It is common for everyone to make mistakes, and when someone does something wrong, it is not productive to criticize them directly. Criticizing can make them feel inferior and defensive, leading to justification of their actions. Instead, it is better to show forgiveness and, if necessary, address the mistake indirectly rather than directly.

Try not to criticise

Sigmund Freud, a renowned psychologist who explored the human psyche and subconsciousness, posited that all human actions can be traced back to two fundamental motivations: the sex drive and the desire to be great.For some individuals, the need for validation is so strong that a simple compliment can be enough to forge a new friendship.

The Desire to be Great

It's important to recognize that a person's name is a significant part of their identity and hearing it can make them feel better. So Remembering someone's name can make them feel valued and appreciated.Make an effort to remember the names of people you meet and use their name when addressing them. This demonstrates that you care about them and can help create a deeper connection. By doing so, you are not only acknowledging their name, but also acknowledging their importance as an individual.

The hidden Power of Names

If you want enemies, excel your friends. But if you want friends, let your friends excel you.

It's important to remember that the person you're speaking with is fascinating in their own unique way, and it's up to you to discover why.When you express genuine interest in someone, you make them feel valued and appreciated. Everyone wants to feel important and appreciated, and we tend to gravitate towards people who make us feel this way. Therefore, the best way to capture someone's attention is to show a genuine interest in them.By taking the time to listen, ask questions and engage with the person you're speaking with, you create a deeper connection and show that you truly care.

Show your Interest

You can make more friends in a month by being genuinely interested in other people, than in a year by trying to make other people interested in you.

One crucial principle to keep in mind when conversing with others is to never interrupt them, even if you disagree with what they're saying.In conversation, we may want to persuade others to see our perspective, and interrupting them is a common tactic to make our point. However, interrupting sends the message that we don't value their input.It's essential to actively listen and try to understand the other person's viewpoint. By doing so, we demonstrate that we value their thoughts and feelings.

Never interrupt. Listen carefully.

Smiling may seem like a simple gesture, but its impact is enormous. When you smile, you communicate to others that you are happy to see them. People are drawn to those who exude positivity and warmth.If you're not in the mood to smile, make an effort to do so anyway. While actions often stem from emotions, it's also possible for emotions to stem from actions. Putting on a happy face can lead to happy feelings. Give it a try and see how it affects your mood and interactions with others.

Smile

When something upsets us, it can be difficult to control our anger. However, it's important to remain calm and patient with others, especially during stressful situations.Losing your temper does not demonstrate strength or assertiveness. In fact, it often has the opposite effect. Remember to remain calm, even when it's challenging. By staying composed, we can approach problems with a clearer mind and find more effective solutions for everyone involved.

Keep calm and patient

Engaging in arguments often leads to a no-win situation. Even if you win the argument, you still lose, and the other person is likely to hold onto their opinion.Instead of arguing, it's better to focus on finding common ground. Avoid the points of disagreement and identify the areas where you share the same view. This shift in focus towards the positive aspects of the discussion will lead to a more peaceful and harmonious exchange of ideas. By doing so, you can foster a more constructive conversation and avoid unnecessary tension or conflict.

Avoid arguments as much as you can

A man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still.

If you made a mistake, speak openly and directly about it. This is not bad in any way. It shows humanity and strength to face one's mistakes. You also feel better about yourself when you can criticize yourself for it.Always show that mistakes are easy to correct. Because in most cases they are.

Talk about your mistakes

It's not the world, it will not make you socially invincible or everybody's friend. Yes, it may change how you approach social situations with others or help you overcome your social insecurities. That's okay - it helped me too. See it as a guide to be a pleasant person - to give you some insight about what people generally like and what they may not like. Far more important than learning with this book is, to reflect on it, and then actually applying what you like. Also note, that getting friends may be straightforward but forstering and maintaining the relationships is not to be neglected.

A note from this article's author: Don't get lost in this book

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How To win Friends and Influence People about overcoming challenges in everyday social life and becoming a more pleasant human being for new friendships to arise.

You can go after the job you want—and get it! You can take the job you have—and improve it! You can take any situation—and make it work for you! Dale Carnegie’s rock-solid, time-tested advice has carried countless people up the ladder of success in their business and personal lives. One of the most groundbreaking and timeless bestsellers of all time, How to Win Friends & Influence People will teach you: -Six ways to make people like you -Twelve ways to win people to your way of thinking -Nine ways to change people without arousing resentment And much more! Achieve your maximum potential—a must-read for the twenty-first century with more than 15 million copies sold!

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Updated for today’s readers, Dale Carnegie’s timeless bestseller How to Win Friends and Influence People is a classic that has improved and transformed the professional and personal and lives of millions. One of the best-known motivational guides in history, Dale Carnegie’s groundbreaking book has sold tens of millions of copies, been translated into almost every known language, and has helped countless people succeed. Originally published during the depths of the Great Depression—and equally valuable during booming economies or hard times—Carnegie’s rock-solid, time-tested advice has carried countless people up the ladder of success in their professional and personal lives. How to Win Friends and Influence People teaches you: -How to communicate effectively -How to make people like you -How to increase your ability to get things done -How to get others to see your side -How to become a more effective leader -How to successfully navigate almost any social situation -And so much more! Achieve your maximum potential with this updated version of a classic—a must-read for the 21st century.

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Instead of trying to improve everything in your life in one day, try becoming 1% better every day. 1% better every single day results in 37x improvement over a year.

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Your character and personality is formed by every single action you take during the day. To improve your habits means that you in fact improve your character.Your entire identity is the result of all your habits together.

Habits form your character

Every habit consists of four parts:<ol><li>The cue (what triggers your desire to do something)</li><li>The craving (the desire for an action)</li><li>The response (the action)</li><li>The reward (the satisfaction you get from doing it)</li></ol>

The Habit Loop

To successfully build a good habit you need to use the four laws of habit building:<ol><li>Make it obvious (Don't give your head time to reconsider. Make it obvious for yourself that the action is the right thing to do)</li><li>Make it attractive (Make ot clear for yourself why you want to do it. Understanding makes it far more attractive)</li><li>Make it easy (Just make it as easy as you can. Break your habit down in little and easy parts)</li><li>Make it satisfying (Give yourself a reward when you've done it)</li></ol>

The four laws of building a habit

Not sure what habits to change? Use a Habit Scoreboard.Simply note down every action you take during the day. At the end of the day look through all your habits and assess whether you want to keep them in your life or of you want to do something else instead.

Habit Scoreboard

According to the four laws of habit building you can do the exact opposite to break a bad habit. This results in the four laws of breaking a habit:<ol><li>Make it invisible</li><li>Make it unattractive</li><li>Make it difficult</li><li>Make it less rewarding</li></ol>

The four laws of breaking a habit

An implication-intention is a phrase that determines exactly what you want to do.F or example: "I am going brush my teeth in the bathroom after taking a shower."This helps you to make it clear to yourself what exactly you want to do.

Implication-Intention

Habit stacking means that you take a habit you already have (like eating breakfast) and stack another habit on top of it. This may look like:"I am going to read one chapter of my new book after eating breakfast"

Habit Stacking

If something seems hard and unappealing to do, try setting a timer for two minutes and just do it for two minutes.If you still don't want to do it after two minutes, stop. If you want to continue, go on!That helps to to get started with your tasks and also to make a habit out of it.

Two Minute Rule

Sometimes you simply can not do yout habit. Maybe you're sick or just not have time on that day. If so, never miss twice.

Never Miss Twice

If a behavior is appreciated by the prople around us, it feels better and much easier to adopt.

We don't want other people to think that we failed. This technique works very well if you have friends who can check your progress.Tell a friend that you want to build a habit. That friend then asks you

Use an Accountability Partner

Goldlock's Rule says that a habit should not be too easy, because otherwise you get bored, and not too hard, because then you get frustrated.The trick is to hit the middle. This center is called Goldlock's Zone.

Goldlock's Rule

Your progress is not linear. But people often expect it to be. If you expect progress that comes instantly, you will be disappointed.But if you manage to stay motivated and get 1% better every day, you will be much better someday than you had expected before. Keep going!

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Atomic Habits teaches the fundamental techniques of building habits and becoming a better person every day

The #1 New York Times bestseller. Over 4 million copies sold! Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving--every day. James Clear, one of the world's leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results. If you're having trouble changing your habits, the problem isn't you. The problem is your system. Bad habits repeat themselves again and again not because you don't want to change, but because you have the wrong system for change. You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems. Here, you'll get a proven system that can take you to new heights. Clear is known for his ability to distill complex topics into simple behaviors that can be easily applied to daily life and work. Here, he draws on the most proven ideas from biology, psychology, and neuroscience to create an easy-to-understand guide for making good habits inevitable and bad habits impossible. Along the way, readers will be inspired and entertained with true stories from Olympic gold medalists, award-winning artists, business leaders, life-saving physicians, and star comedians who have used the science of small habits to master their craft and vault to the top of their field. Learn how to: • make time for new habits (even when life gets crazy); • overcome a lack of motivation and willpower; • design your environment to make success easier; • get back on track when you fall off course; ...and much more. Atomic Habits will reshape the way you think about progress and success, and give you the tools and strategies you need to transform your habits--whether you are a team looking to win a championship, an organization hoping to redefine an industry, or simply an individual who wishes to quit smoking, lose weight, reduce stress, or achieve any other goal.

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The #1 New York Times bestseller. Over 10 million copies sold! Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving--every day. James Clear, one of the world's leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results. If you're having trouble changing your habits, the problem isn't you. The problem is your system. Bad habits repeat themselves again and again not because you don't want to change, but because you have the wrong system for change. You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems. Here, you'll get a proven system that can take you to new heights. Clear is known for his ability to distill complex topics into simple behaviors that can be easily applied to daily life and work. Here, he draws on the most proven ideas from biology, psychology, and neuroscience to create an easy-to-understand guide for making good habits inevitable and bad habits impossible. Along the way, readers will be inspired and entertained with true stories from Olympic gold medalists, award-winning artists, business leaders, life-saving physicians, and star comedians who have used the science of small habits to master their craft and vault to the top of their field. Learn how to: <ul><li>make time for new habits (even when life gets crazy);</li></ul><ul><li>overcome a lack of motivation and willpower;</li></ul><ul><li>design your environment to make success easier;</li></ul><ul><li>get back on track when you fall off course;</li></ul>...and much more. Atomic Habits will reshape the way you think about progress and success, and give you the tools and strategies you need to transform your habits--whether you are a team looking to win a championship, an organization hoping to redefine an industry, or simply an individual who wishes to quit smoking, lose weight, reduce stress, or achieve any other goal.

James Clear is the author of "Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones" He writes about habits, decision-making, and continuous improvement at jamesclear.com. His website receives millions of visitors each month and hundreds of thousands subscribe to his popular email newsletter.His work has appeared in the New York Times, Entrepreneur, Time, and on CBS This Morning. He is a regular speaker at Fortune 500 companies and his work is used by teams in the NFL, NBA, and MLB. Learn more at jamesclear.com

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