We often instinctually shrink away from work that needs to be done. We try to evade it, postpone it and try to justify it to ourselves and promptly forget about it.

Subconscious Cowardice 

This behavior of avoiding accumulates and hardens into a kind of mental groove. It becomes second nature for us to look for a way out instead of dealing with the situation. This habit becomes so automatic that we don't even realise or notice it happening.

Behaviour Accumulation 

Ever wondered why you procrastinated on that particular task or why did you behave the way you did when faced with something difficult? 

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Productivity

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Personal Development

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Habits

Why do we abscond? 

On a most basic level, a "problem" can be defined as something that makes us uncomfortable. A situation, event or activity that we perceive as difficult.

What Is A Problem? 

Who you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for.

It all boils down to ﻿which ﻿problems you are willing to solve. There can be no fruitful, meaningful life without a worthwhile problem to solve

Pick Your Problems 

The trick is to understanding how much you can handle at any given moment. Pressure yourself too much and you will burn out and take it too easy and you won't make any progress.

Comfort Zone 

Whenever confronted with a problem or a difficulty we generally have two ways to approach it, two options. It is always a conscious choice on our part as to which option we decide to go with. Let us consider these two options as 'Option A' and 'Option B'

How We Deal With Problems 

This is the option that the majority chooses by default. In this approach we choose to perceive a problem as an obstruction. It generally leads to frustration and even feelings of despair and helplessness at times.

Option A

Option B

It is easy to be bothered and frustrated by the problems one encounters on a daily basis. But these problems are the key to a better living because the problems that we choose to solve define us.

#1 New York Times Bestseller Over 1 million copies sold In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

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Problem Solving

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Books

#1 New York Times BestsellerOver 10 million copies soldIn this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Mark Manson (born 1984) is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries. He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net

Mark Manson

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

"How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time." If you've ever ran more than a few miles, you probably understand why you need to pace yourself. Runners that sprint at the start of a race will be exhausted far before they cross the finish line. The same principle applies when trying to get work done. One solution for pacing my work that I've found incredibly effective is maintaining weekly/daily to-do lists.

One step at a time.

"How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time." If you've ever ran more than a few miles, you probably understand why you need to pace yourself. Runners that sprint at the start of a race will be exhausted far before they cross the finish line.

Why do we abscond?

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

How to Finish Your Work, One Bite at a Time | Scott H Young

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