Don't fall into the trap of thinking, "If I'm struggling, I must deserve to be struggling. I must be struggling because I'm useless."

Avoid the "belief in a just world" trap. 

"Remind yourself that you’re doing what you can right now given the circumstances and your resources. Practice flexibility so that you can take advantage of opportunities for change."

If you tend to react to stress by attempting to just work harder, try slowing down instead. You might already be trying your hardest.By telling yourself the problem is not working hard enough, you're likely to close yourself off to trying new ways of coping.<ul><li>Example: People who respond to overeating by telling themselves they just need to try harder to stick to their diet next time. By attributing the problem to not trying hard enough, they try to solve it through willpower rather than seeking other strategies.</li></ul>

Avoid the "I just need to work harder" trap. 

<ul><li>People thinking their way out of their problems can be adaptive but it's important to understand that overthinking in a depressed mood impairs a person's quality of problem-solving solutions. </li><li>Recognize that the answer to your problems probably does not lie in doing more thinking.</li><li>Taking a break from thinking about your problems is more likely to lead to you taking action on simple things you could do to improve your situation or mood.</li><li>Take a break from overthinking through activities that practice focusing your attention elsewhere like seeing friends meditations.</li></ul>

When you‘re tired of life, recognize rumination. 

<ul><li>Bipolar disorder's core treatment encourages developing regular routines of sleeping, eating, socializing, and working.</li><li>Regulating rhythms helps regulate mood and energy. This basic principle is true for people generally.</li></ul>

Regulate your rhythms. 

<ul><li>If you're feeling paralyzed by fear and exhausted by life, you're probably experiencing the freeze aspect of the "fight-flight-freeze" response.</li><li>Develop a personalized plan for simple things you can do when your anxiety is high or your mood is low, like using simple physiological strategies to calm your nervous system like:</li></ul><ol><li>Try rolling up your sleeve and stroking your arm (releases oxytocin).</li><li>Gently rubbing your lips with one or two fingers.</li></ol>

Use physiological self-soothing strategies. 

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6 Tips for What to Do When You Feel Exhausted by Life | Psychology Today

Obsession makes us gaze in only one direction at one thing, whether a habit, a memory or a person, and washes away all other concerns - but obsession amounts to the same thing in all cases: <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/addiction">addiction</a>.

Obsession is addiction

It fills us up (especially if we felt empty before). But even if we didn't feel empty, obsession makes us feel potent, capable, and purposeful.

Obsession is intoxicating

Like all addictions, with time obsession makes us neglect parts of our lives we shouldn't. If allowed to become too consuming, obsession causes us to devalue important dimensions of our lives and tolerate their atrophy and even their collapse. But even if our lives remain in balance, if the object of our obsession is taken from us, we find ourselves devastated, often convinced we've lost our last chance at <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/happiness">happiness </a>

Obsession unbalances us

Do not seek to extinguish obsession but seek to control it. Our ability to bend our emotions to our will is poor, but not our ability to manage them. We can make our obsessions work for us rather than work us over. And we can learn to let them go when the time comes.

Denying its existence makes obsession worse

<ol><li>Distract yourself at varying intervals. Find something attractive and pleasurable to distract you from your obsession. Do something that takes you out of your own head like reading a book or starting a new habit.</li><li>Accomplish a task that helps put your obsession behind you. Often taking a solid step forward in some way frees you to walk away from an obsession temporarily to recharge your batteries. And when you do, turn back to something else in your life you've been neglecting</li><li>Finding and embracing a mission in life will defend you against the sense your life is meaningless.</li><li>Adopt a practice that grounds you. Do something physical in different surroundings to engage a different part of your mind that's interested in other things besides your obsession.</li><li>Allow time to pass. With time, many obsessions gradually lose their flavor.</li><li>Listen to what others tell you. If your close friends and family express concern over your being obsessed, they're probably right. Be open to these messages.</li></ol>

Ways to manage obsession

Our ability to bend our emotions to our will is poor, but not our ability to manage them. We can make our obsessions work for us rather than work us over.

6 Tips for What to Do When You Feel Exhausted by Life | Psychology Today

Overcoming Obsession | Psychology Today

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