Engagement is key here. You’ve got to interact with your audience. Answer their questions, respond to comments, and encourage discussions.

Value vs Volume

Unlocking the Potential: Earning $100,000 as a Content Creator with 1,000 True Fans. This fundamental idea has given me a great approach towards my work to which I've added my own layers. Hopefully you find it useful and can add your own layers to it.

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Money & Investments

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Reading & Writing

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Entrepreneurship

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Business

A year ago, my journey into the world of premium sales opened my eyes to the undeniable significance of voice tone not only in sales but also in personal interactions.
Here are five ways for you to improve your communication:
<ol>
<li>Use Vocal Variation</li>
<li>The Power of Pitch Variation</li>
<li>Strategize Your Conversations</li>
<li>Involve Your Eyes More!</li>
<li>Personalize Your Behavior</li>
</ol>

A Guide to Developing Effective Communication

When we speak with a monotonous tone, our listeners quickly lose interest.In contrast, tonal variations in expressing emotions can have a profound impact on communication.Tonality isn’t one-size-fits-all.Different social and professional situations demand distinct tonal approaches.Adapting your voice tone to suit various scenarios can significantly enhance your communication skills.

1. Use Vocal Variation

Studies have revealed how pitch influences our ability to convey emotions and establish authority.Employ lower pitches to assert authority and credibility in your statements.Use high-pitched tones to convey excitement and surprise.The rise and fall in the frequency of our voice, is essential element of effective communication.

2. The Power of Pitch Variation

Effective conversations are the cornerstone of successful sales and personal interactions.Open-ended questions! Use open-ended questions to drive those conversations.Asking the right questions can foster meaningful connection and help you better understand your clients’ needs and preferences.Share relatable experiences to create a genuine connection with your audience, enhancing your ability to influence and persuade.Tailor your product or service to meet the needs and problems of your clients, using insights gained from earlier conversations.

3. Strategise Your Conversations

Eye contact isn’t just about making a connection; it also plays a pivotal role in nonverbal communication.Mastering the art of maintaining appropriate eye contact can boost your professional image and influence.A strong yet respectful eye contact leaves a positive first impression. It signals that you are interested and attentive.Sustained eye contact, especially when combined with a warm and genuine smile, can convey trustworthiness and sincerity. It suggests that you are open and honest in your communication.

4. Involve Your Eyes More!

Personalisation is the key in effective communication.Mirror communication style, whether it’s their tone, pace, or even body language, it signals that you are on the same wavelength.This shared style fosters a sense of connection and mutual understanding.Effective leaders often use mirroring and adapting to connect with their teams.By understanding and aligning with the communication styles of team members, leaders can provide clearer guidance and motivate their team.Mirroring and adapting can be helpful to de-escalate tense situations and create a more scope for negotiation and compromise.

5. Personalise Your Behavior

These ideas are  personal to me as I've built a great foundation in sales with these, hope these help :)

The Lonely Chapter In Your Life

Equation of Love

Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

The Molecule of More

A Qualitative Path to Earning $100,000 as a Content Creator

Aniketh Kajjam