<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">All your actions, feelings, behaviors - even your abilities - are always consistent with your self image.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">You will “act like” the sort of person you conceive yourself to be. Not only that but you literally cannot act otherwise in spite of all your conscious efforts or willpower.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The self-image can be changed</li></ul>

The Self-Image : Your Key to a Better Life

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Get a New Mental Picture of Yourself</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Your success mechanism works often take care of themselves and do so effortlessly when you supply the goal to your brain.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Many people make the mistake of interfering with their success mechanism by demanding a how before a goal is clearly established.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">After you’ve formed a mental image of the goal you seek to create, the “how” will come to you—not before</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Remain calm and relaxed and the answers will arrive. Any attempt to force the ideas to come will not work. As Brian Tracy wrote, “In all mental workings, effort defeats itself”</li></ul>

Discovering Success Mechanism Within You

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">A human being always acts and feels and performs in accordance with what he imagines to be true about himself and his environment.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">You must have a clear mental picture of the correct thing before you can do it successfully.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The aim of self image psychology is not to create a fictitious self that is all-powerful, arrogant, egoistic and all-important. Such an image is as inappropriate and unrealistic as the inferior image of self. Our aim is to find the real self, and to bring our mental images of ourselves more in line with the objects represented by our goals.</li></ul>

Imagination : First Key to Your Success Mechanism

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Set aside a period of 30 minutes each day when you can be alone an undisturbed. Relax and make yourself as comfortable as possible. Now close your eyes and exercise your imagination.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">You can go back into your past and find a “successful” memory, an occasion when you did something well.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The biggest key is to practice every day.</li></ul>

Imagination : To-do's

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Within you right now is the power to do things you never dreamed possible. This power becomes available to you just as soon as you can change your beliefs.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Feelings of inferiority originate not so much from facts or experiences, but our conclusions regarding facts, and out evaluation of experiences.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Inferiority and superiority are reverse sides of the same coin. The cure lies in realizing that the coin itself is spurious.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The truth about you is : You are not “inferior” You are not “superior” You are simply “YOU”</li></ul>

Dehypnotize Yourself from False Beliefs

<ul><li>Stop measuring yourself against ‘their’ standards. You are not “them” and can never measure up. Neither can “they” measure up to your—nor should they. Once you see this simple, rather self-evident truth, accept it, and believe it, your inferior feelings will vanish.</li><li>Physical relaxation plays a key role in the dehypnotization process</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Seat yourself comfortably in an easy chair or lie down on your back. Consciously “let go” the various muscle groups as much as possible without making too much of an effort of it. Just consciously pay attention to the various parts of your body and let go a little</li></ul>

To-do's :

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Our errors, mistakes, failures, and sometimes even our humiliations, were necessary steps in the learning process. However, they were meant to be means to an end—and not an end in themselves. When they have served their purpose, they should be forgotten.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">If we consciously dwell on the error, or consciously feel guilty about the error and keep berating ourselves because of it, then the error or failure itself becomes the “goal” that is consciously held in imagination and memory</li></ul>

How to Utilize the Power of Rational Thinking

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Picture yourself what you would like to be and have, and assume for the moment that such things might be possible. Arouse a deep desire for these things. Become enthusiastic about them. Dwell on them—and keep going over them in your mind. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Remember that your automatic mechanism can as easily function as a Failure Mechanism as it can as a Success Mechanism, based on the data you give it to process. It is basically a goal-striving mechanism. The goal it works on are up to you.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">We must learn to do our work, act on the best assumptions available, and leave results to take care of themselves.</li></ul>

<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Do your worrying before you place your bet, not after the wheel starts turning</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Form the Habit of consciously responding to the present moment</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Try to do only one thing at a time</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Sleep on it. [If you have been wrestling with a problem all day without making any apparent progress, try dismissing it from your mind, and put off making a decision until you’ve had a chance to “sleep on it”]</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Relax while you work</li></ol>

Five Rules for freeing your Creative Machinery

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Happiness is not the reward of virtue, but virtue itself; nor do we delight in happiness because we restrain our lusts; but on the contrary, because we delight in it, therefore are we able to restrain them</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Happiness comes from being and acting unselfishly—as a natural accompaniment to the being and acting, not as a “payoff” or prize.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Happiness Does Not Lie in the Future but in the Present.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Form the habit of reacting aggressively and positively toward threats and problems. Form the habit of being goal-oriented all the time, regardless of what happens.</li></ul>

You can Acquire the Habit of Happiness

"Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be"

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">A man does not simply find success or come to failure. He carries their seeds around in his personality and character.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">S : Sense of Direction</li><li class="ql-align-justify">U : Understanding</li><li class="ql-align-justify">C : Courage</li><li class="ql-align-justify">C : Compassion</li><li class="ql-align-justify">E : Esteem</li><li class="ql-align-justify">S : Self-Confidence</li><li class="ql-align-justify">S : Self-Acceptance</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Accept yourself as you are—and start from there.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Learn to emotionally tolerate imperfection in yourself. It is necessary to intellectually recognize our shortcomings, but disastrous to hate ourselves because of them.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Accept yourself. Be yourself.</li></ul>

Ingredients of the "Success-Type" Personality

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">No one is immune to the negative feelings and attitudes. Even the most successful personalities experience them at time. The important thing is to recognize them for what they are, and take positive action to correct course.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Understanding Brings Cure</li><li class="ql-align-justify">F : Frustration</li><li class="ql-align-justify">A : Aggressiveness</li><li class="ql-align-justify">I : Insecurity</li><li class="ql-align-justify">L : Loneliness</li><li class="ql-align-justify">U : Uncertainty</li><li class="ql-align-justify">R : Resentment</li><li class="ql-align-justify">E : Emptiness</li></ul>

The Failure Mechanism

Many people who have emotional scars have not suffered physical injuries. However, the impact on their personality is the same. These individuals have been hurt or injured by someone in the past. To protect themselves from future harm, they form a spiritual callus or emotional scar to shield their ego.The person who feels "lonely" or out of touch with others also feels disconnected from their true self & life.<ul><li>Emotional scars on our egos also have another detrimental effect. They lead to the build a damaged self-image, which is disliked/rejected by others, and struggles to coexist in society.</li></ul>

How to Remove Emotional Scars or Give Yourself an Emotional Face

<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Be too Big to feel threatened</li><li class="ql-align-justify">A self-reliant, responsible attitude makes you less vulnerable</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Relax away Emotional Hurts</li></ol> <ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Give Yourself a Spiritual Face-Lift</li><li>You can forgive, if you’re willing.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">We find it difficult to forgive only because we like our sense of condemnation. We get a perverse and morbid enjoyment out of nursing our wounds. As long as we can condemn another, we can feel superior to him.</li><li>Forgive Yourself as well as Others.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">You made mistakes. Mistakes do not make “you”</li></ul>

What to do ?

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">What we call “personality” is the outward evidence of that unique and individual creative self, or what might be called the free and full expression of your real self.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">“Poor personality” or “inhibited personality” are one and the same. The inhibited personality has imposed a restraint on the expression of the real self.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Negative feedback always says in effect, “Stop what you’re doing, or the way you’re doing it—and do something else.” Its purpose is to modify response, or change the degree of forward action—not to stop all action.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Excessive Carefulness leads to inhibition and Anxiety.</li></ul>

How to Unlock Your Real Personality

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The way to make a good impression on other people is : Never consciously “try” to make a good impression on them. Never act, or fail to act, purely for consciously contrived effect. never “wonder” consciously what the other person is thinking of you, how he is judging you.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The attitude of being immune to strangers or strange situation, this total disregard for all the unknown or unexpected has a name. It is called poise. Poise is the deliberate shunting aside of all fears arising from new and uncontrollable circumstances</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Balance and harmony are what is needed.</li></ul>

How to Unlock your Real Personality Pt 2

“We cannot think first and act afterwards. From the moment of birth we are immersed in action, and can only fitfully guide it by taking thought”

A “crisis” is a situation that can either make you or break you. If you react properly to the situation, a “crisis” can give you strength, power, wisdom you do not ordinarily possess.<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Practice Without Pressure</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Crisis Brings Power</li><li class="ql-align-justify">What is the worst that can possibly happen?</li></ol> When great demands are made upon us, if only we fearlessly accept the challenge and confidently expend our strength, every danger or difficulty brings its own strength—’As thy days so shall thy strength be’

How to turn a Crisis into a Creative Opportunity

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The possibility of the goal must be seen so clearly that it becomes “real” to your brain and nervous system.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">If we keep our positive goal in mind, and picture it to ourselves so vividly as to make it “real”, and think of it in terms of an accomplished fact, we will also experience winning feelings : self-confidence, courage, and faith that the outcome will be desirable</li><li class="ql-align-justify">When you feel successful and self-confident, you will act successfully. When the feeling is strong, you can literally do no wrong.</li></ul>

How to get that Winning Feeling

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">If you can recapture “that winning feeling”, you also evoke all the “winning actions” that accompanied it.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Build Success Patterns into Your Gray Matter</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Go back in memory and relive those successful experiences. In your imagination revive the entire picture in as much detail as you can. In your mind’s eye “see” not only the main event, but all the little incidental things that accompanied your success.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Our present thinking, mental habits, attitudes toward past experiences, and toward the future—all have an influence upon old recorded engrams. </li></ul>

Winning Feeling Pt-2

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Activity Means Life</li><li>Look forward and Live</li><li>Life itself is adaptive; that life is not just an end in itself, but a means to an end. Life is one of the “means” we are privileged to use, in various ways, to achieve important goals.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Create a Need for More Life</li><li>We age, not by years, but by events and our emotional reactions to them.</li><li>Faith, courage, interest, optimism, looking forward bring us new life and more life. Futility, pessimism, frustration, or living in the past are not only characteristic of “old age”, they also contribute to it.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Retire from a Job, but Never Retire from Life</li></ul>

More Years of Life and More Life in your Years

Whatever your definition of happiness may be, you will only experience true happiness by living more fully. This includes accomplishing meaningful goals, loving and being loved, being healthy and enjoying life, and spreading happiness to others.There is one ultimate source of life, but it can manifest itself in many different forms. In order to truly live life to the fullest, we must be open to all of its channels - whether that be through science, religion, psychology, or anything else.

Experience More Life

Put more living in your life! Psycho‑Cybernetics is renowned doctor and professor Maxwell Maltz’s simple, scientific, and revolutionary program for health and success. Happiness and success are habits. So are failure and misery. But negative habits can be changed—and Psycho‑Cybernetics shows you how! This is your personal guide to the amazing power of Psycho‑Cybernetics—a program based on one of the world’s classic self‑help books, a multimillion‑copy bestseller proven effective by readers worldwide. Presenting positive attitude as a means for change, Maltz’s teaching has the ring of common sense. Psycho‑Cybernetics is the original text that defined the mind/body connection—the concept that paved the way for most of today’s personal empowerment programs. Turn crises into creative opportunities, dehypnotize yourself from false beliefs, and celebrate new freedom from fear and guilt. Testimonials and stories are interspersed with advice from Maltz, as well as techniques for relaxation and visualization. Dr. Maxwell Maltz teaches you his techniques of “emotional surgery”—the path to a dynamic new self‑image and self‑esteem and to achieving the success and happiness you deserve!

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Philosophy

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Personal Development

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Motivation & Inspiration

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Mental Health

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Books

Maxwell Maltz was an American cosmetic surgeon and author of Psycho-Cybernetics, which was a system of ideas that he claimed could improve one's self-image leading to a more successful and fulfilling life.

Maxwell Maltz

Psycho-Cybernetics

Discover Your Calling. If you don’t act on life, life has a habit of acting on you. Everyday, be Kind to a stranger. Everyone who enters your life has a lesson to teach and a story to tell. Maintain Your Perspective. When you encounter a difficult situation, ask yourself if there is any wiser, more enlightened way of looking at that seemingly negative situation. Practice Tough Love. The tougher you are on yourself, the easier life will be on you. Keep a Journal. It will help clarify your intentions so that you remain focused on the things that truly count.

Things to learn :

Develop an Honesty Philosophy. Be a person of your word rather than being “all talk and no action” Honor Your Past. Success is measured not so much by the position one has reached in life, but by the obstacles the person overcame while trying to succeed. Start your Day Well. The way you begin your day determines the way you will live your day. Learn to say NO Gracefully. If your priorities don’t get scheduled into your planner, other people’s priorities will get put into your planner. Take a weekly Break. Plan for a weekly period of peace.

Talk to Yourself.Schedule Worry Breaks. Don’t worry while performing some task. Focus on the task at hand.Model a Child. Children come to us more highly evolved than adults to teach us the lessons we need to learn.Remember, Genius is 99% Inspiration.Care for the Temple. In a sound body rests a sound mind. Those who don’t make time for exercise must eventually make time for illness.

Learn to be Silent. Experiencing solitude, for even a few minutes a day, will keep you centered on your highest life priorities.Think about your Ideal Neighbourhood.Get up EarlySee Your Troubles as Blessings. Our character is shaped, not through life’s easiest experiences, but during life’s toughest ones.Laugh More. We don’t laugh because we’re happy. We’re happy because we laugh.

Spend a Day without your WatchTake more Risks. Life is nothing more than a game of numbers—the more risks you take, the more rewards you will receive.Live a life. There really are no problems, just opportunities waiting to be recognized as solutions by the person of wisdom.Learn from a good movie. Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.Bless Your Money. The hand that gives is the hand that gathers.

Focus on the Worthy. The person who tries to do everything ultimately achieves nothing.Write Thank-you NotesAlways carry a Book with youCreate a Love Account. Without the rich heart, wealth is an ugly beggar.Get behind People’s Eyeballs. Try to understand people. It deepens your bond with them.

List Your Problems. A problem well stated is a problem half-solved.Practice the Action Habit. The smallest of actions is always better than the boldest of intentions.See your children as giftsEnjoy the Path, Not just the reward. The real value of setting and achieving goals lies not in the rewards you receive but in the person you become as a result of achieving your goals.Remember that Awareness precedes Change. The first step to eliminating a negative habit is to become aware of it.

Read ‘Tuesdays with Morrie’ by Mitch AlbomMaster your Time. Commit yourself to managing your time more efficientlyKeep your cool. Tough times call for cool people and they are always cool and calm when the pressure is on.Recruit a Board of Directors. An imaginary board of people you idolize to which you go to when you have to make important decisions.Cure your monkey mind. Be in the present. When your mind roams off to somewhere else, bring it back in the present.

Get good at Asking. If you refuse to accept anything but the best; you very often get it.Look for the Higher Meaning of your workBuild a library of Heroic BooksDevelop Your Talents. The tragedy of life is not death, but what we let die inside of us while we live.Connect with nature.Use your commute time.Go on a news fast. Don’t consume any news for a particular amount of time each dayGet Serious about setting goals.Remember the rule of 21. It takes 21 days to develop a new habit. Powerful indeed is the empire of habit.Practice Forgiveness

Drink Fresh fruit juiceCreate a Pure Environment. Our environment is stronger than our will power.Walk in the WoodsGet a CoachTake a mini-vacationBecome a volunteerWatch ‘Six Degrees of Separation’Listen to music daily. Get serious about listening to music that inspires you.Write a legacy statementFind Three great friends

Read ‘The Artist’s Way’Learn to Meditate.Have a living funeral. A living funeral is a celebration for someone who's alive and able to attend the event. It's a celebration of life with the opportunity to say final goodbyes, offering everyone a chance to leave nothing unsaid and to find a sense of closureStop complaining and start living. Make wiser choices about the thoughts you will allow to enter your mindIncrease Your Value. To get more from life, you need to be more in life

Be a Better ParentBe Unorthodox. To live a richer, more rewarding life, it is essential that you run your own race.Carry a goal card. The great and glorious masterpiece of men is to live to the point.Be more than your moods. You are the creator of the moods you experience.Savor the simple stuff. Have the wisdom to savor the simple things

Stop Condemning. Take your life into your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing : No one to BlameSee your day as your lifeCreate a Mastermind AllianceCreate a Daily Code of ConductImagine a richer RealityBecome the CEO of your life. Who cares what others think when you7 know that what you are doing is the right thing to do.

Be Humble. The more you are as a person, the less you need to prove yourself to others.Don’t finish every book you start. If you find that after reading the first 3 chapters of a book, you have not gained any worthwhile knowledge, or that the book has failed to keep your attention, do yourself a favor : Put the book away and make better use of your time.Don’t be TOO hard on yourself. Be gentle to yourself and see life for what it is : A journey of self-discovery, personal growth, and lifelong learningMake a vow of Silence. Try to be silent for 30-60 minutes each day.

Don’t pick up the phone every time it rings.Remember that Recreation must involve Re-Creation. Effective recreation must involve some pursuit that soothes your soul.Choose Worthy OpponentsSleep Less. Strive for less time in bed but a richer, deeper sleep.Have a Family Mealtime

Become an Imposter. Act like that which you most wish to becomeTake a public speaking course. Be good at Public Speaking and have great Communication skills.Stop thinking tiny thoughts. Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think.Don’t worry about things you cannot change.Start taking walks.

Rewrite your life story. No matter what has happened to you in the past, your future is spotless.Plant a TreeFind your place of PeaceTake More PicturesBe an AdventurerDecompress before you go homeRespect your instinctsCollect Quotes that Inspire youLove your WorkServe SelflesslyLive Fully so You can die Happily

101 things to learn from 'Who will cry when you die' by Robin Sharma

“When you were born, you cried while the world rejoiced. Live your life in such a way that when you die, the world cries while you rejoice.”— Ancient Sanskrit saying Does the gem of wisdom quoted above strike a chord deep within you? Do you feel that life is slipping by so fast that you just might never get the chance to live with the meaning, happiness and joy you know you deserve? If so, then this very special book by leadership guru Robin S. Sharma, the author whose Monk Who Sold His Ferrari series has transformed the lives of thousands, will be the guiding light that leads you to a brilliant new way of living. In this easy-to-read yet wisdom-rich manual, Robin S. Sharma offers 101 simple solutions to life’s most complex problems, ranging from a little-known method for beating stress and worry to a powerful way to enjoy the journey while you create a legacy that lasts. Other lessons include “Honor Your Past,” “Start Your Day Well,” “See Troubles as Blessings” and “Discover Your Calling.” If you are finally ready to move beyond a life spent chasing success to one of deep significance, this is the ideal book for you.

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Love & Relationships

Robin Sharma is one of the world’s premier thinkers on leadership, personal growth and life management. The bestselling author of The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari, Who Will Cry When You Die? and The Saint, the Surfer, and the CEO and four other books on self-transformation. Robin Sharma is in constant demand internationally as keynote speaker at the conferences of many of the most powerful companies on the planet including Microsoft, Nortel Networks, General Motors, FedEx and IBM. He is a resident of Ontario, Canada. (Barnes and Noble)

Robin S. Sharma

Who Will Cry When You Die?

<ul><li>If you are not in control of your thoughts, then you are not in control of yourself.</li><li>Without self-control, you have no real power, regardless of whatever else you can accomplish.</li><li>If you are not aware of the thoughts that you think in each moment, then you are the rider with no reins, with no power over where you are going. You cannot control what you are not aware of.</li><li>Awareness must come first.</li></ul>

The Learning Begins

The problem with patience and discipline is that developing each of them requires both of them.

A Paradox of life 

We have a very unhealthy habit of making the product — our intended result — the goal, instead of the process of reaching that goal. When we practice something, we are involved in the deliberate repetition of a process with the intention of reaching a specific goal. When you focus your mind on the present moment, on the process of what you are doing right now, you are always where you want to be and where you should be. In order to focus on the present, we must give up, at least temporarily, our attachment to our desired goal. Be Process-oriented, rather than being result-oriented.

Process, Not Product

Most of the anxiety we experience in life comes from our feeling that there is an end point of perfection in everything that we involve ourselves with. We consciously or unconsciously pick a point of reference in whatever we do and decide that nothing will be right until we get to that point. By doing this, you are only working against yourself. True perfection is limitless, unbounded, and always expanding.

It's How you look at it

At any point when you are feeling bored, rushed, or impatient, realise that you have left the present moment in your activity.The next time you feel like not doing anything, tell yourself you will work on staying present-moment and Process-oriented for just the first half hour.Don't try to enjoy it either, because in that effort you are bringing emotions and struggle into your effort.

What we practice will become a habit.When we say something is a habit, it means that it is natural way we do something. We do it intuitively, without having to think about it.Being aware that all your motions, be they physical or mental, are habits and that you have the power to choose which habits you will create is very liberating. You are in control.Habits are learned. Choose them wisely.

Creating the Habits we desire

If you force your mind to stay in the present moment and to stay in the process of what you are doing, many of your problems will melt away.Staying in the present in the process is the first part of the perspective change that creates patience.The second step in creating patience is understanding and accepting that there is no such thing as reaching a point of perfection in anything. There is no goal to reach other than pursuing the activity.

Perception Change Creates Patience

Progress is a natural result of staying focused on the process of doing anything. When you stay on purpose, focused in the present moment, the goal comes toward you with frictionless ease.

The four “S” words are Simplify, Small, Short, and Slow. SimplifyWhen you work at a specific project or activity, simplify it by breaking it down into its component sections. Don't set goals that are too far beyond your reach. SmallFocusing on small sections is easier than focusing on the entire task and gives you repeatable success. ShortFocus only for a short period of time. SlowIncorporating slowness into your process is a paradox. Work at a pace that allows you to pay attention to what you are doing.

The 4 'S' words

Equanimity is defined as even-temperedness and calmness. It comes from the art of non judgment. Non judgment quiets the internal dialogue of our mind. Judgments are necessary for us to function in life, but they have a downside : They are not executed with a detached nature. The more closely you become aligned with the quiet observer, the less you judge.

Equanimity

The ego is subjective. It judges everything, including itself, and it is never content with where it is, what it has, or what it has accomplished.The observer is objective. It does not judge anything as good or bad. It just sees the circumstance or action as “being”. Thus the observer is always experiencing tranquility and equanimity.

Ego vs Observer

None of us learn anything except through our own direct experiencesTeach with your actions.Children have much more to offer because we can learn from them if we listen to ourselves as we teach them.Wisdom is not a by-product of age. Teach and learn from all those around you

Teach and Learn From Children

With deliberate and repeated effort, progress is inevitable.When we make staying focused on the process our real goal, we experience a sense of success in every moment.Houses, cars, jobs come and go; you, however, are eternal.Take time regularly to review all the things that you have acquired in your life.All things of lasting and deep value require time and nurturing and come to us only through our own effort.

Your Skills are Growing

"You've just got to love the process"

A short summary to the no-fluff book  about meta-learning & bringing discipline to your life

In those times when we want to acquire a new skill or face a formidable challenge we hope to overcome, what we need most are patience, focus, and discipline, traits that seem elusive or difficult to maintain. In this enticing and practical book, Thomas Sterner demonstrates how to learn skills for any aspect of life, from golfing to business to parenting, by learning to love the process. Early life is all about trial-and-error practice. If we had given up in the face of failure, repetition, and difficulty, we would never have learned to walk or tie our shoes. So why, as adults, do we often give up on a goal when at first we don't succeed? Modern life's technological speed, habitual multitasking, and promises of instant gratification don't help. But in his study of how we learn (prompted by his pursuit of disciplines such as music and golf), Sterner has found that we have also forgotten the principles of practice -- the process of picking a goal and applying steady effort to reach it. The methods Sterner teaches show that practice done properly isn't drudgery on the way to mastery but a fulfilling process in and of itself, one that builds discipline and clarity. By focusing on "process, not product," you'll learn to live in each moment, where you'll find calmness and equanimity. This book will transform a sense of futility around learning something challenging into an attitude of pleasure and willingness.

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Productivity

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

In those times when we want to acquire a new skill or face a formidable challenge we hope to overcome, what we need most are patience, focus, and discipline, traits that seem elusive or difficult to maintain. In this enticing and practical book, Thomas Sterner demonstrates how to learn skills for any aspect of life, from golfing to business to parenting, by learning to love the process. Early life is all about trial-and-error practice. If we had given up in the face of failure, repetition, and difficulty, we would never have learned to walk or tie our shoes. So why, as adults, do we often give up on a goal when at first we don’t succeed? Modern life’s technological speed, habitual multitasking, and promises of instant gratification don’t help. But in his study of how we learn (prompted by his pursuit of disciplines such as music and golf), Sterner has found that we have also forgotten the principles of practice — the process of picking a goal and applying steady effort to reach it. The methods Sterner teaches show that practice done properly isn’t drudgery on the way to mastery but a fulfilling process in and of itself, one that builds discipline and clarity. By focusing on “process, not product,” you’ll learn to live in each moment, where you’ll find calmness and equanimity. This book will transform a sense of futility around learning something challenging into an attitude of pleasure and willingness.

Thomas M. Sterner is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Thomas M. Sterner has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Thomas M. Sterner's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Thomas M. Sterner

The Practicing Mind

It is better to Live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else’s life with perfection.When you give yourself space & stillness, you can clear the dust and see yourself, not through others’ eyes, but from within.

Identity

It is impossible to build one's happiness on the unhappiness of others.Negativity is everywhere and it's contagious.The less time you fixate on everyone else, the more time you have to focus on yourself.Negativity often rises from fear.

Negativity

SPOT a feeling or issueSTOP to understand what it isSWAP in a new way of processing.

SPOT, STOP, SWAP Strategy

Accept your fear.The cause of fear : AttachmentThe cure of fear : DetachmentFear motivates us. Sometimes it motivates us toward what we want, but sometimes, if we aren’t careful, it limits us with what we think will keep us safe.

Fear

When there is harmony between the mind, heart and resolution then nothing is impossible.Four motivations : Fear, Desire, Duty, and Love.Live your intentions. Do the work.

Intention

When you protect your Dharma, your dharma protects you.Living your dharma is a certain way to fulfillment.Passion + Expertise + Usefulness = DharmaKnowing your purpose and fulfilling it is easier and more fruitful when you use your time and energy wisely every day.

Purpose

Early to rise.Location has energy, time has memory.If you do something at the same time in the same space everyday, it becomes easier and natural.Build routines and train yourself to find focus and achieve deep immersion.

Routine

When the five senses and the mind are stilled, when the reasoning intellect rests in silence, then begins the highest path.Drive the chariot of the mind. Master the senses.Train your brain. In the end, it is your mind that translates the outside world into happiness or misery.

Mind

The ego is a mask. It makes us liars and creates false hierarchies. Ego is an obstacle to growth.The arrogant ego desires respect, whereas the humble worker inspires respect.Detach from your ego.

Appreciate everything, even the ordinary. Especially the ordinary.Keep a gratitude journalKindness and gratitude are symbiotic.Embrace gratitude through daily practice, both internally - in how you look at your life and the world around you - and through action.

Gratitude

Every person is a world to explore.You assume the love you receive will come from the person you gave it to. But it doesn’t always come from that person.Too often we love people who don’t love us, but we fail to return the love of others who do.

Relationships ()

In every relationship you have the opportunity to set the level of joy you expect and the level of pain you’ll accept.Believe in your worth.If you’ve lost yourself in the relationship, find yourself in the heartbreak.

Relationships (2)

The ignorant work for their own profit, the wise work for the welfare of the world.The highest purpose is to live in service.Selflessness heals the self.Monks seek to leave a place cleaner than they found it; people happier than they found it; and the world better than they found it.Extend your radius of care.Serve within your dharmaService is direct path to a meaningful life.

Service

"When we look for the good in others, we start to see the best in ourselves too.”

Helpful takeaways that teaches you how a monk thinks and lives his life in harmony with everything around him.

Jay Shetty, social media superstar and host of the #1 podcast On Purpose, distills the timeless wisdom he learned as a monk into practical steps anyone can take every day to live a less anxious, more meaningful life. When you think like a monk, you’ll understand: -How to overcome negativity -How to stop overthinking -Why comparison kills love -How to use your fear -Why you can’t find happiness by looking for it -How to learn from everyone you meet -Why you are not your thoughts -How to find your purpose -Why kindness is crucial to success -And much more... Shetty grew up in a family where you could become one of three things—a doctor, a lawyer, or a failure. His family was convinced he had chosen option three: instead of attending his college graduation ceremony, he headed to India to become a monk, to meditate every day for four to eight hours, and devote his life to helping others. After three years, one of his teachers told him that he would have more impact on the world if he left the monk’s path to share his experience and wisdom with others. Heavily in debt, and with no recognizable skills on his résumé, he moved back home in north London with his parents. Shetty reconnected with old school friends—many working for some of the world’s largest corporations—who were experiencing tremendous stress, pressure, and unhappiness, and they invited Shetty to coach them on well-being, purpose, and mindfulness. Since then, Shetty has become one of the world’s most popular influencers. In 2017, he was named in the Forbes magazine 30-under-30 for being a game-changer in the world of media. In 2018, he had the #1 video on Facebook with over 360 million views. His social media following totals over 38 million, he has produced over 400 viral videos which have amassed more than 8 billion views, and his podcast, On Purpose, is consistently ranked the world’s #1 Health and Wellness podcast. In this inspiring, empowering book, Shetty draws on his time as a monk to show us how we can clear the roadblocks to our potential and power. Combining ancient wisdom and his own rich experiences in the ashram, Think Like a Monk reveals how to overcome negative thoughts and habits, and access the calm and purpose that lie within all of us. He transforms abstract lessons into advice and exercises we can all apply to reduce stress, improve relationships, and give the gifts we find in ourselves to the world. Shetty proves that everyone can—and should—think like a monk.

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Mindfulness

Jay Shetty is a storyteller, podcaster, and former monk. Shetty’s vision is to Make Wisdom Go Viral. He is on a mission to share the timeless wisdom of the world in an accessible, relevant, and practical way. Shetty has created over 400 viral videos with over 5 billion views, and hosts the #1 Health and Wellness podcast in the world, On Purpose. Learn more at JayShetty.me.

Jay Shetty

Think Like a Monk

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Making money is not a thing you do - it's a skill you learn.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Getting rich is about knowing what to do, who to do it with, and when to do it.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">You’re not going to get rich renting out your time. You must own equity — a piece of business — to gain your financial freedom.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Arm yourself with specific knowledge, accountability, and leverage.</li></ul>

Understand How Wealth is Created

<ul><li>Specific knowledge cannot be taught, but it can be learned.</li><li>Specific knowledge is found much more by pursuing innate talents, your genuine curiosity, and your passion. </li><li>You do need to be deep in something because otherwise you’ll be a mile wide and an inch deep and you won’t get what you want out of your life. </li></ul>

Find and Build Specific Knowledge

“Escape competition through authenticity”

<ul><li>People seem to think you can create wealth—make money through work. It’s probably not going to work.</li><li>Without ownership, when you’re sleeping, you’re not earning. When you’re retired, you’re not earning. When you’re on vacation, you’re not earning. And you can’t earn nonlinearly</li><li>If you don’t own equity in a business, your odds of making money are very slim.</li><li>The real wealth is created by starting your own companies or even by investing. In an investment firm, they’re buying equity. These are the routes to wealth. It doesn’t come through the hours.</li></ul>

Build or Buy Equity in Business

<ul><li>The meaning of life is to do things for their own sake. Ironically, when you do things for their own sake, you create your best work. </li><li>The less you want something, the less you’re thinking about it, the less you’re obsessing over it, the more you’re going to do it in a natural way. </li><li>Knowledge workers function like athletes — train and sprint, then rest and reassess. </li></ul>

Find a Position of Leverage

<ul><li>To get rich without getting lucky, we want to be deterministic. We don’t want to leave it to chance. </li><li>Build your character in a certain way, then your character becomes your destiny. </li><li>Be a maker who makes something interesting people want. Show your craft, practice your craft, and the right people will eventually find you. </li></ul>

How to get Lucky

<ul><li>You have to enjoy it, and keep doing it. Don’t keep track, and don’t keep count because if you do, you will run out of time. </li><li>It takes time — even once you have all of these pieces in place, there is an indeterminate amount of time you have to put in</li></ul>

Be Patient

"In an age of leverage, one correct decision can win everything"

<ul><li>The really smart thinker are clear thinkers. They understand the basics at a very, very fundamental level.</li><li>What you feel tells you nothing about the facts— it merely tells you something about your estimate of the facts. </li><li>It’s actually really important to have empty space. If you don’t have a day or two every week in your calendar where you’re not always in meetings, and you’re not always busy, then you’re not going to be able to think.</li><li>It’s only after you’re bored you have the great ideas. It’s never going to be when you’re stressed, or busy, running around or rushed. Make the time.</li></ul>

How to Think Clearly

<ul><li>Mental models are really just compact ways to recall your own knowledge.</li><li>Reading science, math, and philosophy one hour per day will likely put you at upper echelon of human success.</li><li>What are the most efficient ways to build new mental models? — Read a lot. Just read.</li></ul>

Collect Mental Models

<ul><li>The three big ones in life are wealth, health, and happiness. We pursue them in that order, but their importance is reverse.</li><li>Happiness is really a default state. Happiness is there when you remove the sense of something missing in your life.</li><li>A happy person isn’t someone who’s happy all the time. It’s someone who effortlessly interprets events in such a way that they don’t lose their innate peace.</li><li>Desire is a contract you make with yourself to be unhappy until you get what you want.</li><li> </li></ul>

Learning Happiness

<ul><li>Happiness is being satisfied with what you have. Success comes from dissatisfaction. Choose.</li><li>If you’re peaceful inside and out, that will eventually result in happiness.</li><li>You can get almost anything you want out of life, as long as it’s one thing and you want it far more than anything else.</li><li>Peace is happiness at rest, and happiness is peace in motion. You can convert peace into happiness anytime you want. If you’re a peaceful person, anything you do will be a happy activity</li></ul>

Success Does Not Earn Happiness

<ul><li>In any situation in life, you always have three choices : you can change it, you can accept it, or you can leave it.</li><li>Pick one big desire in your life at any given time to give yourself purpose and motivation.</li><li>Acceptance looks like being okay whatever the outcome is. It’s to be balanced and centered. It’s to step back and to see the grander scheme of things.</li></ul>

Find Happiness in Acceptance

<ul><li>If there’s something you want to do later, do it now. There is no “later”.</li><li>Set up systems, not goals.</li><li>Read everything you can.</li><li>Inspiration is perishable. When you have inspiration, act on it right then and there. </li><li>Sit and close your eyes for at least an hour a day. Make no efforts for something, make no effort against anything.</li><li>Value your time. It’s all you have. As long as you’re doing what you want, it’s not a waste of your time.</li><li>A taste of freedom makes you unemployable. Once you’ve truly controlled your own fate, for better or for worse, you’ll never let anyone else tell you what to do.</li></ul>

Choosing to Grow Yourself

<ul><li>Much of finding great relationships, great coworkers, great lovers, wives, husbands, is finding other people where your value line up.</li><li>If your values line up, the little things don’t matter.</li><li>“To find a worthy mate, be worthy of a worthy mate.”</li></ul>

Live by your Values

Things to know about Wealth and Happiness 

GETTING RICH IS NOT JUST ABOUT LUCK; HAPPINESS IS NOT JUST A TRAIT WE ARE BORN WITH. These aspirations may seem out of reach, but building wealth and being happy are skills we can learn. So what are these skills, and how do we learn them? What are the principles that should guide our efforts? What does progress really look like? Naval Ravikant is an entrepreneur, philosopher, and investor who has captivated the world with his principles for building wealth and creating long-term happiness. The Almanack of Naval Ravikant is a collection of Naval's wisdom and experience from the last ten years, shared as a curation of his most insightful interviews and poignant reflections. This isn't a how-to book, or a step-by-step gimmick. Instead, through Naval's own words, you will learn how to walk your own unique path toward a happier, wealthier life.

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Money & Investments

Getting rich is not just about luck; happiness is not just a trait we are born with. These aspirations may seem out of reach, but building wealth and being happy are skills we can learn. So what are these skills, and how do we learn them? What are the principles that should guide our efforts? What does progress really look like? Naval Ravikant is an entrepreneur, philosopher, and investor who has captivated the world with his principles for building wealth and creating long-term happiness. The Almanack of Naval Ravikant is a collection of Naval's wisdom and experience from the last ten years, shared as a curation of his most insightful interviews and poignant reflections. This isn't a how-to book, or a step-by-step gimmick. Instead, through Naval's own words, you will learn how to walk your own unique path toward a happier, wealthier life.

Eric Jorgenson is an entrepreneur, writer, and investor. He is on the founding team of Zaarly, and has been publishing online since 2014. His blog has educated and entertained over a million readers.Eric is on a quest to create (and eat) the perfect sandwich. He tweets at @ericjorgenson and publishes new pieces and projects on ejorgenson.com/blog

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