He recognizes communication with no conditions, no strings attached, no ulterior motive, no sales job, no desperate attempt to be liked.Somehow, after years of travel, it was in perhaps the most un-American of places where I first experienced a particu- lar flavor of freedom: the ability to say whatever I thought or felt, without fear of repercussion. It was a strange form of liberation through accepting rejection.

Author Manson Views On Russia

The point is this: we all must give a fuck about some- thing, in order to value something. And to value something, we must reject what is not that something. To value X, we must reject non-X.

Importantance Of Saying No

Shakespeare wrote Romeo and Juliet not to glorify romance, but to criticize how irrational and reckless it can be. The play highlights the dangers of impulsive love, serving as a warning rather than a celebration.

Understand Deep Meaning Of History Correctly.

1. Toxic vs. Healthy Relationships:In toxic relationships, people blame others for their problems or take responsibility for their partner's problems. This creates dependency and avoids accountability.In healthy relationships, individuals take responsibility for their own problems and support each other without trying to "fix" one another.2. What Are Boundaries?Boundaries are the lines between what you're responsible for and what your partner is responsible for.

A Relationship - 1

People with strong boundaries solve their own problems and don’t try to control their partner's emotions or actions.3. Toxic Patterns:Victims blame others and expect to be "saved" for attention and love.Savers take responsibility for fixing others, hoping it will make them feel valued and loved.These roles often stem from childhood experiences and perpetuate toxic cycles.4. Unconditional Love:True love means supporting your partner while they solve their own problems—not fixing their issues or blaming them for yours.Acts of love should be voluntary, not out of obligation or guilt.

A Relationship - 2

5. Signs of Healthy Relationships:Both partners respect each other’s independence and personal growth.They accept that they can’t meet every need or prevent all hurt feelings.Love is based on mutual respect and support, not conditions or manipulation.6. Key Test for Boundaries:Ask yourself: If either of us refused to do something, would the relationship stay intact?Healthy relationships can handle disagreements without falling apart.

A Relationship - 3

If we focus too much on always feeling good or making our partner feel good, no one ends up happy, and the relationship quietly falls apart.Conflict is essential for trust. It reveals who genuinely supports us and who is there for selfish reasons. Trust cannot grow without challenges; no one trusts someone who agrees with everything. The discomfort in relationships helps build deeper trust and intimacy.Rebuilding trust is a long and challenging process, and both parties must understand the difficulty of what they’re committing to.

Build A Trust 1

In healthy relationships, both people need to feel free to say "no" and accept "no" without fear. Without this balance, boundaries collapse, and one person’s needs overpower the other’s. Conflict isn’t just normal—it’s vital for maintaining a healthy, honest relationship. Without it, relationships become manipulative and eventually toxic.Trust is fragile, like a china plate. If broken once, it can be repaired with effort. But if it’s broken repeatedly, it becomes harder to restore and may eventually become irreparable

1. Admitting Fault and Owning Values:The person who broke the trust must acknowledge the harmful values or attitudes that led to their actions, like selfishness or disrespect for the relationship. They must also show they’ve changed those values. Without this honesty, there’s no foundation for rebuilding trust.2. Proving Change Through Actions:Words alone aren’t enough. The trust-breaker must demonstrate consistent, improved behavior over time to show they’ve truly changed.

Rebuilding Requires 2 Critical Steps:

1. Diminishing Returns of Experiences:When you’re new to something, the first experiences feel exciting and transformative. But as you gain more experience, each new adventure, possession, or relationship impacts you less.2. Choosing Depth Over Breadth:Instead of chasing endless options, focusing deeply on what truly matters brings greater satisfaction. For example, committing to a career, a relationship, or a small group of meaningful friendships leads to more fulfillment than constantly seeking variety.

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3. Freedom in Commitment:Commitment reduces distractions and simplifies decision-making, freeing you from the constant pursuit of "more." It allows you to focus on your most important goals and values, ultimately leading to greater happiness and success.4. Breadth vs. Depth:Exploring widely is important when you're young—it helps you discover what’s worth committing to. But true reward comes from diving deep into a few meaningful areas, whether it’s relationships, work, or personal growth.

Welcome to suffering is Inevitable"

PART-2: All catchy things I catched.😉 (it's sexy book afterall)

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Love & Relationships

The subtle art of not giving a fuck

The world constantly tells you that a better life comes from more -more stuff, more status, more achievements. But this mentality is harmful to your mental health. It leads overattachment to superficial things and a never-ending chase for happiness. The key to a good life is not about giving a fuck about more, but about giving a fuck about less. Focus on what's truly important, immediate, and authentic. Social media makes you feel inadequate compared to others.

Don't Loop

The solution is to stop obsessing over always being happy or successful and practice the "subtle art of not giving a fuck." This means choosing what truly matters to care about and letting go of trivial worries. By accepting pain, failure, and discomfort as inevitable parts of life, we break the cycle of negativity and find peace and fulfillment. Pursuing happiness or perfection often makes us more unhappy, but embracing life’s struggles leads to genuine growth.

Feedback Loop from Hell,

The point isn't to get away from the shit. The point is to find the shit you enjoy dealing with.If there is nothing to fuck with then mind automatically gives fucks about meaning less things.Choosing what's important and what's is not.This book will teach you to turn your pain into a tool and your problems slightly into better problems. That is a real progress. Think of it Some guide to suffer for meaningful problems.

To Many Fucks

Happiness comes from solving problems. The keyword here is "solving". If you're are avoiding your problems or feel like you don't have any problems, then you're going to make yourself miserable. If you feel like you have problems that you can't solve, you like wise make yourself miserable. The secret sauce here is in the solving the problems, not in not having problems on the first place.

👌

Everyone desires happiness, success, love, and a fulfilling life. It’s easy to dream about these things—they’re inherently enjoyable and universally appealing. But the real question isn’t what you want in life; it’s what struggles you’re willing to endure to achieve those desires. That willingness, more than ambition or talent, determines your success and fulfillment. The same is true for relationships. A meaningful connection requires enduring tough conversations, heartbreaks, and emotional ups and downs. In the end what defines you isn’t what you want but what you’re willing to suffer for.

Struggle Is Sweet

Relying on happiness as a goal often backfires because emotions are fleeting. What brings joy today loses its charm tomorrow, as we constantly crave more—a new house, relationship, or pay raise. This endless pursuit leaves us feeling as we started: unfulfilled. True contentment lies not in chasing fleeting emotions but in finding meaning beyond them.Fleeting: is short-lived or temporary.

Emotions Are Overrated

The true measurement of self worth is not how a person feels about her positive experiences but rather how she feels about her negative experiences.People whos thoughts are highly upon them are generally performed better and have caused by fewer problems

Pain Is Sweet

Author says; "my lack of confidence compounds, unconfidence about my sounding unconfident making me more unconfirndent. That fucking feedback Loop from hell."The deeper the pain, the more helpless we feel against our problems.The truth is that there's no such thing as a personal problem. If you've got a problem, chances are millions of other people have had it in the past, have it now, and are going to have it in the future. Likely people you know too. That doesn't minimize the problem or mean that it shouldn't hurt. It doesn't mean a victim.

Rewind

There in two ways;1. I'm awesome and the rest of you all suck, so i deserve special treatment.2. I suck and the rest of you are all awesome, so I deserve a special treatment.These both statements are opposite mindsets, but the same selfish ness creamy core in the middle.The more we see opinions that differ from ours, the more upset we get that those opinions exist. The easier our lives become, the more we feel we deserve even better.

Entitlements

To become truly great at something, you have to dedicate shit-tons of time and energy to it.This constant steam of unrealistic media dogpiles onto our existing feelings of insecurity, by overexposing us to the unrealistic standards we fail to live up to.Technology has solved old economic problems by giving us new physchologies problems. The internet has not just open sourced information; it also open sourced insecurity, self-doubt and shame.You will have a growing appreciation for life's basic experiences such things as helping people, reading a good book, laughing with some one

Standing Against Whole Doesn't Work

If suffering is inevitable, if our problems in life are un- avoidable, then the question we should be asking is not "How do I stop suffering?" but "Why am I suffering-for what purpose?"The nature of our problems determines the quality of our lives.People may perceive that they feel lonely. But when they ask themselves why they feel lonely, they tend to come up with a way to blame others everyone else is mean, or no one is cool or smart enough to understand them and thus they further avoid their problem instead of seeking to solve. We get control of problem based on how we choose, think,measure

Suffering Is Inevitable

Often the only difference between a problem being painful or powerful is a sense that we chose it and that we are responsible for it. blaming others means pointing fingers, but taking responsibility means owning your reactions and choices. Others might cause your problems, but only you can control how you feel about them. You decide how to see, react to, and measure your experiences.Taking responsibility always important that is called real learning, blaming others simply is hurting yourself.Example as genetics is not their fault but it's still their responsibility.

You Are Always Choosing

In poker, only consistent best choices can make a player win the game than players with best cards.

Poker lesson

Growth is endless iterative process from going wrong to slightly less wrong and then less wrong to again less wrong than that, we are always in the process of approaching truth and perfection without actually ever reaching them.Many people become so obsessed with being "right" about their life's that they never end up actually living it.Being wrong opens up to the possibility of change. Being wrong brings the opportunity of growth.The opness to being wrong must exist for any real change is growth to take place.

Your Wrong About Everything

Our brain is always trying to make sense of our current situation based on what we already believe and have already experienced. Every new piece of informa- tion is measured against the values and conclusions we already have. As a result, our brain is always biased toward what we feel to be true'in that moment.the more you try to be certain about something, the more uncertain and insecure you will feel.The more you embrace being uncertain and not knowing, the more comfortable you will feel in knowing what you don't know.Somethings that are uncertain and threatening are avoided by us.

Believe Is Uncertain

There are certain comforts that comes with knowing hiw you fit into this world. Anything that shakes up that comforts even if it could potentially make your life better is inherently scary.

Don’t try to be extraordinary or overly unique. Instead, focus on simple, broad roles like being a student, partner, or friend. When you define yourself narrowly or as something rare, it makes you feel more vulnerable to challenges. Choosing a simple, ordinary identity helps you feel more stable and less threatened by life’s difficulties.

Buddhism teaches that your sense of self is just a mental creation, not something real. Holding on to this idea of "you" and the ways you define yourself only limits you. Letting go of these attachments frees you. In a way, it’s like saying Buddhism encourages you to stop worrying so much about yourself.

What if am wrong: "Am I jealous-and if I am, then why?" "Am I angry?" she right, and I'm just protecting my ego?"

Understand that;"If you really want to accomplish something but don't feel motivated or inspired, then you're assume you're screwed."Action --> Inspiration --> Motivation ✅️If you lack motivation in doing something just "DO SOMETHING", it gives you way to understand to your passions or likeable that you want to put into your life.When small things that iterate daily makes a big change.The gap between success and you is just to do something.

Do Something

PART-1: All catchy things i catched in this book.

#1 New York Times BestsellerOver 10 million copies soldIn this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

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Mindfulness

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Strategy

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Mental Health

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Books

Mark Manson (born 1984) is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries. He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net

Mark Manson

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

Happy situations don’t last long, and sometimes we can’t avoid unhappy ones.Being consciously aware helps us understand what’s happening around us. Without this awareness, we might find ourselves lost in our thoughts forever.Think and act upon what's important to you

Mindfulness is something you need to adopt. It helps keep negative thoughts and distractions out of your mind. You’ll feel lighter and more engaged in your tasks, leading to improved workflow.For experience:Practice 5-4-3-2-1 approachSpot:5 thing you can see,👁️4 things you can touch,🤝3 things you can hear,👂2 things you can smell,👃1 thing you can taste.👅

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Meditation

Acceptance and being present

Rich people think about money differently; they make it work for them.When life pushes us around, most people react by taking out their frustrations on their jobs or loved ones. However, wise individuals use these challenges as learning opportunities, reflecting on their own views and mistakes.Believing that problems stem from others keeps us trapped in a cycle of blame. Instead, viewing yourself as capable of handling all situations fosters wisdom and growth.In the terms of money, most people play it safe because they are afraid of losing it.

Rich Don't Work for Money;

Fear stems from worries about affording necessities, handling taxes, or feeling insecure about not having enough money. Greed arises when people have money saved and feel compelled to buy unnecessary items.

Fear And Greed

A liability takes money out of your pocket.An asset increases the value of your money.The cash flow patterns of poor, middle-class, and rich people differ based on their assets and liabilities.Income Sheet:Income: Money earned from various sources.Expenses: Money spent on living costs and other necessities.Balance Sheet:Assets: Items that increase in value or generate income.Liabilities: Items that decrease in value or incur costs.

Assets And Liabilities

Be creative in business while excelling (Be innovative in business while doing your job well. Simultaneously, focus on building assets for future growth) in your profession. Improve your assets simultaneously for future growth.

Bussiness

1. Accounting2. Investing3. Understanding market4. The law5. Supply and demand

Factors

FearCriticismLazinessBad habits ( expenses)

Overcome

Clash flowPeopleSystem

Management Skills

Think big to grasp big opportunities. Master the market and uncover insider knowledge.

Finally

The single most asset we have is our mind.

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Marketing & Sales

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Money & Investments

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Motivation & Inspiration

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Leadership & Management

Although we have been successful in our careers, they have not turned out quite as we expected. We both have changed positions several times-for all the right reasons-but there are no pension plans vesting on our behalf. Our retirement funds are growing only through our individual contributions. Michael and I have a wonderful marriage with three great children. As I write this, two are in college and one is just beginning high school. We have spent a fortune making sure our children have received the best education available. One day in 1996, one of my children came home disillusioned with school. He was bored and tired of studying. “Why should I put time into studying subjects I will never use in real life?” he protested. Without thinking, I responded, “Because if you don't get good grades, you won't get into college.” “Regardless of whether I go to college,” he replied, “I'm going to be rich.”

Kiyosaki is best known for his book Rich Dad, Poor Dad, the #1 New York Times bestseller. Kiyosaki followed with Rich Dad's CASHFLOW Quadrant and Rich Dad's Guide to Investing.

The subtle art of not giving a fuck

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

Acceptance and being present

Rich Dad Poor Dad - What the Rich Teach Their Kids About Money

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