Kunjesh 's Key Ideas from Psycho-Cybernetics
by Maxwell Maltz

• A human being always acts and feels and performs in accordance with what he imagines to be true about himself and his environment.
• You must have a clear mental picture of the correct thing before you can do it successfully.
• The aim of self image psychology is not to create a fictitious self that is all-powerful, arrogant, egoistic and all-important. Such an image is as inappropriate and unrealistic as the inferior image of self. Our aim is to find the real self, and to bring our mental images of ourselves more in line with the objects represented by our goals.

• Set aside a period of 30 minutes each day when you can be alone an undisturbed. Relax and make yourself as comfortable as possible. Now close your eyes and exercise your imagination.
• You can go back into your past and find a “successful” memory, an occasion when you did something well.
• The biggest key is to practice every day.

• Within you right now is the power to do things you never dreamed possible. This power becomes available to you just as soon as you can change your beliefs.
• Feelings of inferiority originate not so much from facts or experiences, but our conclusions regarding facts, and out evaluation of experiences.
• Inferiority and superiority are reverse sides of the same coin. The cure lies in realizing that the coin itself is spurious.
• The truth about you is : You are not “inferior” You are not “superior” You are simply “YOU”

• Stop measuring yourself against ‘their’ standards. You are not “them” and can never measure up. Neither can “they” measure up to your—nor should they. Once you see this simple, rather self-evident truth, accept it, and believe it, your inferior feelings will vanish.
• Physical relaxation plays a key role in the dehypnotization process
• Seat yourself comfortably in an easy chair or lie down on your back. Consciously “let go” the various muscle groups as much as possible without making too much of an effort of it. Just consciously pay attention to the various parts of your body and let go a little

• Our errors, mistakes, failures, and sometimes even our humiliations, were necessary steps in the learning process. However, they were meant to be means to an end—and not an end in themselves. When they have served their purpose, they should be forgotten.
• If we consciously dwell on the error, or consciously feel guilty about the error and keep berating ourselves because of it, then the error or failure itself becomes the “goal” that is consciously held in imagination and memory

• Picture yourself what you would like to be and have, and assume for the moment that such things might be possible. Arouse a deep desire for these things. Become enthusiastic about them. Dwell on them—and keep going over them in your mind.
• Remember that your automatic mechanism can as easily function as a Failure Mechanism as it can as a Success Mechanism, based on the data you give it to process. It is basically a goal-striving mechanism. The goal it works on are up to you.
• We must learn to do our work, act on the best assumptions available, and leave results to take care of themselves.

1. Do your worrying before you place your bet, not after the wheel starts turning
2. Form the Habit of consciously responding to the present moment
3. Try to do only one thing at a time
4. Sleep on it. [If you have been wrestling with a problem all day without making any apparent progress, try dismissing it from your mind, and put off making a decision until you’ve had a chance to “sleep on it”]
5. Relax while you work

• Happiness is not the reward of virtue, but virtue itself; nor do we delight in happiness because we restrain our lusts; but on the contrary, because we delight in it, therefore are we able to restrain them
• Happiness comes from being and acting unselfishly—as a natural accompaniment to the being and acting, not as a “payoff” or prize.
• Happiness Does Not Lie in the Future but in the Present.
• Form the habit of reacting aggressively and positively toward threats and problems. Form the habit of being goal-oriented all the time, regardless of what happens.

• A man does not simply find success or come to failure. He carries their seeds around in his personality and character.
• S : Sense of Direction
• U : Understanding
• C : Courage
• C : Compassion
• E : Esteem
• S : Self-Confidence
• S : Self-Acceptance
• Accept yourself as you are—and start from there.
• Learn to emotionally tolerate imperfection in yourself. It is necessary to intellectually recognize our shortcomings, but disastrous to hate ourselves because of them.
• Accept yourself. Be yourself.

• No one is immune to the negative feelings and attitudes. Even the most successful personalities experience them at time. The important thing is to recognize them for what they are, and take positive action to correct course.
• Understanding Brings Cure
• F : Frustration
• A : Aggressiveness
• I : Insecurity
• L : Loneliness
• U : Uncertainty
• R : Resentment
• E : Emptiness

Many people who have emotional scars have not suffered physical injuries. However, the impact on their personality is the same. These individuals have been hurt or injured by someone in the past. To protect themselves from future harm, they form a spiritual callus or emotional scar to shield their ego.The person who feels "lonely" or out of touch with others also feels disconnected from their true self & life.

• Emotional scars on our egos also have another detrimental effect. They lead to the build a damaged self-image, which is disliked/rejected by others, and struggles to coexist in society.

1. Be too Big to feel threatened
2. A self-reliant, responsible attitude makes you less vulnerable
3. Relax away Emotional Hurts

• Give Yourself a Spiritual Face-Lift
• You can forgive, if you’re willing.
• We find it difficult to forgive only because we like our sense of condemnation. We get a perverse and morbid enjoyment out of nursing our wounds. As long as we can condemn another, we can feel superior to him.
• Forgive Yourself as well as Others.
• You made mistakes. Mistakes do not make “you”

• What we call “personality” is the outward evidence of that unique and individual creative self, or what might be called the free and full expression of your real self.
• “Poor personality” or “inhibited personality” are one and the same. The inhibited personality has imposed a restraint on the expression of the real self.
• Negative feedback always says in effect, “Stop what you’re doing, or the way you’re doing it—and do something else.” Its purpose is to modify response, or change the degree of forward action—not to stop all action.
• Excessive Carefulness leads to inhibition and Anxiety.

• The way to make a good impression on other people is : Never consciously “try” to make a good impression on them. Never act, or fail to act, purely for consciously contrived effect. never “wonder” consciously what the other person is thinking of you, how he is judging you.
• The attitude of being immune to strangers or strange situation, this total disregard for all the unknown or unexpected has a name. It is called poise. Poise is the deliberate shunting aside of all fears arising from new and uncontrollable circumstances
• Balance and harmony are what is needed.

A “crisis” is a situation that can either make you or break you. If you react properly to the situation, a “crisis” can give you strength, power, wisdom you do not ordinarily possess.

1. Practice Without Pressure
2. Crisis Brings Power
3. What is the worst that can possibly happen?

 When great demands are made upon us, if only we fearlessly accept the challenge and confidently expend our strength, every danger or difficulty brings its own strength—’As thy days so shall thy strength be’

• The possibility of the goal must be seen so clearly that it becomes “real” to your brain and nervous system.
• If we keep our positive goal in mind, and picture it to ourselves so vividly as to make it “real”, and think of it in terms of an accomplished fact, we will also experience winning feelings : self-confidence, courage, and faith that the outcome will be desirable
• When you feel successful and self-confident, you will act successfully. When the feeling is strong, you can literally do no wrong.

• If you can recapture “that winning feeling”, you also evoke all the “winning actions” that accompanied it.
• Build Success Patterns into Your Gray Matter
• Go back in memory and relive those successful experiences. In your imagination revive the entire picture in as much detail as you can. In your mind’s eye “see” not only the main event, but all the little incidental things that accompanied your success.
• Our present thinking, mental habits, attitudes toward past experiences, and toward the future—all have an influence upon old recorded engrams.

• Activity Means Life
• Look forward and Live
• Life itself is adaptive; that life is not just an end in itself, but a means to an end. Life is one of the “means” we are privileged to use, in various ways, to achieve important goals.
• Create a Need for More Life
• We age, not by years, but by events and our emotional reactions to them.
• Faith, courage, interest, optimism, looking forward bring us new life and more life. Futility, pessimism, frustration, or living in the past are not only characteristic of “old age”, they also contribute to it.
• Retire from a Job, but Never Retire from Life

Whatever your definition of happiness may be, you will only experience true happiness by living more fully. This includes accomplishing meaningful goals, loving and being loved, being healthy and enjoying life, and spreading happiness to others.

There is one ultimate source of life, but it can manifest itself in many different forms. In order to truly live life to the fullest, we must be open to all of its channels - whether that be through science, religion, psychology, or anything else.