Wherever you are, and whenever it is, now is always the right time to begin your Happiness Project.

The Happiness Project By Gretchen Rubin

Be Gretchen.Let it go.Act the way I want to feel.Do it now.Be polite and be fair.Enjoy the process.Spend out.Identify the problem.Lighten up.Do what ought to be done.No calculation.There is only love.

Twelve Commandments of Happiness

According to Gretchen Rubin she found out that her commandments help her most when she review them at least daily, to keep them fresh in her mind, and to do this, it helps to keep the list short and snappy. She suspects that Twelve Commandments is too much. Maybe She only need two, “Be Gretchen” and “There is only love.”

Aim high and fight the urge to be too comprehensive.

First Splendid Truth: To be happy, you need to consider feeling good, feeling bad, and feeling right, in an atmosphere of growth.

#1 Happiness Project

Second Splendid Truth: One of the best ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy; One of the best ways to make other people happy is to be happy yourself.

#2 Happiness Project

Third Splendid Truth: The days are long, but the years are short.

#3 Happiness Project

Fourth Splendid Truth: You’re not happy unless you think you’re happy.Your Body Matters.

#4 Happiness Project

Your Body Matters.It sounds obvious, but it’s easy to overlook! Get enough sleep, exercise regularly, get some sunshine, go to a doctor if you need to.

#5 Happiness Project

Happiness is Other People.Philosophers and scientists agree: a KEY to happiness is strong relationships with other people. Building strong bonds should be one of your top priorities in life.

#6 Happiness Project

Outer Order Contributes to Inner Calm.For most people, making an effort to keep surroundings in decent order really pays off in happiness.

#7 Happiness Project

Want What You Have.Happiness comes not from having more, not from having less, but from wanting what you have.

#8 Happiness Project

Know Yourself.You can choose what you do, but you can’t choose what you like to do.To make a happy life, you need to know yourself and acknowledge your own nature. For some people, this is a real challenge.

#9 Happiness Project

The Duty of Happiness.“There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” –Robert Louis Stevenson.

#10 Happiness Project

“This book made me happy in the first five pages.” —AJ Jacobs, author of The Year of Living Biblically: One Man's Humble Quest to Follow the Bible as Literally as Possible Award-winning author Gretchen Rubin is back with a bang, with The Happiness Project. The author of the bestselling 40 Ways to Look at Winston Churchill has produced a work that is “a cross between the Dalai Lama’s The Art of Happiness and Elizabeth Gilbert’s Eat, Pray, Love.” (Sonya Lyubomirsky, author of The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want) In the vein of Julie and Julia, The Happiness Project describes one person’s year-long attempt to discover what leads to true contentment. Drawing at once on cutting-edge science, classical philosophy, and real-world applicability, Rubin has written an engaging, eminently relatable chronicle of transformation.

The happiness project

The Happiness Project (Revised Edition)

If you think that your past determines your present, you end up with determinism; your future has already been decided by your past. In "Adlerian psychology", we don’t think about past causes, but rather about present goals. Your past doesn’t determine your present, but rather it is the meaning that you attribute to your past. You are unable to change only because you are making the decision not to. You probably think it’s easier to leave things as they are. If you stay like this, you can respond to events as they occur, and you can guess the results. Courage is the solution.

You can change any time. You just choose not to.

Accept yourself now, and regardless of the outcome, have the courage to step forward.

You fabricate emotions.

We determine our own lives according to the meaning we give to past experiences. We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences. We instead make out of them whatever suits our purposes.

You use trauma as an excuse.

Feelings of inferiority are subjective interpretations rather than objective facts. You can see being shorter than average as inferior, or as superior for not being intimidating and getting other people to relax. There is one good thing about subjectivity: It allows you to make your own choice. View anything as an advantage or disadvantage. We cannot alter objective facts, but we can alter interpretations as much as you like.

You use feelings of inferiority as an excuse.

Adlerian psychology is a psychology of changing oneself, not a psychology for changing others. Instead of waiting for others to change, you take the first step forward yourself.

Adlerian psychology

<h3>The pursuit of superiority is the mindset of taking a single step forward on you own feet. Not the mindset of competition to aim to be greater than other people. A healthy feeling of inferiority doesn’t come from comparing oneself to others; but from one’s comparison with their ideal self.</h3>

Life is not a competition.

Wishing so hard to be recognized will lead to a life of following expectations held by other people who want you to be “this kind of person.” You throw away who you really are and live other people’s lives. Therefore, you should deny your desire for recognition. You’re not living to satisfy other people’s expectations, and other people aren’t living to satisfy your expectations.

Deny the desire for recognition.

We need to think with the perspective of “whose task is this?” and separate our own tasks from other people’s tasks. This is called separation of tasks. You should not worry about or intrude on other people’s tasks. There may be a person who doesn’t think well of you, but that’s not your task. All you can do with regard to your own life is to choose the best path that you believe in. How do people judge that? That’s the task of other people, and it’s not a matter you can do anything about.

Discard other people’s tasks.

Many people think that relationship cards are held by the other person. That’s why they wonder "How does that person feel about me?" And end up living in a way that satisfies the wishes of other people. If you’re tied to the desire for recognition, all the cards will stay in the hands of other people. If you can grasp the separation of tasks, you will notice that you hold all the cards.

You hold the cards of your interpersonal relationships.

When you praise, you’re unconsciously creating a hierarchical relationship and seeing the other person as beneath you. As if you’re passing a judgment from one person of ability to another person of no ability. You can convey words of gratitude instead. Saying thank you to this partner who has helped you with your work. “This was a big help”. If recieving praise is what you’re after, you’ll have no choice but to adapt to that person’s yardstick and put your breaks on your own freedom. “Thank you,” on the other hand, is a clear expression of gratitude.

Build horizontal relationships: Don’t condemn or praise.

The goal of interpersonal relationships is a feeling of community. This sense of others as comrades. To get that feeling, you should make the switch from self-interest to concern for others. You can get a feeling of community by making an active commitment to the community. Take steps forward and don’t avoid the tasks of work, friendship and love relationships. Don’t think in terms of "What will this person give me?" But rather, "What can I give to this person?"

Self-centered people always end up losing their comrades.

Don’t limit yourself to one community. If you think of schools as everything to you, you’ll end up without a sense of belonging to anything. There is a larger world that extends far beyond any community. And everyone of us is a member of that world. Living in fear of one’s relationships falling apart is an unfree way to live. Do not cling to the small community right in front of you. There will be always more and larger communities that exist.

You are part of something HUGE

The goal is accept yourself 60 percent, and think "How should I go about getting closer to 100 percent?" You cannot change what you’re born with, but what you do with this equipment is your own power. Focus on what you can change.

Self acceptance

When you switch from attachment to self to concern for others, Confidence in others becomes absolutely essential. If you don’t have objective grounds for trusting someone, you should believe without concerning yourself with things such as security. Unconditional confidence is the foundation of any deep relationship.

Confidence in others

The most easily understood contribution to others is work. It is through labor that one makes contribution to others and commit to one’s community. One can feel “I am of use to someone,” and come to accept one’s existential worth. This helps in self-acceptance again, and you can see that it is a circular loop

Contribution to others

You should think of life a series of dots. A series of moments called “now.” We live only in the here and now. Live life as if you are dancing. Some people ended up in entirely different places. But none of these lives came to an end “en route” . It is enough if you find fulfillment in the here and now one is dancing. Dancing itself is the goal, you shouldn’t be concerned with arriving somewhere by doing it. You can arrive somewhere as a result of dancing, but there is no particular destination. The goal of mountain-climbing is the climbing itself, not getting at the top.

Don't think of life as a Line. Life is a series of dots.

Life is a series of moments, and neither the past nor the future exists. Live in the here and now. Don’t concern yourself with the past or the future.

Live in the here and now.

Whether they are trying to be especially good or especially bad, the goal is the same: to attract the attention of other people. Get out the “normal” condition and become a “special being.” Why is it necessary to be special? Probably because one cannot accept one’s normal self.

The courage to be normal.

“Marie Kondo, but for your brain.” —HelloGiggles “Compelling from front to back. Highly recommend.” —Marc Andreessen Reading this book could change your life. The Courage to Be Disliked, already an enormous bestseller in Asia with more than 3.5 million copies sold, demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Is happiness something you choose for yourself? The Courage to Be Disliked presents a simple and straightforward answer. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of nineteenth-century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, this book follows an illuminating dialogue between a philosopher and a young man. Over the course of five conversations, the philosopher helps his student to understand how each of us is able to determine the direction of our own life, free from the shackles of past traumas and the expectations of others. Rich in wisdom, The Courage to Be Disliked will guide you through the concepts of self-forgiveness, self-care, and mind decluttering. It is a deeply liberating way of thinking, allowing you to develop the courage to change and ignore the limitations that you might be placing on yourself. This plainspoken and profoundly moving book unlocks the power within you to find lasting happiness and be the person you truly want to be. Millions have already benefited from its teachings, now you can too.

The courage to be disliked

The Courage to Be Disliked

Here are 21 lessons I learned from "Who Moved My Cheese?": 1. Make things simple and take more actions rather than analyzing past situations 2. Try new things and take a risk 3. Always be at the top of your game and be ready for change 4. Never settle, always have options 5. There is no security in life

- Pjay Shrestha

6. You choose your own happiness 7. Never loose yourself to others, always be you 8. Just cause you had it yesterday, doesn't mean you have it today 9. Yesterday's win is today's ego streak 10. Always be present to what's happening in your environment

11. The world does not owe you anything 12. Explore new places and environments to find the gems of life 13. You will die all alone if you don't take risk 14. Life is super easy when you are flexible and open 15. Visualise living the best life ever

16. Not taking actions towards your goal is the killer of life  17. Ask yourself "What would I do if I was not afraid?"  18. Always be taking actions towards your goals regardless of how you feel  19. When you stop being afraid, you being to feel good  20. The quicker you let good of the old gems of life, the sooner you will find the new gems of life 21. It's safer to go after what you want then to loose hope and be stuck with a shitty situation

THE #1 INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER WITH OVER 28 MILLION COPIES IN PRINT! A timeless business classic, Who Moved My Cheese? uses a simple parable to reveal profound truths about dealing with change so that you can enjoy less stress and more success in your work and in your life. It would be all so easy if you had a map to the Maze. If the same old routines worked. If they'd just stop moving "The Cheese." But things keep changing... Most people are fearful of change, both personal and professional, because they don't have any control over how or when it happens to them. Since change happens either to the individual or by the individual, Dr. Spencer Johnson, the coauthor of the multimillion bestseller The One Minute Manager, uses a deceptively simple story to show that when it comes to living in a rapidly changing world, what matters most is your attitude. Exploring a simple way to take the fear and anxiety out of managing the future, Who Moved My Cheese? can help you discover how to anticipate, acknowledge, and accept change in order to have a positive impact on your job, your relationships, and every aspect of your life.

Who moved my cheese?

Who Moved My Cheese?

Most people are living in an illusion based on someone else’s beliefs. 1) Our subconscious mind contains the blueprint for our lives. It’s running the show based on theunfiltered information it gathered when we were kids, otherwise known as our “beliefs.”2) We are, for the most part, completely oblivious to these subconscious beliefs that run our lives.3) When our conscious minds finally develop and show up for work, no matter how big and smartand highfalutin they grow to be, they’re still being controlled by the beliefs we’re carrying around inour subconscious minds.

MY SUBCONSCIOUS MADE ME DO IT

All of us are connected to this limitless power and most of us aren’t using but a fraction of it. The Universe will match whatever vibration you put out. And you can’tfool The Universe. In order to truly raise your vibration, you’ve got to believe that everything you want is available to you. And the best way to keep this belief strong is by staying connected to Source Energy.

1. APPRECIATE HOW SPECIAL YOU ARE
2. DROWN YOURSELF IN AFFIRMATIONS
3. DO THINGS YOU LOVE4. FIND A REPLACEMENT
5. DITCH THE SELF-DEPRECATING HUMOR6. LET THE LOVE IN7. DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS8. FORGIVE YOURSELF (LISTEN UP! THIS ONE’S
EXTREMELY IMPORTANT.)9. LOVE YOURSELF

WIN YOURSELF OVER AGAIN

DO NOT WASTE YOUR PRECIOUS TIME GIVING ONE SINGLE CRAP ABOUT WHAT ANYBODY
 ELSE THINKS OF YOU. You are responsible for what you say and do. You are not responsible
 for whether or not people freak out about it. What other people think about you has nothing to do with you and
 everything to do with them. All that matters is what’s true for you, and if you can stay connected to
 that without straying, you will be a mighty superhero.

You are 100% Responsible for yourself

Packed with humor, inspiration, and advice, You Are a Badass is the #1 New York Times bestselling self-help book that teaches you how to get better without getting busted. In this refreshingly entertaining how-to guide, bestselling author and world-traveling success coach, Jen Sincero, serves up twenty-seven bite-sized chapters full of hilariously inspiring stories, sage advice, easy exercises, and the occasional swear word, helping you to: Identify and change the self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviors that stop you from getting what you want, Create a life you totally love. And create it NOW, and Make some damn money already. The kind you've never made before. By the end of You Are a Badass, you'll understand why you are how you are, how to love what you can't change, how to change what you don't love, and how to use The Force to kick some serious ass.

Bite-sized knowledge
to upgrade
your career

Ooo Kkk
@okiedokieok

The Happiness Project (Revised Edition)

The Courage to Be Disliked

Who Moved My Cheese?

You Are a Badass®

Bite-sized knowledgeto upgradeyour career

Ooo Kkk@okiedokieok

The Happiness Project (Revised Edition)

The Courage to Be Disliked

Who Moved My Cheese?

You Are a Badass®

Bite-sized knowledge
to upgrade
your career

Ooo Kkk
@okiedokieok