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Include relevant details only

When writing a review, although everyone likes a good story, it's important to only layout your experience with relevant information that other people might base their opinions upon. Such as the date when you went, when you placed an order, when did it arrive, etcetera.

Whether you're writing a complaint or a compliment, readers would like to know the service time, how the staff is towards the customers. 

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How to Write Genuinely Useful Reviews Online


Emotional Reactivity

This is the behavior that makes it difficult to stay positive around negative people. It's where we tend to overreact negatively to normal situations due to stress, exhaustion, or an emotional disorder.

Just as how we offend other people because we feel offended and both sides of the dynamic think that they're merely reacting to the other. It happens in any relationship, familial or social.

How Emotional Reactivity Causes Conflict


Know your message

When you speak off-script, you may worry that you will go off on a tangent.

But getting straight to the point and sticking with it comes down to knowing your message. When you are sure of your message, you can change your words without ever losing the thread.

How To Get Straight To The Point No Matter What You’re Trying To Say


The broader view of gossip

All humans partake in gossip in some form. Everyone talks about other people. One study found that male participants spent 55% of conversation time and female participants 67% conversation time on socially relevant topics.

People like to think of gossip as the same as malicious rumours, but researchers define gossip as talking about people who aren't present.

The Science Behind Why People Gossip


What it takes to write a book

The hardest part of a writer's job is sitting down to do the work. Writing happens in three phases.

  1. Beginning: You have to decide what you're going to write and how you're going to write it.
  2. Staying motivated: You will face self-doubt and overwhelm. Planning ahead will ensure you won't quit when the obstacles come.
  3. Finishing: Nobody cares if you almost wrote a book. They want to read what you actually finished.

Ridiculously Simple Steps for Writing a Book


Awkward conversations with strangers

In a situation where people are gathered together, it always involves people trying to talk to each other. In these moments, we often fall short and can't think of anything to say, or worse; we fumble through with the aim of not crashing.

However, we can soar in conversations and learn to turn small talk into big ideas.

How to turn small talk into smart conversation


Conversation Killers

Words are like keys that can make or break a conversation. Some words look absolutely okay to us, but can kill a conversation if they sound mechanical or are overused.

Words like Awesome, Right On, Fantastic, Fabulous, if overused, sound fluffy and mechanical, with no warmth or feeling behind them.

Conversation Killers and How to Avoid Them | HuffPost


Turn Small Talk Into Intriguing Talk
  • Twist a “light topic” with a serious tone: use what you already know to ask more personal questions or go deeper into topics.
  • Play it straight: admit that you don’t like to chit-chat, and have a few discussion topics or questions ready to toss out.
  • Issue an invitation: when you are in public and have something secretive to discuss, say you’d like to talk later. 
  • Compliment: do so preferably on an area you wanted to discuss with them, then ask a question that starts the dialogue. Sincere compliments make the conversation deeper.
  • Be Vulnerable: speak your mind and end with a question. Others will often reciprocate about what they think or feel. 

How to Engage in Meaningful Conversation and Get Past the Small Talk


Why We Judge Others

There are many ways we choose to measure the value of our own lives, be it money or popularity of family or good deeds.

The way you measure yourself is how you measure others, and how you assume others measure you.

If you measure your life by how much you’ve traveled, then you will measure other people by the same standard. 

How We Judge Others is How We Judge Ourselves


Storytelling and reading

Reading to your children is an indispensable tool. Storytelling goes hand-in-hand with reading to help children develop language and story comprehension.

Research shows that children understand and retain more of a story they were told than having the same story read to them. Gestures and eye contact add drama, suspense, and intrigue.

How to Tell a Great Bedtime Story



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