Love isn't something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn't a feeling, it is a practice.

Erich Fr

Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.

...in spite of the deep-seated craving for love, almost everything else is considered to be more important than love: success, prestige, money, power-almost all our energy is used for the learning of how to achieve these aims, and almost none to learn the art of loving. Could it be that only those things are considered worthy of being learned with which one can earn money or prestige, and that love, which "only" profits the soul, but is profitless in the modern sense, is a luxury we have no right to spend energy on?

Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence.

The landmark bestseller that changed the way we think about love: “Every line is packed with common sense, compassion, and realism” (Fortune). The Art of Loving is a rich and detailed guide to love—an achievement reached through maturity, practice, concentration, and courage. In the decades since the book’s release, its words and lessons continue to resonate. Erich Fromm, a celebrated psychoanalyst and social psychologist, clearly and sincerely encourages the development of our capacity for and understanding of love in all of its facets. He discusses the familiar yet misunderstood romantic love, the all-encompassing brotherly love, spiritual love, and many more. A challenge to traditional Western notions of love, The Art of Loving is a modern classic about taking care of ourselves through relationships with others by the New York Times–bestselling author of To Have or To Be? and Escape from Freedom. This ebook features an illustrated biography of Erich Fromm including rare images and never-before-seen documents from the author’s estate.

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Philosophy

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Love & Relationships

The landmark bestseller that changed the way we think about love: “Every line is packed with common sense, compassion, and realism” (Fortune).  The Art of Loving is a rich and detailed guide to love—an achievement reached through maturity, practice, concentration, and courage. In the decades since the book’s release, its words and lessons continue to resonate. Erich Fromm, a celebrated psychoanalyst and social psychologist, clearly and sincerely encourages the development of our capacity for and understanding of love in all of its facets. He discusses the familiar yet misunderstood romantic love, the all-encompassing brotherly love, spiritual love, and many more. A challenge to traditional Western notions of love, The Art of Loving is a modern classic about taking care of ourselves through relationships with others by the New York Times–bestselling author of To Have or To Be? and Escape from Freedom.  This ebook features an illustrated biography of Erich Fromm including rare images and never-before-seen documents from the author’s estate.

Erich Fromm, Ph.D. (Sociology, University of Heidelberg, 1922), was a psychoanalyst and social philosopher who explored the interaction between psychology and society, and held various professorships in psychology in the U.S. and Mexico in the mid-20th century.Fromm's theory is a rather unique blend of Freud and Marx. Freud, of course, emphasized the unconscious, biological drives, repression, and so on. In other words, Freud postulated that our characters were determined by biology. Marx, on the other hand, saw people as determined by their society, and most especially by their economic systems.

Erich Fromm

The Art of Loving

When presented with a new perspective or new information, resist the urge to dismiss it and try to listen carefully then examine it considering the evidence you have.

Think Like A Scientist

Instead of being convinced like a Preacher, that you are right and wanting to prove the other wrong like a Prosecutor, while trying to win approval like a Politician, look for reasons why you could be wrong and not just right.

Replace 3 P's thinking approach with S. 

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Why do I feel so strongly about what I believe?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Do I know all the facts?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">How might my emotions be influencing what I believe?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Might I be remembering something wrong?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Do I believe something because I want it to be true?</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Putting my personal feelings aside, what can I learn from this alternative perspective?</li></ul>

First Step To Rethinking

By reminding ourselves that "Sometimes I'm wrong" and it's normal.

How To Manage Our Hurt Ego If We Hate To Be Wrong?

<ol><li>Improves your listening skills.</li><li>Better interpersonal bonding with others when they feel listened to and not dismissed.</li><li>Emotional Regulation: You learn to emotionally regulate and be more rational.</li><li>Acceptance and learning from others: When an emotionally regulated and rational person you are open to accept others viewpoint.</li><li>Growth mindset: When you are open to accept other view points you learn more.</li><li>When you learn more you know more and that helps you in being right more often.</li></ol>

Benefits Of Rethinking Like A Scientist

Rethinking not only improves our rational ability as an individual but also helps our society progress by developing scientific temper.

How can you keep an open mind, manage your emotions, and learn more? Enter the rule of rethinking. 

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Mental Health

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Communication

How Emotionally Intelligent People Use the ‘Rule of Rethinking’ to Think Like Scientists

Understand yourself and those around you.

The Art of Loving

How Emotionally Intelligent People Use the ‘Rule of Rethinking’ to Think Like Scientists

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