Questions to consider before you skip, delay or have that difficult conversation with someoneWhat is my “hidden hope” for this conversation?What can I realistically hope to achieve?What’s my contribution to the situation?Do I tend to look for problems with this person or about this issue?Is it already starting to resolve itself?Have I done a “H.A.L.T.” check—Am I hungry, angry, lonely, or tired?How long ago did it arise? Is it a repeat or recurring problem?How material is the issue to your relationship or to the job?Do you just want to be right?Do I have concrete examples and solutions?

Are You Chickening Out Or Making A Strategic Decision

Conduct more productive conversations. As a working parent, you lead meetings, advocate for your children, and make presentations that win clients—all with ease. But when your personal life spills into your professional life—whether it's negotiating a schedule change with your boss or talking to your spouse about responsibilities at home—it can be a challenge to communicate effectively and reach agreement. Communicate Better with Everyone provides the expert advice, sample language, and practical solutions you need to help you have more productive conversations with everyone, from your manager to yourself. You'll learn to: Discuss your career and family commitments with your boss Set boundaries—and stick to them Create a safe environment for open, honest conversations Decide whether—and what—to disclose when facing a personal crisis Talk back to your inner critic The HBR Working Parents Series with Daisy Dowling, Series Editor, supports readers as you anticipate challenges, learn how to advocate for yourself more effectively, juggle your impossible schedule, and find fulfillment at home and at work. Whether you're up with a newborn or planning the future with your teen, you'll find the practical tips, strategies, and research you need to make working parenthood work for you.

communication

Communication

books

Books

Conduct more productive conversations. As a working parent, you lead meetings, advocate for your children, and make presentations that win clients--all with ease. But when your personal life spills into your professional life--whether it's negotiating a schedule change with your boss or talking to your spouse about responsibilities at home--it can be a challenge to communicate effectively and reach agreement. Communicate Better with Everyone provides the expert advice, sample language, and practical solutions you need to help you have more productive conversations with everyone, from your manager to yourself. You'll learn to: <ul> <li>Discuss your career and family commitments with your boss</li> <li>Set boundaries--and stick to them</li> <li>Create a safe environment for open, honest conversations</li> <li>Decide whether--and what--to disclose when facing a personal crisis</li> <li>Talk back to your inner critic</li> </ul> The HBR Working Parents Series with Daisy Dowling, Series Editor, supports readers as you anticipate challenges, learn how to advocate for yourself more effectively, juggle your impossible schedule, and find fulfillment at home and at work. Whether you're up with a newborn or planning the future with your teen, you'll find the practical tips, strategies, and research you need to make working parenthood work for you.

Joseph Grenny

Harvard Business Review Harvard Business Review

Daisy Dowling

Amy Gallo

Alice Boyes

Communicate Better with Everyone (HBR Working Parents Series)

Why do people who consider themselves good communicators often fail to actually hear each other?To someone who prefers to vent, someone who prefers to explain seems patronizing; explainers experience those who vent as volatile.This is why so many of us see our conversational counter parts as lecturing, belaboring, talking down to us, or even shaming us (if we vent and they explain) or as invasive, out of control, and overly emotional (if we explain and they vent).

Why Do Good Communicators Fail To Hear Each Other

Talk to your toddler, your teen, your caregiver, your boss, your partner, your partner, yourself There are days in every working parent's life when it feels like you're screaming into the wind. The days when you have to ask your childless boss if you can leave work early—again—for a kid issue. The days your kid tearfully asks why you have to get on an airplane for work when you just got home. The days you simmer with resentment because you can't find the right words to have a productive conversation with your partner about the division of labor at home. The days you tell yourself you're failing everyone—including yourself. Each of us has days where we struggle to communicate effectively at home and at work. But we can have fewer days like that and more productive conversations. We can listen and be heard. In Communicate Better with Everyone, experts provide answers to the challenges you face as a working parent, from negotiating your schedule and workload with your boss to connecting with your teen without nagging or lecturing to talking to yourself with more compassion. You'll learn to: Conduct more productive conversations Set boundaries and stick to them Ask better questions See issues from the other person's perspective Navigate difficult issues The HBR Working Parents Series supports readers as they anticipate challenges, learn how to advocate for themselves more effectively, juggle their impossible schedules, and find fulfillment at home and at work. From classic issues such as work-life balance and making time for yourself to thorny challenges such as managing an urgent family crisis and the impact of parenting on your career, this series features the practical tips, strategies, and research you need to be—and feel—more effective at home and at work. Whether you're up with a newborn or touring universities with your teen, we've got what you need to make working parenthood work for you.

personaldevelopment

Personal Development

leadershipandmanagement

Leadership & Management

We can “work through” our anger, fears, and frustrations by talking about them a lot is a common myth. In fact, actively and repeatedly broadcasting negative emotions hinders our natural adaptation processes.That’s not to say you ignore your troubles. Instead, call out your anxiety or your anger at the outset of a disorienting change so that you are aware of how it might distort your thinking or disrupt your relationships. Then look for practical advice about what to do next. You’ll zero in on the problems that you can solve, instead of lamenting the ones&nbsp;you can’t.

Handling Change: Talk About Problems More Than Feelings

productivity

Productivity

problemsolving

Problem Solving

How to Get Better at Dealing with Change

To function successfully in our complex world it is necessary for us to possess the capacity not only to express our anger but also not to express it.We must possess the capacity to express our anger in different ways.At times, for instance, it is necessary to express it only after much deliberation and self-evaluation.At other times it is more to our benefit to express it immediately and spontaneously.Sometimes it is best to express it coldly and calmly; at other times loudly and hotly.

Expressing Anger

Confronting and solving problems is a painful process which most of us attempt to avoid. Avoiding resolution results in greater pain and an inability to grow both mentally and spiritually. Drawing heavily on his own professional experience, Dr M. Scott Peck, a psychiatrist, suggests ways in which facing our difficulties - and suffering through the changes - can enable us to reach a higher level of self-understanding. He discusses the nature of loving relationships: how to distinguish dependency from love; how to become one's own person and how to be a more sensitive parent. This is a book that can show you how to embrace reality and yet achieve serenity and a richer existence. Hugely influential, it has now sold over ten million copies - and has changed many people's lives round the globe. It may change yours.

Understand yourself and those around you.

psychology

Psychology

mentalhealth

Mental Health

"Confronting and solving problems is a painful process which most of us attempt to avoid. Avoiding resolution results in greater pain and an inability to grow both mentally and spiritually. Drawing heavily on his own professional experience, Dr M. Scott Peck, a psychiatrist, suggests ways in which facing our difficulties - and suffering through the changes - can enable us to reach a higher level of self-understanding. He discusses the nature of loving relationships- how to distinguish dependency from love; how to become one's own person and how to be a more sensitive parent. This is a book that can show you how to embrace reality and yet achieve serenity and a richer existence. Hugely influential, it has now sold over ten million copies - and has changed many people's lives round the globe. It may change yours."

Communicate Better with Everyone (HBR Working Parents Series)

Communicate Better with Everyone (HBR Working Parents Series)

How to Get Better at Dealing with Change

The Road Less Travelled

nijil chandran