self-esteem is a realistic respect for or a favorable impression of oneself," It is the experience of being competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and of being worthy of happiness." self-esteem is made up of two components: Self-efficacy - confidence in one's ability to think, learn, choose, and make appropriate decisions; and Self-respect - confidence in one's right to be happy and in the belief that achievement, success, friendship, respect, love, and fulfillment are appropriate to us.

WHAT SELF-ESTEEM IS

FriendsLife experiences,words we hear,Books we read,People we admire,TV shows and movies,Stories we hear,Expectations,People we spend time withgoals,Education,Unfair comparism ,Negative self-talks.

How  Negative Esteem Is Formed 

Negative/low self-esteem; makes you feel worthless. Indicators includes;Loneliness,Being the odd one out,Being really critical about myself,Focusing on the negative and ignoring any achievements,Comparing yourself with others,Social withdrawnalConstantly anxious when with othersEasily overcome with despair and depressionPoor communication,fear rejections and also fearful of conflicts with othersAre susceptible to all kinds of fear,Pessimistic,Lack of motivation,InsecureHunger for approval from othersInsecureLives life according to rules of ‘should’, ‘should not’, ‘have to’, ‘ought to’

Negative Esteem

Dissatisfaction of personal appearance Emotionally stocked and many others.A gossip monger at certain points in their lives.,Have high egos, arrogant and believe they know it all Close minded and self-centered Constantly making excuses and justifying failures Never accepted responsibilities and blamed others.Jealous by nature. Causes of negative esteem; Negative self-talks,EnvironmentChild abuseTraumaExcessive criticismPoor self-imageParents negligencePoor financial situationBetrayal.

Characteristics Of Poor Esteem

Stomach achesEating too muchHeadaches and migraines, Starvation

What does poor self-esteem feel like?

Positive/ high self-esteem is indicated by the reverse of low self-esteem some indicators include;OptimisticSelf-acceptanceSelf-CareSelf-DirectionSelf-Respect,Self Confidence(resulting from; personal and non-personal experiences, social comparism , social persuasion, and emotional arousal )Self-DisciplineSelf-Aspiration,Self-consciousness,Self-awarenessSelf-acceptanceSelf-motivation Self-persistence Self-worth,

Positive Esteem

They do not worry about how others will judge them.They have the courage to express themselvesTheir lives are enriched with each new encountersThey are fun to be withThey take challenges and easily handle criticismsThey consider themselves as valuableThey accept corrections Boosting low self-esteemForgive your past mistakes,Follow the examples of successful people,Be a self-talker,Discover and practice your talent,Focus on your positive attributes.

Effects and importance of high self–esteem 

1. Engage in Positive Self-TalkWhat to tell yourself:-I can; when you are too scared,-stop; when you are thinking negatively-wonderful; when you’ve done a great job.2.Care for yourselfWhat to do:Keep your body healthyDevelop a new hobby or skillFind ways to relax3. Stop comparing yourself to others,Otherwise, you simply waste your precious time, and it is a waste of who your are. You gain nothing but you lose a lot. You are taking the road to resentment.

Quick tips to raise your Self-Esteem

4. Let go of Negative ExperiencesLearn to forgive yourself and others,Get through of your negative experiences,Seek professional help if needed.5. Get inspired.Read self-help and feel-good books,Join support groupsSurround yourself with positive people.6. Stop worrying too much.Can the problem be solved?If yes, take actions right away,If no, accept the feelings and keep calm.

I Am...P- PerfectE- ElegantL- LovableA- AmbitiousG- GratefulI - IntelligentE- EnergeticM- ModestO- OriginalN- NaturalD- DeterminedO- OptimisticA- AdmirableI am unique. I am the best version of myself. I am my model.

I am PELAGIE MONDOA

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The practice of living consciouslyThe practice of self-acceptanceThe practice of self-responsibilityThe practice of self-assertivenessThe practice of living purposefullyThe practice of personal integrity

Pillars Of Self-esteem 

A life lived of choice is a life of conscious action. A life lived of chance is a life of unconscious creation.– Neale Donald Walsch Living consciously is about taking control of your life, about thinking about your decisions rather than making them without thought, about having a life that we want rather than settling for the one that befalls us. If you’re drifting through life, or feel out of control, or don’t know how you got here … deciding to live consciously could be the single most important thing you do.

The practice of living consciously

1.Make reflecting on your life a regular routine. Whether you keep a journal, or make reflecting on your day part of your evening routine, or have a weekly session where you review your life or take some time away from the office to reflect on everything … it’s important that you give things some thought. Regularly.2. At least once a year, set or review your life’s goals.What do you want to do in life? What is important to you? What do you want your life to be like? And how will you get there? Write it down, and keep it somewhere you will see it often, and take action.

Keys To Living A Conscious Life

3. Also review your relationships.The people we love are among the most important things in our lives, if not the only important things. You need to think about your relationships. Do you spend enough time with them? Do you show your appreciation for them? Is there a way you can improve your relationship? Do you need to forgive or apologize about anything? Are there barriers that can be removed? Communication that can be improved? Also review your relationships with others, such as co-workers.

4. Review how you spend your time. Until we do a time audit, and keep a log of our day, even if it’s just for one or two days, we don’t really know how we spend our time. And if we do audit our time, it can be very surprising. And if we know how we’re spending our time now, we can make conscious decisions to change how we spend our time in the future. For computer-based time tracking, try Rescue Time.5. Explore yourself. Not in a dirty way. Take some time to think about what kind of person you are. What your values are. Whether you live your life according to those values.

A lack of self-acceptance can hold you back in every area of your life. It affects your confidence and can prevent you from reaching your full potential. People with high self-acceptance are more resilient to criticism. They understand that it’s okay to accept themselves while also working for continuous self-improvement. But what is self-acceptance, really? And why are some people more self-accepting than others? How can it help you, and what can you do to cultivate more of it? Let’s find out.

The practice of self-acceptance 

What is self-acceptance?Self-acceptance is the act of accepting yourself and all your personality traits exactly as they are. You accept them no matter whether they are positive or negative. This includes your physical and mental attributes. Self-acceptance means recognizing that your value goes beyond your personal attributes and actions. This is sometimes known as radical self-acceptance. Self-acceptance gives you more confidence in yourself and makes you less vulnerable to criticism. It means to deeply and totally accept every aspect of yourself unconditionally and without exception.

Self-acceptance doesn’t just mean accepting our negative qualities and giving up on changing them. On the contrary, it means being aware of our weaknesses without having any emotional attachment to them. This self-awareness can help us improve our behavior and build better habits. How does self-acceptance affect your day-to-day life? 1. Self-acceptance helps you control your emotions 2. Self-acceptance helps you forgive yourself 3﻿. Self-acceptance gives you more self-confidence 4. Self-acceptance leads to self-compassion 5. Self-acceptance helps you be yourself.

I am responsible for my choices and actions,” Branden writes. “To be ‘responsible’ in this context means responsible not as the recipient of moral blame or guilt, but responsible as the chief causal agent in my life and behavior.” We’re responsible when we’re able to respond to life’s challenges as healthy, autonomous human beings — not as victims, blaming this or that for our challenges, but as individuals who own our abilities to manifest our desires as we engage in life.

The practice of self-responsibility

What Is the practice of self-Responsibility & why is it important? It is a simple as it sounds, it means owning your reality, it means not pushing down your real emotions and thoughts circling in the back of your head. Because that’s what we do, we avoid what really needs our attention because that means we can avoid doing something about it.

To practice self-assertiveness is to live authentically, to speak and act from my innermost convictions and feelings — as a way of life, as a rule,” Branden notes.The essence of this pillar is to be real. To drive this point home, remember the idea that “authentic” and “author” come from the same root. To be authentic is literally to be the author of your own story. Are you?

The practice of self-assertivenes

“To live purposefully is, among other things, to live productively, which is a necessity of making ourselves competent to life. Productivity is the act of supporting our existence by translating ‘our thoughts into reality, of setting our goals and working for their achievement, of bringing knowledge, goods, or services into existence.” “Nor is it the kind of work selected that is important, provided the work is not intrinsically antilife, but whether a person seeks work that offers an outlet for his or her intelligence, if the opportunity to do so exists.”

The practice of living purposefully  

A purposeful life equires that we cultivate within ourselves a capacity for self-discipline. Self-discipline is the ability to organize our behavior over time in the service of specific tasks. No one can feel competent to cope with the challenges of life who is without the capacity for self-discipline (the ability to defer immediate gratification in the service of a remote goal). This is the ability to project consequences into the future-to think, plan, and live long-range. Neither an individual nor a business can function effectively, let alone flourish, in the absence of this practice.”

1. Taking responsibility for formulating one’s goals and purposes consciously. 2. “Being concerned to identify the actions necessary to achieve ones Goals”3.“Monitoring behavior to check that it is in alignment with one’s goals”4. “Paying attention to the outcomes of one’s actions, to know whether they are leading where one wants to go.” “The root of our self-esteem is not our achievements but those internally generated practices that, among other things, make it possible for us to achieve.”

What is Integrity?Integrity is the integration of ideals, convictions, standards, beliefs and behavior. When our behavior is congruent with our professed values, when ideals and practice match, we have integrit At the simplest level, personal integrity entails such questions as: Am I honest, reliable, and trustworthy? Do I keep my promises? Do I do the things I say I admire and do I avoid the things I say I deplore? Am I fair and just in my dealings with other Integrity means congruence. Words and behavior match. ” (1995, Branden.

The practice of personal integrity

Observe that before the issue of integrity can even be raised we need principles of behavior—moral convictions about what is and is not appropriate—judgments about right and wrong action. If we do not yet hold standards, we are on too low a developmental rung even to be accused of hypocrisy. In such a case, our problems are too severe to be described merely as lack of integrity.” “The practice of personal integrity. It’s the sixth and final pillar of self-esteem. Without it, the preceding practices “disintegrate.”

They help me grow physically  mentally and emotionally 

Life

Self-esteem ~ A social, physical, physiological and a personal Necessity.What is self-esteem?- it is confidence and satisfaction in oneself and ones ability, an individual subjective evaluation of one's worth.Self-esteem encompasses beliefs , be it positive ( I am worthy, I am a beautiful...) Or negative ( I am not good enough) and emotions such as despair,pride,shame...Self-esteem is accumulated thoughts, personality,intellect...

Self-esteem 

How I feel about my self determines my daily performance.Ask yourself the following questions1.) Am I able to discuss my good points,skill, ability, achievements and success to others?2) Am I content with who I am,how I act and what I do in life?3) Am I bothered by feelings of insecurity or anxiety when I meet people?4) Am I aware of the roles I play in my family?5) Do I have hard times nurturing myself?6) Have I ever turned down a party or function because of the way I feel about myself?7) Am I supportive of others but berate myself?8) Do I react to disappointment by blaming others?continued.

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Basic necessities of life

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